In this episode, I sat down with Melanie, a member of my dementia with Lewy body support group at the UCLA Mary S. Easton Center. Melanie bravely shares her journey as the sole caregiver for her husband, Monty, who's facing a multitude of health challenges, including multiple system atrophy (MSA), diabetes, and dementia.

Through our candid conversation, Melanie opens up about the daily struggles and joys of caring for her beloved husband while striving to maintain her own identity. Her story is one of resilience, love, and finding gratitude in the face of adversity. Monty is a former composer, musician, and rabbi who was diagnosed with MSA in 2019. In addition to MSA, Monty also has type 1 diabetes, mild to moderate dementia, and is currently undergoing dialysis for stage five kidney failure.

Episode Highlights:

[1:14] - Melanie introduces her husband, Monty, and his background as a composer, musician, and rabbi.

[3:14] - Monty's diagnosis of multiple system atrophy (MSA) and its two subtypes, MSA-C and MSA-P.

[6:36] - Monty's age and retirement shortly after his diagnosis.

[8:22] - The progression of Monty's dementia and its impact on his work and daily life.

[11:30] - Challenges with eating and Melanie's strategies to help Monty maintain his dignity.

[16:49] - The impact of Monty's retirement on his mental health.

[23:17] - Melanie's exhaustion and the importance of support groups in her life as a caregiver.

[26:56] - Melanie's strategies for self-care, including naps, living in the moment, and finding humor.

[32:28] - The lack of support from family members and the strain it puts on Melanie as the sole caregiver.

[38:45] - Melanie's fear of losing her own identity and holding on to personal interests.

[44:03] - Melanie's plans to start her own MSA support group for caregivers in the Pacific Time Zone.

[45:16] - The importance of being of service to others and finding gratitude in the face of adversity.

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