I’ve been on a healing journey for a long time.

And I’m still on it.

I still get triggered. I still get suspicious. I still have moments when trusting and letting go are hard. The difference today isn’t that those reactions have disappeared.

It’s that I know what to do when they show up.

In this week’s episode, I want to take you behind the scenes of how I got here — because the way I approach healing today didn’t come neatly packaged in a textbook.

It came through a lot of trial and error.

Honestly, probably more error than trial. 🤣

I love psychiatry. I trained at some incredible institutions and learned so much about the human mind. But even after becoming a psychiatrist, I realized something difficult:

I still didn’t know how to be in relationships.

The tools I needed to create safety within myself, regulate my nervous system, heal old wounds, and stay connected when I was triggered were tools I eventually had to find, practice, and integrate for myself.

And that journey goes much further back than my own adulthood.

In this episode, I’m sharing parts of my family story that shaped me deeply — the trauma my parents carried, the beliefs and survival patterns I inherited, losing my mother, repressing parts of myself, and eventually realizing that healing wasn’t just about me.

It was also about what I would pass on.

One of the biggest realizations I’ve had is that intergenerational healing doesn’t begin or end with one person. Each generation before me, imperfectly and in their own way, passed on a little less pain than they received.

Now I get to be another link in that chain.

And that has become one of the North Stars of my life: the trauma stops with me.

Your story will look different from mine. But the effects of our earlier experiences often show up in three places: how we manage our emotions and triggers, what happens inside our bodies and nervous systems, and how we show up in our closest relationships.

Healing doesn’t mean becoming someone who never gets triggered again.

For me, it has meant learning to recognize what’s happening inside me and knowing how to return to safety, calm, and connection — again and again.

And that’s the work I want to share with you.

00:54 — Why I’m sharing my imperfect healing journey

04:41 — My childhood and the intergenerational trauma in my family

10:28 — Growing up between external privilege and internal chaos

15:54 — Losing my mother and carrying the belief that it was my fault

19:44 — When things began to change

22:21 — Why becoming a psychiatrist still didn’t teach me how to heal my relationships

24:54 — The mission that grew out of my own healing

25:50 — The 3 areas where our earlier experiences show up today

27:13 — I still get triggered — here’s what’s different now

28:12 — The three pieces I believe create a powerful path toward lasting healing

My own healing taught me that insight alone isn’t always enough.

I could understand why I reacted the way I did and still have my body respond automatically when something touched an old wound.

That experience became a huge part of why I created Untriggerable.

Inside Untriggerable, we work with the mind, the body and nervous system, and the patterns that show up in our relationships — so you can learn to recognize your triggers, regulate what’s happening inside you, and respond from a place of greater safety and choice.

If you’d like to learn more about the program and continue this work with us, you can join us on our new Circle platform:

Join the Untriggerable community on Circle

Wherever you are in your own healing journey, remember: it doesn’t have to be perfect.

Mine certainly isn’t.

It just has to keep moving.

Last week, we talked about how to uncover the limiting beliefs quietly shaping your choices.

But recognizing them is only the beginning.

Because you can know exactly what your limiting belief is…

and still find yourself hesitating, resisting, or recreating the same pattern.

I know because I experienced this in my own business.

I knew I wanted to make changes. I knew the way I was working no longer felt aligned with how I wanted my life to look.

But my business was successful.

And underneath all that hesitation was a much older belief I had absorbed growing up:

Money is hard to come by. You have to sacrifice what matters to succeed. And there may not be enough to go around.

Intellectually, I knew I didn’t want to live that way.

But subconsciously? That belief was still influencing my decisions.

So in this week’s episode — Part 2 of our Limiting Beliefs series — I’m sharing the three tools I used to begin shifting those beliefs from the inside out.

We’ll start by replacing that exhausting inner debate with thoughts that are simply grounded in facts. Then I’ll show you how I began practicing the identity of the person I wanted to become — and how collecting small “confirmations” helped that new identity become more natural over time.

Because changing a limiting belief isn’t about forcing yourself to think positively.

It’s about slowly giving your mind a different experience to believe.

And for me, after about six to eight weeks of practicing these tools, something shifted.

The changes I had spent months resisting began to happen with far less force. I restructured my business, changed how I spent my days, and created something that felt much more aligned with my values — without sacrificing the financial stability I had been so afraid of losing.

00:48 — Picking up where we left off in Part 1

02:10 — Why changing a successful business felt so scary

03:28 — The limiting belief about money I uncovered

06:24 — How subconscious beliefs kept me recreating what I wanted to change

08:25 — Tool #1: Replace resistance with fact-based thoughts

12:42 — Tool #2: Start practicing a new identity

16:19 — How I used “abundance walks” to notice what was already around me

20:40 — Tool #3: Collect confirmations of your new identity

22:07 — What changed after practicing these tools for 6–8 weeks

24:14 — What my life and business look like on the other side

If you haven’t listened to last week’s episode, 3 Ways to Uncover Your Hidden Limiting Beliefs [Part 1], I recommend starting there first.

Part 1 helps you uncover what may be running beneath the surface.

Part 2 helps you begin changing it.

And as you listen, don’t try to tackle every limiting belief at once.

Choose one.

Get curious about it.

And start giving yourself evidence that another way of thinking, feeling, and living is possible.

Sometimes the patterns we intellectually understand are also tied to deeper emotional reactions that continue showing up even when we know better.

That’s exactly the deeper work we do inside Untriggerable — learning how to work with those patterns from the inside out so they no longer have to keep running the show.

And we now have a new home on Circle where you can learn more about Untriggerable and join our community:

Join the Untriggerable community on Circle

I’d love to see you there.

Have you ever known exactly what you wanted to change…

but somehow kept doing the same thing?

Maybe you want to change a pattern in your relationship.

Make a move in your career.

Take better care of yourself.

Or finally go after something you’ve been thinking about for months.

You know what you want.

And yet… you keep postponing it.

I’ve been there too.

There was a season when I knew exactly how I wanted my personal life and business to feel.

I had my North Star.

But for six months to a year, I kept putting off some of the very decisions that would take me there.

Why?

Limiting beliefs.

And the tricky thing about limiting beliefs is that we often don’t even know we have them.

They hide underneath the complaints we repeat, the conversations we have with our friends, and the stories we’ve told ourselves so many times that they simply feel like facts.

In this week’s episode, I’m sharing three practical ways I use to bring those hidden beliefs to the surface, including a journaling practice that can help you move beyond the story you already consciously know and begin uncovering what may be sitting underneath it.

Because before we can change a limiting belief…

we have to be able to see it.

00:53 — My own “North Star” and the beliefs that kept me from moving toward it

03:18 — Why limiting beliefs keep us stuck in the same patterns

04:56 — Start here: choose one specific area where you feel stuck

06:58 — Tool #1: Listen to your recurring complaints

09:05 — The difference between a circumstance and the belief you attach to it

10:16 — Tool #2: Pay attention to what you and your friends vent about

12:23 — Tool #3: Use journaling to uncover what’s beneath the surface

13:51 — The journaling trick that takes you beyond your conscious story

15:49 — Putting all three tools together

17:38 — What’s coming in Part 2

And this is only Part 1.

This week, your job is simply to find the beliefs that may be quietly running the show.

Don’t rush to change them yet.

Use these three tools, get curious, and write down what you uncover, because we’re going to use exactly what you find in next week’s episode:

3 Tools to Remove Limiting Beliefs From Your Subconscious Mind [Part 2]

That’s where I’ll show you what to actually do with these beliefs once you’ve brought them into the light.

So do the exercises from today, keep your notes somewhere close, and meet me back here next week for Part 2.

Sometimes the beliefs we uncover aren’t just thoughts we can talk ourselves out of. They’re connected to deeper emotional patterns, old wounds, and reactions that can keep showing up even when we intellectually know better.

That’s exactly the kind of deeper work we do inside Untriggerable.

And we now have a new home on Circle where you can learn more about the program, access resources, and join our community.

Join us inside the Untriggerable community on Circle

I’d love to see you there.

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Last week, we explored a powerful idea:

You are not your thoughts or your feelings.

So the next question becomes...

If I'm not my thoughts, then how do I actually begin to heal the part of me that still gets triggered?

Many of us try to change our reactions by talking ourselves through them.

We promise we'll stay calm next time.

We'll communicate better.

We'll be more patient.

And sometimes it works...

...for a day or two.

But if your emotional reactions keep returning, it may be because there's a younger part of you that's still waiting to feel safe.

In this week's episode, I want to introduce you to one of my favorite healing practices—using your imagination to access four powerful inner resources that help bring calm, wisdom, protection, and comfort to your nervous system.

It may sound simple, but there's fascinating neuroscience behind it: when we vividly imagine an experience, the brain begins creating new neural pathways almost as if it had happened in real life. That's one of the beautiful foundations of neuroplasticity.

00:48 — Why communication tools aren't enough when your inner child is hurting

02:19 — Why imagination can literally help rewire your brain

04:42 — Resource #1: Creating your Safe Space

07:51 — Resource #2: Finding your Wise Counsel (yes... Dumbledore counts!)

09:31 — Resource #3: Discovering your Protector

11:45 — Resource #4: Choosing your Comforter

12:25 — A guided practice to install these four resources within you

Healing isn't about becoming someone different.

It's about giving the parts of you that still feel scared, alone, or overwhelmed the experiences they never received.

Sometimes, the resources you've been searching for aren't outside of you at all.

They're already within you—just waiting to be discovered.

The four inner resources I shared today are just one small piece of the work we do inside Untriggerable.

In the program, I guide you through a complete step-by-step process to heal emotional triggers at the root, regulate your nervous system, and create lasting change—not just better coping strategies.

If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to experience that kind of transformation, I'd love to support you.

You can learn more about Untriggerable by joining our free physician community here:

https://www.skool.com/relationshipmastery4physicians

Or simply reply to this email or reach out to my team at [email protected], and we'll be happy to share all the details.

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Last week, we talked about how unresolved trauma can keep our nervous systems stuck in a constant state of alert, even when we're no longer in danger.

So the question naturally becomes:

What can we do in those moments when we feel our stress or anxiety taking over?

The truth is, stress itself isn't the enemy.

Life will always bring deadlines, difficult conversations, and unexpected challenges.

The problem is when our bodies never get the chance to recover.

Instead of completing the stress response, many of us simply distract ourselves, with our phones, food, work, or endless busyness, while our nervous system remains switched on. Over time, that chronic stress can affect our physical health, cloud our thinking, and make it harder to show up well in our relationships.

In this week's episode, I'm sharing one of my favorite practical tools: a simple breathing technique called the physiological sigh. It takes less than 90 seconds, can be done almost anywhere, and helps calm your nervous system by completing your body's stress response. I'll also share a simple framework for understanding stress so you can begin responding to it with more confidence, rather than just reacting to it.

00:50 — Why stress is normal (and why chronic stress isn't)

01:27 — A simple technique to calm your nervous system in real time

03:10 — What animals can teach us about completing the stress response

04:17 — Why distractions don't actually reduce stress

05:20 — A simple framework for managing stress anywhere

07:12 — The science behind the physiological sigh

09:06 — How to practice the breathing technique correctly

10:40 — When to use it in everyday life

The goal isn't to eliminate stress.

It's to give your body the chance to recover from it.

Sometimes, creating more calm doesn't require changing your circumstances, it starts with taking one intentional breath.

The physiological sigh is one powerful tool—but it's just one piece of the puzzle.

Inside our free Relationship Mastery for Physicians community on Skool, we share practical tools to help you regulate your nervous system, strengthen your relationships, and become less reactive to life's everyday stressors.

If you'd like to continue learning alongside us, we'd love to have you join.

Join the community here:

https://www.skool.com/relationshipmastery4physicians

I hope to see you there.

Last week, we explored how certain thinking patterns can quietly create more suffering—and how reversing them can change the direction of your life.

But what if your thinking isn't the whole story?

What if the reason certain thoughts keep coming back... isn't because you're weak or "thinking wrong"...

...but because there's an unhealed wound underneath them?

By the time we're 30, every one of us has experienced some form of trauma.

Sometimes it's obvious.

Sometimes it's a thousand little moments that quietly shaped how we see ourselves, other people, and the world.

The challenge is that hidden trauma rarely announces itself.

Instead, it shows up as recurring patterns we can't seem to explain.

In this week's episode, we'll explore how hidden trauma can quietly shape the way you think, feel, and relate to others. I'll share three common signs that unresolved trauma may still be affecting your life, along with six practical tools to help you begin healing with greater awareness and self-compassion.

Episode timestamps

00:45 — Why every adult carries some form of trauma

03:15 — The three hidden places trauma shows up

03:26 — Signs of trauma in the mind

10:05 — Signs of trauma in the body

11:54 — Signs of trauma in relationships and behavior

15:07 — Six ways to begin healing today

23:23 — Bringing it all together: healing hidden trauma step by step

One thing I've learned, both personally and through working with hundreds of women, is this:

Trauma doesn't always look dramatic.

Sometimes it looks like overthinking.

Sometimes it's emotional numbness.

Sometimes it's always expecting the worst.

Sometimes it's constantly feeling "on guard," even when you're safe.

And none of those mean you're broken.

They simply mean your nervous system is still trying to protect you from something it hasn't fully healed yet.

Healing begins the moment we stop asking,

"What's wrong with me?"

and start asking,

"What happened to me, and what does my nervous system need now?"

If this episode resonates with you...

Much of the work we do inside Untriggerable is helping people gently reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems, and heal the deeper patterns that trauma leaves behind.

If you're ready to move beyond simply understanding your patterns and begin transforming them, we'd love to support you.

Simply reply to this email or reach out to us at [email protected] to learn more.

You don't have to heal everything today.

But you can begin today.

Last week, we explored what it means to become the bus driver instead of getting carried away by every thought and emotion that comes along.

This week, I'd like to take that one step further.

Because once you realize you're not your thoughts, the next question becomes:

Which ways of thinking are quietly creating more suffering in your life?

In this week's encore episode, I want to introduce you to one of my favorite psychological tools:

Inversion Thinking.

Instead of asking, "How can I become happier?"

We'll ask a much more useful question:

"How could I make my life more miserable?"

It may sound backwards, but it's surprisingly powerful.

Because once you identify the habits that create suffering, all you have to do is reverse them.

In this episode, I'll walk you through six common thinking patterns that keep us stuck, and how turning each one upside down can help you create a more peaceful, joyful, and meaningful life.

00:51 — Why inversion thinking works so well

03:05 — Miserable Habit #1: Living in "shoulds"

04:40 — Miserable Habit #2: Fighting reality instead of accepting it

07:18 — Miserable Habit #3: Resisting or reacting to your emotions

11:37 — Miserable Habit #4: Seeing triggers as injustices instead of teachers

14:49 — Miserable Habit #5: Seeing people as all good or all bad

18:17 — Miserable Habit #6: Believing happiness exists somewhere in the future

22:51 — The six principles, summarized

24:20 — Your homework: Reverse each principle in your own life

One of the greatest freedoms I've discovered is this:

Life isn't about finding a place where you'll only experience "positive" thoughts or feelings.

Just like we've talked about over the last few weeks, every school bus has all kinds of passengers.

The goal isn't to get rid of half the bus.

The goal is to stay in the driver's seat.

If you've been enjoying this series on thoughts, emotions, and learning to stay grounded instead of getting swept away by your mind, I'd love to invite you to continue the journey with us.

Join our free Relationship Mastery for Physicians community, where we share practical tools for nervous system regulation, emotional resilience, and healthier relationships:

https://www.skool.com/relationshipmastery4physicians

Or, if you'd like to learn more about working with us, simply reply to this email or reach out to us at [email protected].

I'd love to support you as you continue building a life led by wisdom, not by your thoughts.

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Last week, I invited you into a simple but powerful experiment:

What if you are not your thoughts or your feelings?

If you haven't listened to that episode yet, I'd encourage you to start there. It lays the foundation for everything we're exploring today.

Because once you begin to see that you are the observer—not the constant stream of thoughts, emotions, memories, and sensations—the next question naturally becomes:

How do I actually stay connected to that wiser part of myself when life gets busy... or emotionally overwhelming?

That's exactly what we're diving into in this week's encore episode.

I'll introduce you to one of my favorite metaphors: the School Bus Between Your Ears.

It may sound simple, but this analogy has transformed the way thousands of my clients relate to their minds.

Instead of fighting your thoughts...

Instead of trying to get rid of uncomfortable emotions...

You'll learn how to become the wise bus driver instead of getting pulled around by every passenger on the bus.

Episode timestamps

00:57 — Why this episode builds on last week's experiment

04:57 — The question everyone asks: "How do I connect with my true self?"

05:43 — The School Bus metaphor explained

07:04 — Who the passengers really are

08:40 — Becoming the bus driver instead of the passengers

09:46 — Why chasing happiness keeps us stuck

11:20 — What happens when you leave the driver's seat

13:58 — A simple practice to notice without reacting

15:12 — Labeling the "passengers" on your bus

16:27 — How this builds emotional steadiness over time

The goal isn't to have a bus full of perfect passengers.

The goal is to remember who's driving.

When you stop trying to control every thought and emotion, and instead learn to notice them with curiosity, you create space for clarity, wisdom, and freedom.

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If today's episode resonated with you...

Many high-achieving professionals spend years trying to "fix" their thoughts when the real transformation comes from learning how to relate to them differently.

If you'd like to continue exploring nervous system regulation, emotional resilience, and practical tools for staying grounded under pressure, I'd love to invite you to join my free community:

Relationship Mastery for Physicians

https://www.skool.com/relationshipmastery4physicians

Or if you'd like to learn more about working with us, simply reply to this email or reach out to [email protected]. We'd love to help you take the next step.

Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it...

🗣️ You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!):

👉 Submit your question

P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 💛

If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately.

Have you ever felt like you're trying so hard to move forward... yet somehow you keep ending up in the same place?

Whether it's your relationships, your career, your health, or an old emotional pattern, feeling stuck can be incredibly frustrating. And the harder you push, the deeper you sometimes seem to sink.

Here's the surprising part:

What if nothing is actually wrong with you?

In this week's episode, I explain why getting stuck isn't a lack of willpower—it's often the result of how your brain is wired to keep you safe.

Your brain was designed to detect danger, not happiness. And when that primitive survival system takes over, it can trap you in loops of rumination, fear, self-doubt, and overthinking without you even realizing it.

Episode timestamps

00:55 — Why so many different struggles have the same root

02:13 — What it really means to feel "stuck"

03:37 — Understanding how your brain works

06:03 — Your brain is designed to find danger—not happiness

09:58 — The role of your prefrontal cortex

10:55 — What happens when your survival brain takes over

13:40 — The difference between pain and suffering

15:26 — The legacy we pass to the next generation

16:50 — A simple exercise to identify where you're stuck

One of the biggest shifts in my own life came when I realized this:

My thoughts weren't the problem.

My feelings weren't the problem.

Even my fears weren't the problem.

The real suffering began when I believed every thought my survival brain offered me—and built my life around those stories.

Once you understand that, you can begin stepping out of the quicksand instead of struggling deeper into it.

I hope this episode helps you take that first step.

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If this episode resonated with you and you'd like to go deeper, I'm putting together a live workshop on nervous system regulation in the next couple of weeks.

In this workshop, I'll show you practical tools to help you calm your nervous system, break free from reactive patterns, and create more emotional resilience in your everyday life.

You can join the waitlist here: https://dr-kavetha-sun.kit.com/8ea3ea0bf4

I'd love to have you there!

Have you ever had a thought that scared you?

Or a feeling so intense that it seemed to take over your entire world?

What if I told you that neither your thoughts nor your feelings are actually you?

In this week's episode, You Are Not Your Thoughts Or Feelings, I invite you into a simple but surprisingly powerful experiment.

Together, we'll travel through different moments of your life, from today, to last week, to years ago, and discover something remarkable:

Even though your body changed…

Your roles changed…

Your relationships, worries, hopes, and circumstances all changed…

There has always been one part of you that remained exactly the same.

The quiet part.

The observing part.

The part of you that notices.

And once you experience this directly, it's very hard to unsee it.

Episode timestamps:

00:48 — Why thoughts and feelings aren't the problem

01:49 — The surprising idea: you are not your thoughts or feelings

02:35 — A simple experiment to discover who you really are

05:52 — What remains constant throughout your life

07:22 — The Observing Mind and Pure Awareness

08:28 — The difference between your roles and your true self

10:24 — A simple practice to reconnect with your observing mind

One of my favorite realizations is this:

You have been a child.

A teenager.

A student.

A partner.

Perhaps a parent.

You've felt joy, grief, love, heartbreak, confidence, and uncertainty.

And yet, through all of it, there has been a quiet awareness inside you simply witnessing it all.

That awareness is not broken.

It doesn't need fixing.

It is the wisest part of you.

And the more often you learn to rest there, the more freedom you experience—even in difficult moments.

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And if you've been enjoying these recent episodes on emotions, triggers, and the nervous system, and you're a physician or high-achieving professional who wants to cultivate more emotional resilience and inner freedom, I'd love to invite you to explore Untriggerable.

You can join our free community here:

https://www.skool.com/relationshipmastery4physicians

Or simply reply to this email or reach out to [email protected] and my team will share all the details.