What it means to be independent is as unique to each of us as what it means to be submissive. But for anyone trying to win the affection, trust, and submission of a person...

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We get asked all the time what the difference between a dominant and submissive vs a top and bottom is. We’re not claiming to have all the answers, and labels are inherently personal. At...

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This week’s episode was recorded on Kayla’s 40th birthday so it seemed appropriate to talk about getting older when you’re kinky. (Yes, I know, 40 isn’t old, but it’s still a milestone, mkay?) In...

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A big thanks to our kinky patron, Cdc, for suggesting this week’s topic — the subtle side of Dominance and submission. What (we think) we mean by that is that the longer you’re together,...

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Being afraid (or overly cautious) about change is extremely common. Some people just don’t handle change well, while others want to feel in control of the changes that happen to them. We received a...

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There’s not a thing wrong with admiring other kinky relationships. We know quite a few people who we think have great chemistry, and we love being around them. But there are problems when we...

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I struggled with what to title this week’s episode. Primarily because I mostly want to say, “UGH, don’t do THESE things! EVER!” But that’s not very descriptive is it? This week’s episode was inspired...

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We’ve gotten a LOT of requests to talk about praise kinks, but we’d prefer to talk about the importance of praise and affirmation in D/s relationships. But don’t worry, we’ve got the hook-up for...

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We’re baaaaa-aaaaaack! And so happy to be recording again! This week, we talked about dealing with disappointing your partner in a D/s relationship — from a submissive AND a Dominant perspective. In this episode:...

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No one is shocked that stress impacts our D/s relationships. Of course it happens, but that doesn’t mean we always handle it well — or that our D/s relationship won’t bend under the strain....

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