Listen to one podcast episode (or watch a video), and you know that John Brownstone and I laugh a LOT. Part of it has to do with being happy, but part of it is...

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Forgiveness is a big topic and a sticky one. There are no right answers about when or if you should forgive a partner or whether a relationship can be saved. But one thing is...

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Everyone has needs and everyone in a relationship has needs. Only you can decide which of those needs is most important, but in D/s if anyone tries to convince you your needs are unimportant,...

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(Some) Dominants want to protect their partner, and (some) submissives want to take care of their partner. But when you have to be apart — either temporarily or as part of a long distance...

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This is kind of a weird one. It can be an overwhelmingly fun experience and an opportunity for growth when you do something your partner enjoys that you wouldn’t necessarily choose for yourself. On...

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This week, we did something a little different. We’ve been overwhelmed (in a good way) with a lot of listener questions, and there just isn’t enough time in the day to answer everyone. So...

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We love being members of a kinky community — online and in-person. And we also appreciate the hard work that goes into hosting events and facilitating meet-ups. But after a few events where we...

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Earlier this week, we were out of sync — we weren’t in tune with each other in terms of kink. John Brownstone went too hard, too fast, and I didn’t speak up when I...

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No means no, until you negotiate something different in your D/s relationship. No can be a kinky act of denial or it can be a way to maintain boundaries. The one thing that’s definite...

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When you’re new to D/s or just new to a D/s relationship, it’s common to have fears and concerns. Especially if you’ve had bad experiences or heartbreak in the past. We’re not telling you...

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