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Anger can damage relationships and cause you to feel out of control. The truth is anger is the symptom but not the actual problem. Unresolved and not expressed emotions are the problem that turn into anger. In this podcast we will help you to identify your underlying emotions and learn to express them so that we can ICE out anger.

Other episodes mentioned on today's podcast: 

Ep. 34 - Fair Fighting Rules

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In Part 2 of this 2 part series we will talk about how you might be wasting your time by dating the wrong people and we'll talk about how you can learn to laser focus your time dating to find Mr. or Mrs. Right. In order to keep laser focus you need your list... Your Non-Negotiables List.

Your Non-Negotiables List will help you when you start to catch feelings to BE ABLE TO ASSESS IF THIS PERSON IS WORTH YOUR TIME OR LIKELY TO WASTE YOUR TIME!

Related Episodes:

Ep. 45 - You Are Wasting Your Time Dating (Part 1)

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In this 2 part series we will talk about how you might be wasting your time by dating the wrong people and we'll talk about how you can learn to laser focus your time dating to find Mr. or Mrs. Right. In order to keep laser focus you need your list... Your Non-Negotiables List.

Your Non-Negotiables List will help you when you start to catch feelings to BE ABLE TO ASSESS IF THIS PERSON IS WORTH YOUR TIME OR LIKELY TO WASTE YOUR TIME!

Listen here for related episodes mentioned on today's podcast: 

Ep. 41 - What is Love Anyway? (Part 1)

Ep. 42 - What is Love Anyway? (Part 2)

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We all want to have healthy relationships, but what does that even look like? Last episode we discussed Healthy vs. Addictive Love and shared comparisons #1-6, today we complete the list with comparisons #7 - 10! 

If you haven't already listened to Part 1 - you can go back and listen to it here: Healthy vs. Addictive Love (Part 1)

Let's get started! 

8. Healthy love gets easier as time goes on. Addictive love requires more effort as time goes on. 

9. Healthy love is satisfied with the partner we have. Addictive love is always looking for more or someone better. 

10. Healthy love teaches that we can only make ourselves happy. Addictive love expects the other person to make us happy and demands we try and make them happy. 

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We all want to have healthy relationships, but what does that even look like? Tune in to today's episode as we compare Healthy Love vs. Addictive Love. 

1. Healthy love develops after we feel secure. Addictive love tries to create love and connection before we understand who the person is. 

2. Healthy love comes from being healthy ourselves , we overflow with love. Addictive love is always trying to fill an inner void. 

3. Healthy love begins with loving ourselves, being the partner we wish to have. Addictive love is avoiding looking at ourselves and always seeks to get love from that "special someone". 

4. Healthy love grows slowly overtime, like a tree. It allows us to be vulnerable because we feel secure. Addictive love grows fast, as if by magic, and it's based on a shaky foundation; we don't feel secure and are afraid to be vulnerable because we fear rejection. 

5. Healthy love thrives on time alone as well as time spent with our partner. Addictive love avoids being alone and needs to always be together or they begin to feel insecure. 

6. Healthy love is gentle and considerate. Addictive love is tense and combative. 

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Today we continue with part 2 of "What is Love Anyway? Everyone is searching for it or trying to increase it. But how do you actually define love? We define it as loving actions we take toward our spouse no matter how we feel.  We don't define it as an emotion. Come along with us and learn more about what LOVE IS!

"Love is PATIENT and KIND;

Love DOES NOT ENVY or BOAST

It is NOT ARROGANT or RUDE. 

It DOES NOT INSIST ON ITS OWN WAY

It is NOT IRRITABLE or RESENTFUL

It DOES NOT REJOICE at WRONGDOING,

but REJOICES with THE TRUTH.

LOVE BEARS ALL THINGS,

BELIEVES ALL THINGS,

HOPES ALL THINGS,

ENDURES ALL THINGS. 

LOVE NEVER ENDS."

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What is love? Everyone is searching for it or trying to increase it. But how do you actually define love? We define it as loving actions we take toward our spouse no matter how we feel.  We don't define it as an emotion. Come along with us and learn more about what LOVE IS!

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We have gotten so many questions about if EMDR is okay for Christians.  We've seen the hesitation and worry from those who know they need help but don't know what to do and are hesitant or worried about EMDR. In today's episode we address this concern and help you understand why, not only is it okay, but it may help you discover your true identity in Christ and heal from past hurts or trauma that are stopping you from truly believing and knowing your identity in Christ. We want you to experience fullness, joy and freedom, and we want you to represent Him well. 

Related Episodes:

Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the Basics of Trauma

Ep. 7 - (Pt. 1) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

Ep. 8 - (Pt. 2) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

Ep. 9 - (Pt. 3) - What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

Ep. 32 - Shame, Guilt, & Conviction - Which One Are You Listening To?

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In today's episode we're talking all about the Unconscious Mind. 

The Unconscious can influence us in positive or negative ways. What can the Unconscious influence? 

1. Our Automatic Behaviors and Habits

2. Our Emotions & Feelings

3. Our Beliefs & Attitudes

What are some ways we can see the negative effects of the Unconscious? 

 1.  Whenever we have an oversized response to the situation at hand.

 2.  If you have an irrational fear or belief

 3.  If you have negative experiences or memories that create a negative emotional response for you when you think about it today. 

Related Episodes: 

Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the Basics of Trauma

Ep. 7 - (Pt. 1) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

Ep. 8 - (Pt. 2) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

Ep. 9 - (Pt. 3) - What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

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In today's episode we are doing Part 2 of - Don't Drive Your Teen Away! Connecting with your Teens! We have a great time as we interview with Stefanie Bolio, LMFT.

Teens of today face many challenges.  Depression, anxiety, loneliness, self-harm, suicide, feeling the weight of helping their friends who struggle with all this and more. In addition to all of that, teens also have the academic and social pressures to do well in school, date, find friends, navigate the pressures of social media, and then there's family. You as their parent can easily drive your teen away....but don't! 

Stefanie Bolio has been married for more than 12 years and they have 4 lovely children. Stefanie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Pennsylvania where she works with individuals, families, couples, and youth.  She is also a director for two discrete teen crisis text from youth in crisis 24/7. Stefanie has a passion for walking through difficult situations with people. A main focus of Stefanie's is to provide guidance and healing with a Biblical worldview to achieve a healthier life. 

Resources mentioned: 

• "Raising Great Kids" by Dr. Henry Cloud

Listen to Part 1 of this interview with Stefanie: 

Ep. 37 - Don't Drive Your Teen Away (Part 1)

Connect with Stefanie>>

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Stefanie Bolio - EMDR - Psychology Today Profile

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