Do you ever leave a hard conversation thinking, “How am I here again?”

Or do you feel seen in therapy but the week rolls around and the same stress knocks at your door?

Maybe you’re the “strong one,” the giver… and privately you’re tired.

If that’s you, I made this week’s episode of Heal Your Heal Relationships for you:

“Your Complaints Are a Doorway to Your Healing.”

Here’s the heart of it:

I don’t want you to just feel better for an hour.

I want your capacity to grow so life feels different from the inside out and complaints can help us do that.

Not by fixing the surface problem, but by gently showing us the root that’s asking for care.

In this episode, I share a reframe I use as a physician:

Think of a complaint like a fever.

Comfort matters...

But real healing comes from finding the source. We walk through a real example (an overwhelmed teacher who’s busy-busy-busy to avoid a deeper loneliness), and I guide you to follow your own “little tributaries” back to the lake underneath.

Inside the episode:

• Why validation is soothing (and why it doesn’t always change tomorrow)
• How your recurring complaints point to subconscious core wounds (often held in the body)
• The “fever vs. source” lens you can use this week
• A gentle way to meet what’s underneath—paired with embodiment so shifts last

If you’ve been circling the same challenges and are ready to understand what’s underneath—this episode is for you.

I hope it brings clarity, compassion, and a deeper sense of power in your healing journey.

Take a deep breath, hit play, and let’s walk this path together.

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How do you know if the challenges you face today — in relationships, at work, or even with your health — are really caused by unresolved childhood trauma?

It’s a question I hear often, and it’s a good one. Because without clarity, we end up treating the wrong “symptom” and going in circles.

Maybe you’ve already done therapy or coaching around past issues. You’ve journaled, meditated, and worked on your personal growth.

But here’s the deeper question:

 How do you know if your healing is truly complete… or if there are still layers left to uncover?

In this week’s episode of the podcast, I share the 3 telltale signs of unresolved childhood trauma — patterns I’ve seen in myself and in countless others. They quietly shape our relationships, our sense of self, and our ability to manage emotions:

• Repetitive relationship struggles — push–pull dynamics, people-pleasing, shutting down, or feeling unsafe in closeness.
• A vague sense that “something is wrong with me” — showing up as shame, imposter syndrome, or holding back from intimacy.
• Emotional dysregulation — feeling numb until emotions hit like a tsunami, or managing them through work, food, or other distractions.

If you recognize yourself in any of these, you’re not alone.

 And here’s the good news: healing is possible.

P.S. If this resonates, please share the episode with someone who may need it. Healing becomes more powerful when we don’t do it alone.

Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... 

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FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

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Have you ever felt like all the tools you’ve learned in therapy or coaching just disappear the moment you get triggered? 

Maybe you’ve meditated, journaled, or practiced new ways of responding—yet the moment your child melts down in public or your spouse says something dismissive, calm feels impossible.

You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. 

This is exactly how the nervous system works when we’re under stress.

In this week’s episode, I share a novel way to find calm in your daily life—by becoming your own best friend. Through the simple practice of befriending yourself, you’ll learn how to bring the acceptance, empathy, and compassion of a trusted loved one into the hardest moments, so you can stay grounded no matter what’s happening around you.I’m sharing:

• The #1 reason your hard-earned tools vanish when you’re triggered
• How guilt and self-judgment make reactivity even worse (and what to do instead)
• My favorite technique for handling those “blow your top” moments—befriending yourself
• The 3-step framework of acceptance, empathy, and compassion you can use anywhere (yes, even when your child is having a tantrum in public)
• Why this method works even when your frontal lobe goes offline

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of knowing better but not doing better, this episode will show you how to finally bring your learning into your daily life—so you can respond differently, without the guilt.

Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... 

You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!):

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P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 

 If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately.

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Do you know exactly what your limiting beliefs are… but still can’t seem to move past them?

Or maybe you’ve spotted the patterns holding you back, yet every time you try to take action, fear and resistance pull you right back in?

You’re not alone—and you’re not broken.

This is just how the subconscious mind works.

Last week in Part 1 of our Limiting Beliefs series, we uncovered the hidden beliefs quietly shaping your choices and sabotaging your progress.

This week in Part 2, we’re taking it to the next level—because once you see those beliefs, you have the power to shiftthem.

In this week’s episode of Heal Your Relationships, I’m sharing:

• 3 proven tools to remove limiting beliefs from your subconscious mind

• The exact steps I used to release a lifelong belief about money that was holding me back

• How this process allowed me to recreate my business, relationships, and daily life—without sacrificing financial stability

• A simple identity-shifting question that rewires how you think, feel, and act in any area of your life

If you’ve done the work to identify your limiting beliefs but still feel stuck in the same cycles, this episode is your roadmap out.

With love,

Dr. Kavitha Sun

P.S. If you haven’t heard Part 1 yet—“3 Ways to Uncover Your Hidden Limiting Beliefs”—start there first. Then come back to this episode so you can put the tools into action.

Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... 

 You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!):

 Submit your question

P.P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 

 If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately.

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Do you ever feel like you're doing everything right—reading the books, setting goals, saying the affirmations—but you're still stuck in the same patterns?

Or maybe you know exactly what you want… but no matter how hard you try, you just can’t get yourself to take action.

You're not lazy.

You're not broken. 

You're likely bumping up against something much deeper: limiting beliefs.

In this week’s episode of Heal Your Relationships, I’m diving into:

“3 Ways to Uncover Your Hidden Limiting Beliefs”

Limiting beliefs live under the surface of our conscious mind. They silently shape our choices, habits, and how much we believe we’re allowed to dream. And unless we spot them, we can’t change them.In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The 3 exact tools I used to uncover the limiting beliefs that were keeping me stuck
• How to recognize your own recurring patterns of self-sabotage
• A journaling trick that taps into your subconscious (this alone is worth listening for!)
• How to stop blaming your stuckness on your circumstances—and finally start shifting them

If you’ve been repeating the same habits and getting the same old results, this is the episode you need.

Let’s bring those hidden beliefs to light—so you can create the life you keep saying you want.

With love, Dr. Kavitha Sun

P.S. This is part 1 of a 2-part series. In next week’s episode, I’ll show you how to shift those limiting beliefs. So make sure to listen to this one first!

Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it...

You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!):

 Submit your question

P.P.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. 

 If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately.

FREE tools:

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

For years, I didn’t even realize I was being triggered.

I thought I was just reacting like anyone would.

One moment, I’d be calmly sipping my tea — and the next, someone would say or do the wrong thing, and suddenly, it was like I’d been hijacked by a wild elephant.

Before I knew it, I was saying or doing things I’d later regret.It didn’t feel like a trigger—it just felt like... me.

Which honestly, made it even more confusing...

“If I had a huge reaction, it wasn’t because the situation was that big — it was because there was a raw spot within me. It’s like this: when you have an unhealed wound, even a gentle breeze can feel like a forest fire.” -  Dr. Kavetha Sun

But here’s what shifted everything:

Triggers aren’t problems. They’re invitations.

In this week’s episode of Heal Your Relationships, I’m diving into:

•  Where triggers actually come from (and why it’s not about the other person)
• A metaphor that will completely reframe how you think about reactivity
• Two simple shifts to help you begin healing from the inside out

If you’ve ever wondered why certain things hit you so hard—or how to stop reacting in ways you regret—this is the episode you’ve been waiting for.

🚨 Got a burning question or situation you’d love my coaching on?

Submit it here for an upcoming Q&A episode (all totally anonymous!).

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So… you gave yourself the pep talk. You swore you'd stay calm next time someone pushed your buttons.

And it worked!

…for like, two days 🤣

If you keep finding yourself overreacting — despite all the communication tools, journaling, or deep desire to do better — it might be time to go deeper.

In this week’s podcast, I’ll walk you through a gentle yet powerful practice that uses your imagination to access four inner resources that can help you start healing your inner child — yes, that part of you still carrying unspoken hurts, fears, and unmet needs.

This isn’t about more tactics. It’s about transformation.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why your inner child might be hijacking your emotions
• How your brain uses imagination to rewire pain
• 4 healing resources that live within you — including one that might just be Dumbledore 🧙‍♂️
• A guided exercise to install these calming, protective energies in your body

Listen now!

Whether you're deep in your healing journey or just starting to explore these ideas, this is a conversation that will stay with you.

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

What if the goals you’re chasing aren’t really yours?

Or have you ever felt like you’re pushing toward something you’re “supposed” to want—even if it doesn’t really light you up?

Until you stop and look around and ask yourself—wait… is this really me?

If this feels familiar, this week’s episode might really hit home.

This week on the podcast, I’m diving into something I see so often (in myself and my clients): the difference between our true self and our pseudo-self.

Our pseudo-self can be very convincing. It’s shaped by childhood conditioning, social expectations, family pressures, and the rewards we’ve learned to crave. Sometimes it pushes us toward paths that look right on paper—but leave us feeling stuck, restless, or unfulfilled.

Ask yourself:

• Are you working toward something you’re “supposed” to want—even if it doesn’t excite you?
• Do you ever feel like you're checking boxes for other people instead of yourself?
• Is there something you keep postponing, and you’re not even sure why?

In this episode, I share:

• How to recognize when what you “want” isn’t coming from your true self
• The personal story of my own fork-in-the-road moment (and what happened when I finally listened to my authentic self)
• Questions to ask yourself if you’re facing a big decision right now
• Why resisting your pseudo-self can feel scary—and why it’s worth it

If you’ve been procrastinating on something you say you want… it might not be about laziness. It could be your truest self hitting the brakes.

Tune in to uncover whether the path you’re on truly belongs to you—and start choosing what really lights you up.

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Are you using "I statements" as a cheat sheet to dump your feelings on your partner?

If you’ve ever tried to communicate better in your relationship using “I statements,” you might be surprised to learn they can actually backfire when used the wrong way.

Having the tool of owning your feelings only works if you use it properly – otherwise, it breaks something. In this episode, I offer a psychological insight for us all to snack on and ask if we are really using the "I statement" appropriately.

We will look at how to talk without triggering each other, and the difference between owning your personal feelings effectively and simply using the sh*t sandwich that can be the "I statement" to project your feelings onto others.

This episode also contains the reminder that if you’re not having the goal of connection and greater understanding with your partner, then no amount of "I statements" is going to get you there. Over 90% of communication is non-verbal, so your body language might be saying something completely different too!

Please join me, as we explore healthy ways to get your feelings heard and your needs met.

We’ll unpack:

• How “I statements” can be misused to blame or shame your partner
• The real goal of connection behind effective communication
• How to share your feelings without triggering defensiveness
• Why 90% of communication is nonverbal—and how to use that to your advantage
• The subtle difference between owning your feelings and projecting them
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“If you’re not aiming for true connection and understanding, no amount of ‘I statements’ will get you there.” - Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

Whether you’re talking to a partner, parent, or friend, these insights will help you make every tough conversation a little safer and more constructive.

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Have you ever found yourself asking: Should I stay, or should I go?

Have you wondered if you’re giving up too soon… or staying too long?

Do you find yourself weighing your own needs against the hope of connection?

These questions come up so often in my work with people navigating complicated relationships—whether it’s with a partner, friend, parent, or sibling.

This week on the podcast, I’m sharing 5 essential questions to help you decide if a relationship is truly working for you. These are the questions I wish someone had taught me to ask myself years ago.

We'll talk about:

:heavy_check_mark: How to spot red flags like secrecy or aggression

:heavy_check_mark: How to think about attraction and connection

:heavy_check_mark: Whether you can share celebrations and struggles openly

:heavy_check_mark: And a bonus 6th question to help you keep your side of the street clean

If you’re wrestling with this choice (or know someone who is), this episode is for you.

Let’s make these tough decisions with clarity, honesty, and integrity—so you can choose in a way you'll be proud of for years to come.

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun