Word of the WEEK - Reflect

Topic of the week - What have we learned so far? David and Dave’s top 5 tools learned in the past 20 shows.

Top five lessons from Dave Wein

Therapy works/becoming self aware

Cookie Jar

Discipline/consistency (slow and steady)

Diet and exercise

Taking breaks/planning fun

David Guggenheim's LIST:

Morning routine

Self-care before caring for others

Planning your day

Be comfortable being uncomfortable

Afferisms

Word of the WEEK - Meditate

Topic of the week - the last of our toxic habit series. Self Sabotage.

This week’s video: Self Sabotage: How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself with

Lavendaire

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rJnikrOgWRM

What is self-sabotage? It is when you hurt yourself or hold yourself back from reaching your full potential or reaching the next level of happiness or success that we desire in life.

Self sabotage is something we might not be aware of, or it could be something we are aware of but we still do it because the pull is too strong. Schmitty comes with some really good arguments and convinces you to veer off the path to success.

Why do we sabotage ourselves?

The foundation of why is the idea of comfort. Humans love comfort. We like to stay in this safe zone that we know, that isn’t unpredictable, it’s cozy and it helps us when we feel anxious, angry, overwhelmed, etc..

So you go back to those old bad habits because they comfort you. But this doesn’t allow you to break through to the next level of happiness and success.

In our lives we are happiness we are comfortable with and if when we reach a higher level of happiness we become uncomfortable and we sabotage ourselves to go back to the level of happiness we are comfortable.

Please share your experiences with self sabotage, did any of these patterns resonate with you or do you have people in your life that constantly sabotage their lives, what are some ways you dealt with it that helped or if you tried any of the tips we shared today. Join us next week when we wrap up the year with our 20th episode. The last of this decade! Where we discuss our top 5 most important things we learned doing this podcast.

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WORD OF THE WEEK: Courtesy

Could we not due with a little more courtesy, online and off. It doesn’t take much effort to acknowledge other people. Some out there are almost invisible to many people, whether they are seniors, disabled, homeless or a variety of other people.

TOPIC OF THE WEEK: We’re talking about food addiction this week. This is not about shaming people. This is about getting the information out the food industry doesn’t want you to know. We’re asking for open minds people and we expect courtesy from ourselves and others.

Food manufacturers do not have your best interests in mind – they just want your money. The effect of some foods created now days is as harmful as illegal drugs or alcohol. And unlike cigarettes, and vaping the government is fine allowing corporations targeting kids with their addictive sugar content.

VIDEO OF THE WEEK: Food Addiction – Dr. Mark Hyman

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=daXkP3bydoQ

Sugar’s addictive properties have been compared to cocaine and heroin. These foods are so hard to give up even if they make us feel horrible afterwards. Food addiction works on our dopamine receptors, forcing our brains to seek out more crap.

This food cycle of addiction is not on accident. The food companies have an army of chemists working in their employ, designing food to make us obese, and make our organs work harder to process the horrible food we’re all eating. We can’t be healthy when our organs are being overworked.

Whole foods are a solution because the cards are stacked against us. We grow up eating this stuff. We see advertising normalizing this type of food. And our peers are enmeshed in this cycle as we see young deaths, and diseases that used to be associated only with old people. We’re dying of what we’re eating here.

The first thing we suggest people do is become self-aware of what you are eating. Then we ask folks to think about the WHY you are eating what you are eating. Is it about getting nutrition into our bodies?

Word of the Week: JOY!

What a great time to reflect on the year, to enjoy the joy, and be grateful for everything we have.

This week’s topic: Toxic Habit Series. We’ll be talking about toxic habits that are holding us back from living it.

We’ve all played the pity-party for ourselves but some out there make it a vocation. While we’ve gotten a lot of great feedback on the show we have encountered some folks who are resistant to getting help and making changes that will improve their lives. Dave W. looked into the condition and this is what we found.

Habits we part 1 - Professional Victim.

What does it mean to be a Professional Victim?

How do you recognize this, if this is you?

• Do you have a victim mentality when it comes to creating the life you want?

• Do you sabotage yourself with victim thinking?

• The victim thinking is usually Schmitty’s last resort to breaking through

• We are going to discuss what the victim mentality and as signs that you are suffering from it.

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The victim mentality and referred to in the Video - Victim Mentality the greatest illusion known to mankind by Doron Geber

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0d2idc_kW6Y&t=446s

• Is when it comes to cause and effect, life is on the cause end and you and your experiences are on the effect end.

• That life throws things at you. Some good, some bad.

• From this you see the world distorted.

• The truth is, everyone has a vibration and that vibration is then responded to by the universe with an experience.

• LIFE IS ON THE CAUSE END, THE EXPERIENCE IS ON THE EFFECT END

• There are things that happen out of our control that we perceive as negative but the experience that comes from that is caused by us.

• The DMV story David gave back in episode 13 is a perfect example of that. He could have played the victim and blamed the DMV for being stupid, blamed the car dealer for not doing their job, etc. and created a very negative bubble around himself that he could easily justify, but that would have made the experience awful all the way round.

Today’s topic: How to combat burnout! How to avoid it, how to deal with it when it’s happening and what to do stop it or prevent it. Burnout is more than just being stressed or overwhelmed. Burnout is a serious issue that can lead to things like depression and even suicide if gone unaddressed.

One of the main issues that allows for burnout to happen is the fact that people don’t talk about burnout. If it’s you or someone you care about is dealing with the issue its important to seek professional help. Recognize the symptoms and take-action.

Video of the week:

Dr. Dike Drummond - Physician Burnout Symptoms and Gender Differences https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2dtMJpMp2o&t=19s

The warning signs: A) Exhaustion, in a downward spiral, B) Cynicism, sarcasm, compassion fatigue, C) Lack of efficacy. Feeling like you’re not making a difference. The work you’re doing is getting you nowhere.

Dave W. went through a lot of these symptoms when going through his divorce. He wasn’t able to give to anyone else because he was so drained. Dave reached out for professional help which helped him turn things around.

While its easy to say “get help” it may be difficult for people living with burnout to get help – so maybe you can reach out and help them.

BONUS VIDEO 1: How to avoid burnout! Let’s be proactive!

Video: Brenden Burchard - How to avoid burnout https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_qKLdVTC8JE&t=218s

a. Get more sleep. It’s not a priority and it needs to be.

b. He says to get 7 to 8 hours a night consistently. It’s been scientifically proven that when you don’t get enough sleep your cognition, mood, energy all suffer. You basically become an a-hole

c. Say no first. We tend to over commit ourselves saying yes to things without thinking about it first.

d. Look at it like a business decision. Be convinced that this is something you should take on.

e. schedule time to do email and texting. Block the time that you deal with texting and emailing instead of being frazzled by your phone all day long. No one needs to hear from you every 5 seconds. Set those boundaries with people so they know you don’t have time to email and text all day. Checking that constantly throughout the day means you’re checking out of whatever task you’re working on.

f. And the last thing he suggests is ask for help. We talked about this before and you and I both struggle with this.

BONUS VIDEO 2: Work Life Balance for Physicians - 4 Secrets to Saying no https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRq1oLNnZNo

Word of the WEEK – Listening

We're preparing for the Holidays people. Whether it be for Thanksgiving, Christmas buffets, or New Years binge eating, we gotta prepare BEFORE we get into the situations we know we're going to get into.

Go in with the attitude that this isn’t a time to just let yourself go. This isn’t a time to rebel against your new habits. You can enjoy the holidays without being a glutinous fool.

We like to use this time of year as an excuse to treat our bodies like crap, feeding it crap, not exercising, getting stressed over gifts and all the other craziness that comes with the holiday season. Don’t tell yourself you’re just going to start back up on January 1st, that’s BS and you know it.

Plan, plan, plan! Plan for as much as you can. Write it all down. Don’t just plan it in your head. Have it all written down in an organized way so you can refer to it quickly.

We've taken you on a journey of planning out into the future, your week, and now we get into how to effectively plan out your day. David G get's a little Schmitty-ish when resisting the daily planner but we learn concrete steps how to take on your day with a plan.

Word of the Week: Forgiveness

Forgiveness actually relives the soul of pent-up pressure. It’s not about the person who wronged you – it’s about you, and your healthy mind, body and soul. It’s about healing and achieving our own potential, people!

Last week we discussed the brain dump and the life assessment and we were promised by David G. that he would implement these strategies into his life and report back how it changed (or didn’t change) his life and if it’s something that is worth doing. We’re happy to report he actually did what he said he was going to do and so far, it’s been a resounding success.

David G’s brain dump was then graded on a 10-point scale (10 being best). What a stress relieving activity to simply write all this stuff down. Dare we say liberating?

But you have to start working on that list and getting things done.

07:24 – The next step is… prioritize the list of ‘brain dumped’ items, and then plan your next step

VIDEO REFERENCED:

Prioritize Like a Genius

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDAYUN92i70&feature=youtu.be

09:08 – Stop prioritizing easy. Start with the hard stuff at the beginning of the day. We talked about quick wins, but don’t make your whole morning or day just doing easy tasks. One quick win to get your blood flowing then do something you’ve put off or gives you anxiety. Get it done first and feel that sense of accomplishment, the weight lifted and feel like you can do anything.

13:58 – Pick three things you need to do that would really move you forward, get you closer to that goal, weighing heavily on your mind. And remember you don’t have to finish the hard tasks today. Just do an hour into a hard project to make progress. Don’t be intimidated by finishing a task – just make progress on it.

18:39 – Stop prioritizing false emergencies. Stop replying to texts or phone calls that don’t need immediate attention. Say no to requests from people. Don’t just commit to something without giving it serious thought. Do you really have time for this? It might be difficult but the best thing you can do for people is live your best self. Except for your family, other people’s problems aren’t your problems.

18:51 – Prioritize freedom. Include down time in your day. Make it a priority to take time out to quiet your mind, step away from whatever you are working on. Take a walk, meditate

19:05 – David G. has an amazing story about the DMV where he embodied what we learned from the “Avoid Meltdowns” Show. Check this bad boy out!

We need to be open to new ideas, new ways of thinking because that’s the way we learn, grow and evolve. And this week we're adding planning into the mix.

Word of the Week: Open Minded

We’ve built a strong foundation but this is the week we start to build on those foundations. Dave W. has been struggling but as we say, we don’t fail, we learn and boy has he been learning. But now that he has assessed his activities over the past few weeks he is able to even more fully embrace the importance of the morning routine as the bedrock to living it effectively.

05:01 – Don’t underestimate the power of music as a part of the morning routine as a method of energizing us and keeping us on that routine.

05:48 – The cold showers were not doing it for Dave W. as a way to energize him in the morning (although he wasn’t aware of the different ways of approaching the cold shower).

08:32 – Dave W. will post both his music playlist and his updated morning routine on the Facebook page for those who are interested in emulating his process

09:41 – This week we’re getting into the nitty-gritty of how to zero in on changing our lives. The next step is planning, organizing our priorities, assessing our behaviors and creating our goals and doing it with consistency, precision and discipline – that’s what makes successful people.

11:17 – We’re focusing on a couple videos this week. Details and links below…

Burchard - Power of Monthly Goals (How to Schedule Your Year)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CH-QcxDsrhM&feature=youtu.be

Mel Robbins: How to Plan Your Week (Mel Robbins 2017)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaY7ifBgjyc&feature=youtu.be

14:09 – David G. gives a ton of excuses why he doesn’t want to plan out his day – all of which makes him think he should begin planning his days as Dave W. is suggesting.

16:37 – What you’re struggling with indicates what you need to change. And creating habits around those rough areas is key to creating new outcomes.

19:21 – If you plan ahead, then you don’t need to think about what you need to do next because you’ve already done that mental work. This allows you to stick to the plan and prevent little Schmiddy

23:07 – We discuss how far in advance we should be planning our activities

25:35 – With long-term planning under our belt we now turn to planning our week. Mel Robbins suggests having a family meeting on Sundays or Monday mornings and going through the week – to make sure everybody is on the same page.

28:33 – We should also be doing a ‘brain dump’ to clear our mind and help us prioritize the important things for us to be spending our time on.

30:29 – Doing all this planning in the morning can seem like a ‘waste of time’ for those who want to jump into it and get things done. That’s wrongheaded thinking though, planning keeps us on track with doing the important things and not just the easy, unimportant things we often get mired in.

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In Part II of our meltdown Help! Let’s ask for help, let’s help other folks out. Don’t be afraid of the power of “HELP” For those seeking self-help techniques this is the show for you.

Word of the Week: Simplify

Simplifying how we do things makes our life easier – so why are we doing it. Let’s get it together people. This harkens back to our self-awareness word – if you are self-aware you’ll be able to identify areas in your life crying out for simplification.

05:17 – Just because you do things one way, doesn’t mean that has to define you or control how you approach life in the future. One way to do this is to take some time out to make a plan. You’ll save hours and perhaps days of frustration.

06:57 – When you are transitioning from one project to the next – take some time in-between to reset and re-focus on the new task at hand.

08:02 – Find your stress relievers. Whether it be exercise or whatever it is. Dave W. highly recommends getting a Foam Roller as a quick way to relax, get the blood circulating, and it takes your mind off the burdens of the day. Take even a couple moments a day to take a deep breath and maybe a quick stretch.

12:32 – It is way too easy to slip into your old habits. It happens so covertly it happens without us even being aware of it.

14:46 – Not only should you be planning ahead, you should plan for the unforeseen to knock you off your game. So, plan for it! If it takes you 5 days to finish a project, tell your client it’ll take you 6.

15:27 – Before saying yes, think about how it will impact your plan. Saying “no” is okay and in some ways the best thing for you.

17:07 – Don’t focus on temporary fixes when long-term solutions are what’s needed. You need a long-term plan to avoid meltdowns. Remember Presentation Guy! Don’t be him. Instead of allowing ourselves to be overwhelmed, plan for these adversities even if you don’t know what they are. Instead of bashing our computer on the floor, pause, focus on a solution in the moment when something doesn’t go the way we want it to.

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