What does it mean to live your own life, not the life others expect from you?In this deeply reflective and powerful episode, Alex Ikonn sits down with Dr Rangan Chatterjee — bestselling author, host of Feel Better, Live More, and one of the world’s leading voices on wellbeing — to explore identity, change, presence and the courage to let go of old versions of ourselves.Rangan opens up about the moment that changed his life forever, the pressure of living for external validation, and why most people never actually make the changes they know they need.This is a conversation about returning home to yourself.We explore:• Why most people live on autopilot without realising• The moment Rangan realised he wasn’t living his own life• The identity crisis triggered by losing his father• Why true change starts with awareness• Understanding the nervous system and emotional overload• Why presence is the most important skill in the modern world• Solitude, gratitude, connection and slowing down• Why journaling works when nothing else does• The lies we tell ourselves about success• How to design a life you actually want• Why even achievers feel empty without intention• What Rangan wants to actualise next in his life• How to start changing today — not “one day”This is one of the most grounding and expansive conversations we’ve filmed.If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected or overwhelmed, this episode will bring you back to yourself.Chapters:00:00 🎙️ Intro02:00 🔍 Breaking down change and why regret is hidden perfectionism05:25 🕊️ The turning point after his father’s death09:14 ❓ The question that changed everything: Whose life am I living12:07 🎁 Seeing his father’s death as a gift14:55 🕯️ Mortality as the catalyst for living fully17:24 🔄 Choice and reframing your life20:15 🔓 The greatest prison is the one in your mind23:10 🌍 What he wants to experience now: presence25:50 🌿 Cultivating presence in a distracted world29:35 🚶 Solitude as the most important daily practice32:45 🍃 Why too much choice destroys presence35:05 🧩 Behaviors are downstream from inner discomfort38:57 📝 Journaling as an anchor for intentional living41:28 ✍️ The Three Question Journal: the framework45:00 ⚙️ The three principles of behavior change50:16 ✨ Gratitude and the science behind it54:50 💗 Which quality do I want to show today58:00 🔁 Why repetition leads to depth01:01:45 🧠 Understanding the Reticular Activating System01:03:50 🔍 Why you must examine belief systems to change your life01:10:08 🎸 Meeting his childhood hero John Bon Jovi01:12:40 🔥 Creating from authenticity not validation01:15:50 🪞 How mortality dissolves fear01:20:00 🙌 The real cost behind public success01:23:52 🔥 We become who we practice being👉 Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@AlexIkonnPodcast👉 Follow Alex: https://www.instagram.com/alexikonn/👉 Follow Dr Rangan: https://www.instagram.com/drchatterjee/👉 Explore Intelligent Change: https://link.intelligentchange.com/tools68894b