Life Uncut

Content warning: This episode discusses domestic abuse, coercive control and violence. If this raises any issues for you, contact:

• Lifeline 13 11 14 
• Lifeline support chat service: lifeline.org.au
• 1800 RESPECT or 1800 737 732

Today we are discussing a very difficult topic but something so important. We have Jess Hill with us today. Jess is an award winning investigative journalist who has really put the difficult conversations regarding domestic violence and coercive control into the forefront of Australian media.

Her book “see what you made me do” and SBS program of the same name introduced us to attempting to understand how and why domestic violence is such a problem in Australia. She has also recently started a podcast on this topic called “The Trap.”

DV and conversations around coercive control is something close to our hearts. Some of you will remember the beautiful Bianca who joined us a few months ago on the pod, and told the tragic story of her sister Katie losing her life at the hands of her partner. Bianca’s story was first shared on Jess Hill’s SBS program and that is how we came to know Bianca.

Having Jess with us today brings that story full circle and hopefully we shed some more light on a situation that is far too prevalent.

We talk:

• Domestic violence and coercive control
• Early signs
• Love bombing and perspecticide
• Why it is not always so easy to "just leave"
• Behaviours like location tracking
• Groups and people at risk
• How it affects families including children
• Problems with the system
• Where both the victim and perpetrator can get help

You can listen to "The trap" here 

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Another week of the Kinky Captain gracing our screens and we’ve been delivered a smörgåsbord board of (albeit less horny) goodness. Ep 7 kicks off with Jimmy gushing over his motorbike and the girls pretending like they’re interested in it. Lily is invited to take a ride to a secluded beach where Jimmy’s grandma had three heart attacks (we’re not kidding). It’s also the perfect spot to learn how to surf and make out.

Meanwhile back at the mansion, Jimmy’s sister and cousin are joining the girls for dinner. But instead of dessert, they’ve brought an honesty box. Holly ends up getting thrown under the honest box bus as she’s accused of being two faced and fake. DRAMAAAAAAA!

Ep 8 kicks off with Carlie receiving her first single dates at one of Sydney’s most romantic venues - Western Sydney Uni. They avoid any games of beer-pong and zipline into each other's mouths… oh, and there’s also a champagne tower and a fluorescent hula hooper because, Bachelor! Sticking with the educational theme, the group date was at an old high school where the girls enjoyed a debating competition, poison ball and a prom night, which was actually a rose ceremony in disguise (Osher you evil bastard). 

So this is the episode of Bach that never ends because now we have our beloved Laura on an Italian themed date and we’re sorry to say it was a total disaster. Like pineapple on a pizza type disaster! They cooked pasta, it turned out awful. She leant it for a kiss, it was as successful as the pasta. Just when you thought it was game over for Laura, Jimmy convinces her to stay (we’re still trying to figure this one out). The group date was speed dating with 5 of the girl’s mums. Sadly, none of the mothers received roses or a kiss and they were all sent home. There was also a two second game of tennis with Jay at the Bach mansion where she addressed rumours that she didn’t want to have kids (she confirmed she wants all the babies).

Shout out to all the women who left the mansion this week, but special mention must go to the one and only Sierah... WE STAN !

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It's Therapy Thursday and in today’s session we are answering your deep, dark and burning questions:

My boyfriend broke up with me because I told (please keep up) his ex’s partner that she was trying to cheat on him. Who’s in the wrong here?

How much should be shared with your partner? When we say “please keep this to yourself,” is their partner an exception?

Is it normal to fantasise and close my eyes while I’m having sex with my partner?

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Some of us are more willing to admit it than others, but isn’t it just so therapeutic to chuck on some trash reality TV at the end of a busy, hectic day? Whether you like keeping up with the Kardashians, or following the drama filled shit show that is married at first sight, I think we can all admit that there’s something about escaping into a different world to our own that we find intriguing. But what exactly is it that makes us want to be a fly on the wall in other people’s lives? 

Why are we so obsessed with serial killer docu-dramas and podcasts? 

Are we sick to be utterly engaged in a “who did it and how?” episode about some pretty messed up things?

Psychologist and criminology expert Sandy Rea joined Laura and Britt on the podcast to tell us exactly what the heck is going on in our brains and why we are so into reality TV and true crime!

She shares her wealth of knowledge from working as a psychologist in maximum security prisons in Australia, to her time spent working as a psychologist on reality TV platforms!

Speaking of true crime, the girls have some recommendations for you this week and they’re all about “Dr Death.” Laura recommended the new series on Stan titled Dr Death, and Britt recommends the podcast! 

You can find Sandy Rea here: https://www.sandyrea.com/

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Hold onto your undies Lifers, it's ep 5 and 6 and by goodnesses gracious me, they were doozies.

Matt and Laura are back squabbling like a married couple behind the microphone, bringing you the breakdown on this weeks episodes.

On ep 5 Steph was given the worlds most boring single date. She (once again) suffered amnesia and all of a sudden has a new found love of pilots.

The date ended with an intense game of tonsil hokey...surprise surprise (to absolutely no one).

The group date saw Holly (Nikki Gogan 2.0) take a trip to the hospital, and Matt and Laura both think this was a monumental waste of our essential healthcare workers time.

Fast track to the Rose ceremony and it was like watching a pack wild animals in the zoo, which was easily the most entertaining part.

EP 6 , Jimmy busts out the Big guns for Va-jay-jay, and we wished the production team had better distributed the budget so we didn't have to sit through flight simulation on the last episode. On this ep we have a helicopter, a jet ski and a drag race and I can guarantee you the rest of the season is going to be tea parties in the backyard as there is no money left.

The group date on ep 6 was confusing, fabulous. According to Matt whoever came up with the idea was cooked on mushrooms, and well..... no arguments here.

We said goodbye to another polite, pleasant and lovely woman who has received absolutely no airtime this season.

Looking forward to all the cooked shit Sierah has to say next week.

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It’s our first ask uncut back and we’re jumping in the deep end! We kick off this episode by talking about the strange and dorky habits of your partner after Britt outed Jordan to the world as an NSYNC lover! Then we jump into your deep, dark and dirty questions. Today we were asked about:

-Housemate’s boyfriends that are freeloading

-Ex partner’s mums who don’t seem to get the hint of letting go &

-Monogamish relationships and whether you can ask for one after already agreeing to marriage.

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Happy WEDNESDAY Lifers and girl oh girl do we have the bonus ep for you!

Today we jumping into some conversations about period sex, vulvas and labiaplasty!

We kick things off with Laura & Britt discussing the ins and outs of whether you get down and dirty during ‘that time of the month.’ *Not a spoiler, we’re all about it and science backs us up!

We then chat with the beautiful Ellie from comfortable in my skin about her journey with her vulva. 

We talk:

• Innies & outies
• What's ‘normal’?
• Why labiaplasty is one of the fastest growing surgeries in the world &
• How the one you've got is clit-erally the best!

We really hope you enjoy this ep and feel a sense of gratitude for you best mate ‘downstairs’ after listening to it. We’re really passionate about normalising conversations about things that are important to women; of which periods and pleasure definitely are!

Big thank you to today’s wonderful sponsor Bonds Bloody Comfy Undies. Periods can be really uncomfortable so that’s why we’re glad that Bonds have put the comfy back into your period with their new Bloody Comfy Period Undies. 

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LIFERS, we are BACK BABY!!!

We are coming in hot with a really important and heartfelt episode, diving into Britt’s egg freezing journey and answering all of the questions that you had about the process, the costs, how it felt and what was expected/unexpected. We talk a lot about hormones and how it all works – the female body is a wild and miraculous machine!

Britt initially decided to have her fertility assessed after an interview that we did with Dr Cheryl Phua from Genea Horizon. It was from this chat that Britt became a little more curious about her own fertility; a curiosity that revealed that she only had around a 15% chance of conceiving naturally, largely based on age. This led to her investing in her potential future family by having her eggs frozen. A decision that ended up lifting a large weight off her shoulders.

If you have ever been curious about egg freezing, or possibly thought about looking into the process for yourself, this episode will feel like sitting down with a girlfriend who can tell you exactly what she experienced (spoiler, there were a fair few tears).

We are passionate about taking away the stigma associated with fertility so If you know someone who may benefit from this episode (let’s be real, we feel like all women can) send it their way! We would also like to note that fertility issues and miscarriage are discussed in this episode. 

If you would like to listen to our initial chat about fertility “How do you like your eggs? Frozen or fertilised? TALKING FERTILITY” you can do so here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-do-you-like-your-eggs-frozen-or-fertilised-talking/id1472126503?i=1000498869597

 We hope you get some questions answered in this episode and if you have any more, you can send them through on Instagram @lifeuncutpodcast!

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Laura is back with Matty J to recap week two of the Bachelor! 

Captain Jimmy has now officially been coined the Captain kinky. It turns out Laura and Matt's prediction was right and Jimmy currently has a 100% kissing strike rate.... Is he the horniest Bachelor to date?

This week we saw two delightful single dates with Ash and Holly, a group date that was akin to a kids activity 'make your own superhero' and a group maze date where the winner got to ring Jimmy's meat bell.

Finally the drama has kicked off in the Bach mansion and we have ourselves this seasons villain - Steph, who dropped a few C-bombs and suffered amnesia.

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Hey lifers!

Producer Keeshia here! Britt & Laura are on their final week of 'break' so we are taking a trip down memory lane and for this one, you've got some homework to do. Your homework is to find out your attachment style!

We are talking attachment theory! 

In what fun ways has your upbringing messed you up? Today we get deep and introspective and chat about attachment styles and Attachment Theory. Attachment styles are important. They form how we make bonds with our romantic partners and they are heavily linked to our parents and our upbringing. Some might call it Daddy issues, we call it Attachment Theory!

We unpack our own attachment styles and you can too by taking this test:

More in depth test - https://bit.ly/2CFLHhC

Slightly quicker test - https://bit.ly/3awaIrQ

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