What motivates you to have a better relationship or even a better life? Because it will take work. Do you do the work of loving someone? It's work to accept the parts you find annoying or tedious - it's work to make yourself understood - it's work to listen to disagreement - it's work to respect the differences. It's work to to survive important values collisions. It's work in a frantic/busy life to find one-on-one time to deepen your relationship instead of avoiding difficult conversations.