Episode 44: Navigating Needs and Wants in a Dom/Sub Relationship  

Join us in this episode of the Dom Sub Devotion podcast as we explore the intimate and important topic of how we handle responding to each other's needs and wants within a 24/7 DS marriage.

We discuss the hierarchy of needs that places the submissive's needs first, the dominant's needs second (and why it MUST be this way), the dominant's wants third, and the submissive's wants last, and why this hierarchy helped at the beginning of our dynamic, but why we've also evolved to a more nuanced and open way of addressing this topic in our dynamic.

The conversation covers the psychological, emotional, and spiritual aspects of fulfilling needs and desires, the challenges faced by both partners, and the importance of mutual support and trust. We offer practical insights on how the dominant can lead effectively without ending up just pleasing his submissive, and how the submissive can open up to receive.

This episode offers valuable lessons for anyone interested in deepening their understanding of power exchange dynamics.

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00:00 Introduction to Dom Sub Devotion

00:36 Exploring Needs and Wants in a DS Dynamic

00:55 The Hierarchy of Needs in DS Relationships

05:51 Evolving Beyond the Hierarchy

09:52 Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Needs

12:06 Needs vs. Neediness: A Dominant's Perspective

24:05 Expressing Needs and Desires in Relationships

29:27 Embracing the Journey Without Timelines

30:19 Setting Down the Ego for Honest Conversations

31:24 Accepting Uncertainty in Needs and Wants

33:20 The Role of Dominance and Submission

34:52 Navigating Desires and Limitations

37:46 The Importance of Authentic Leadership

42:05 Experiencing and Understanding True Desires

48:06 The Co-Creation of Needs Fulfillment

58:52 The Challenges and Rewards of Emotional Work