Do you find the holidays stressful? We would all have to say YES if we’re completely honest. For a pregnant mom, a postpartum mom, or a mom experiencing loss, the holiday obligations can be overwhelming in magnified ways. In today’s solo episode, we will discuss how to survive the holidays and manage stress by setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing self-care.
Show Highlights:
The holidays: a mix of lovely things and difficult moments with the unseen pressure of motherhood to take care of everyoneBoundaries are not easy, and sometimes confusing, but necessarySet boundaries around family, friends, spending, activities, and the time you spend with othersDon’t be afraid to communicate what your needs areIn spending time at someone’s house, have a set time limit or some kind of communication with your partner to signal when it’s time to goTo figure out where you need boundaries, ask yourself, “What brings me stress? What do I find difficult?”Why we feel guilty for setting boundariesHow anger and resentment toward others will develop when we don’t set boundariesHow pushback from someone else can signal the need for boundariesIt’s OK when you need a time-out from the tension of social situationsImportant skills include knowing when to say NO and when to say YESWhy you shouldn’t feel obligated to do things that aren’t good choices for youAllow flexibility and compassion in considering your needsHow saying YES and NO protects against resentment building up in relationshipsAsk yourself what you need when you feel anger, guilt, anxiety, and sadnessIf sleep and self-care are not on your holiday list, then you will feel depletedSleep is essential for health and restoration, but especially for pregnant moms, postpartum moms, and moms with lossGive yourself permission NOT to do everythingSteps to take to manage stress:Think about times in the past when you’ve ignored your own needsFigure out where you can make adjustmentsFind places where you can say YES and set limitsDon’t allow yourself to feel guiltyWhy your new holiday regimen should be ways to manage stress, keep your energy level, and feel like yourselfWhat feels restorative, whole, and good to you?Set intentions for baths, yoga, solitary walks, connection time with a friend, alone time, or time with your partner
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