So many of us quietly believe that permanent healing isn’t possible — that we’ll always feel “a little bit broken,” or that we’ll have to keep managing the same patterns forever.

But that’s not true.

Healing isn’t meant to be a series of Band-Aids — a few therapy sessions here, a meditation retreat there, a burst of self-care when things get hard. Those things can help… but only for a while.

Real, lasting healing begins when you stop patching symptoms and start addressing what’s underneath — the parts of you that are protecting the wound, the nervous system patterns that keep looping, and the way those inner imbalances show up in your relationships.

In this week’s episode of Your Brain on Trauma, I’m sharing my No More Band-Aids model — a framework I use with my clients to help them access deep, permanent healing.

You’ll learn:

• Why temporary fixes can actually keep you stuck
• The three ingredients that create real, lasting change: mind, body, and love
• How Internal Family Systems, polyvagal theory, and somatic work come together to rewire old trauma loops
• Why healing your inner world is the key to safe, authentic relationships

Timestamps:

• 02:16 “No More Band-Aids”: why quick fixes don’t work
• 06:29 The three ingredients of permanent healing (Mind–Body–Love)
• 07:55 IFS explained: protectors, exiles & Self
• 13:27 Nervous system work: polyvagal & somatic basics
• 16:23 Relationships as a mirror; authentic communication
• 20:46 Putting it together: the path to lasting change

If you’ve been trying to “fix” yourself and wondering why it never lasts, this episode will show you what’s been missing.

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