Love Yourself Thin Podcast

Do you know what to do… but still fall short of your goals, again and again?

In this episode, Dara breaks down a concept that might just change everything: failure tolerance — your ability to try something, not get it quite right, and keep going without making it mean something terrible about you.

Using her own vulnerable story of struggling with Instagram (yes, even as a coach), Dara reveals the emotional trap so many of us fall into: showing up like "good students" instead of empowered women. She shares what finally shifted for her, how she's applying this mindset to her current goals, and how you can build your own tolerance to failure — the essential skill for lasting weight loss, creative growth, and real life transformation.

You'll hear:

• Why being "a good student" doesn't guarantee results

• How perfectionism sneaks in as resentment, shame, and powerlessness

• Why failure is not personal — it's essential

• The difference between diet thinking and growth thinking

• How to start failing forward instead of spiraling

If you want to stop living on autopilot and start rowing your own boat — this is your episode.

Ready to change the way you think about weight loss? Book a call with me to find out why you aren't seeing the results you want.

Or better still, jump into my membership for the full transformation!

And...my webinar about working WITH your hormones (not against them) is happening Septmeber 17, sign up for free HERE

What's the big deal about a masterclass? Can an hour a day really make a difference?

In this powerful episode, Dara walks you through exactly what happens inside her masterclasses — and why the experience can shift your thinking, your self-awareness, and even your identity.

You'll learn:

• Why real change starts with understanding your brain, not just your habits

• How journaling, community, and coaching combine to unlock powerful insights

• What makes women finally stop blaming their past and start owning their future

This isn't just education. It's excavation.

If you've been circling the idea of attending a training, this episode will help you see exactly what's possible — and why staying "safe" might be costing you the life you actually want.

And if you're ready to jump in, join my next webinar on September 17, I can't wait to see you there 🩵

And for more about me and what I offer, check out my website!

Don't forget to check out this episode and more on my YouTube channel.

Back-to-school season isn't just for kids — it's the perfect time for women to hit refresh and redefine who they want to be. In this powerful episode, Dara dives into five identity myths from Dr. Benjamin Hardy's Personality Isn't Permanent and how believing these myths keeps women stuck in old patterns of people-pleasing, overeating, overspending, and playing small.

You'll learn how to:

• Debunk the myth that your personality is fixed or defined by your past

• Reclaim authorship over who you're becoming

• Use autumn energy to commit to growth and emotional rewiring

You'll also hear real stories of Dara and her clients who are making brave changes — like saying no to people-pleasing and sugar, and yes to connection, calm, and courage.

👉 If you're craving a reset and want to stop feeling like a failure every time fall rolls around, this is your episode.

Ready to do some personality growth? Book a call with me to talk about how I can help!

Don't delay, sign up for my free webinar "Why Weight Loss is Harder After Forty"

When every celebration feels like a food fest, the aftermath—guilt, bloat, weight gain—can overshadow the joy. In this episode, Dara shares how to shift the spotlight off food and onto true connection, belonging, and meaning.

You'll hear stories of clients who broke free from the emotional grip food had on their celebrations and finally learned to belong to themselves instead. Dara also shares her own story of navigating her anniversary trip while sticking to a personal goal—not out of restriction, but from love and self-respect.

She'll guide you through:

• Why food has become the default celebration tool—and how to change that

• The simple swaps and mindset shifts that actually work

• How to honor yourself and stay committed to goals without shame

• Why connection, not calories, is what we're really hungry for

You don't need to villainize food to stop using it for false connection. You just need to rewire your relationship with celebration—and this episode will show you how.

Sign up for my free webinar - Why Weight Loss is Harder After 40

Have a wedding, anniversary, or big event coming up and want to feel amazing in the pictures—but without falling into the shame spiral of diet culture? In this episode, Dara shares a refreshing, no-nonsense 5-step approach to weight loss that actually sticks. She'll show you why the "how" matters more than the number on the scale, and how chasing validation through weight loss never leads to lasting peace.

You'll learn:

• Why liking your reason is step one (and why that's NOT selfish)

• The power of getting the right kind of help (hint: not your fudge-pushing friends)

• What 100% commitment really looks like

• How discomfort is the price of real transformation

• Why coaching, not criticism, is the game-changer

Whether you're walking down the aisle, celebrating 30 years, or just want to feel proud of how you show up in life—this episode is your loving, firm push in the right direction.

Follow Dara on social media for more @dara_tomasson

Sign up for Dara's free webinar "Why Weight Loss is Harder After 40" - HERE

As a bonus, grab her Free Food Swaps guide to help you in making food choices!

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How would you describe yourself? How would you describe your identity if someone asked you? In this episode, we explore how the way you think about yourself affects the successes you have in life. If you're ready to look at how you can change your identity and have the results you want, this episode is for you.

• The shocking story of a young man who received the wrong SAT score and how it changed his entire life trajectory
• Why personality tests are a $2 billion industry (and what that tells us about human nature)
• The difference between fixed mindset and growth mindset - and which one leads to transformation
• How to create powerful identity shifts that make lasting change inevitable
• Why your personality isn't permanent (and how to use that to your advantage)

Celebrating a member who quit her day job to go all-in on her quilting business! She knows she has the support from Dara and the entire membership community, and more importantly, she understands that she's the one who was keeping herself from being successful.

• Why do I weigh what I weigh?
• Why do I have as much fabric as I have?
• Why do I watch as much TV as I do?
• What is it about me that's so fixed on over-consuming?

• Dr. Carol Dweck from Stanford University - Growth Mindset research
• The concept "Personality Isn't Permanent"
• Henry Ford's famous mindset quote

Ready to explore how identity shifts can transform your life? Dara challenges you to book a call and discuss where you want to go and how to get there.

Book a call with Dara HERE

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Ever feel like you're halfway through summer and already thinking, "I blew it... I need a do-over"? Whether it's a new quilt project, a wellness goal, or just trying to keep life on track — the pattern of starting strong, falling off, and wanting to restart can feel never-ending.

In this episode, Dara unpacks:

• Why the urge to "start over" is often a form of self-sabotage

• How perfectionism and fear of failure sneak into your creative process

• What happens when you ditch judgment and embrace curiosity

• How one member used these tools to stand up for herself and rewrite her story

Dara also shares her 90-day process and how simple, consistent actions can change the way you approach food, goals, and even relationships.

🎯 If you're tired of all-or-nothing thinking and want lasting results, this episode is for you.

Book a call with Dara to find out if her program is right for you!

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In this episode, Dara redefines what cravings actually mean — and shows you how they're not a signal to eat, but a signal to connect. With yourself. With your emotions. With what you actually need.

Through heartfelt coaching stories (including a member navigating the death of her spouse with grounded self-leadership), Dara helps you unpack the difference between desire and distraction. You'll learn how to stop reinforcing unhelpful patterns and how to develop a new internal dialogue that creates peace, not panic, around cravings.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• What your cravings are really trying to tell you

• Why trying to "resist" or ignore cravings backfires

• How to rewire your brain to want connection over food

• A simple coaching question that transforms late-night eating

• Why discomfort isn't the enemy — disconnection is

You don't need more willpower. You need more understanding. This episode will give you both.

Don't wait, book a call with Dara to find out more about how she can help you! Book your free call HERE

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Bonus! Feeling those cravings coming on and want some healthy alternatives to chips, pretzles and ice cream? Grab Dara's free guide for Healthy Food Swaps!

In this episode, Dara shares her personal journey through emotional eating, perfectionism, and body image, uncovering the real reason diets don't work: they bypass the emotional and identity-based roots of our patterns.

Drawing inspiration from "Personality Isn't Permanent" by Dr. Benjamin Hardy and timeless movie quests like "The Hobbit" and "Harry Potter," Dara reveals how true change comes from becoming the person who can handle discomfort—not avoiding it with food, clutter, or control. She breaks down the four levers of identity change, explains why chasing "authenticity" can be misleading, and makes a powerful case for life coaching as a tool to claim your future self.

Key Takeaways:

• Why self-help and organizing tools can keep you stuck in the same cycle

• The 4 identity levers that truly shape personality and permanent change

• The myth of the "authentic self" — and why it can actually stunt your growth

• Why emotional resilience—not discipline—is the path to a peaceful relationship with food

• A quilter's real-life win that proves mindset tools beat meal plans every time

Ready to lose weight without starting a new diet? Book a call with Dara to find out how!

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Tired of the pressure to "fix" your body before you can enjoy summer? You're not alone. In this powerful episode, Dara tackles the harmful myth of the "summer bod" and why shame is keeping so many women stuck — mentally, emotionally, and physically. She shares how to shift from body hate to body connection, how to use neuroscience-backed visualization tools like Mind Movies, and how members of her program are losing weight and gaining confidence without relying on guilt.

You'll learn:

• The difference between guilt and shame (and why one's helpful, the other isn't)

• How shame keeps you stuck in sabotage

• Why pursuing weight loss from a place of fear backfires

• What to do instead — using curiosity, connection, and care

Also in this episode:

💬 A personal story about my son's comment on an old photo… and how I handled it 🧠 A brain hack called "Mind Movies" to help you visualize the life (and body) you want — without shame ❤️ Why one member in her 70s is finally loving herself while losing weight — without dieting

If this episode speaks to you, don't keep struggling on your own. Book a free 20-minute call with me and let's get to the bottom of your biggest block.

📞 www.daratomasson.com/contact

You're not broken. You're not behind. You're just not using the right tools yet.

Let's change that.