Quick gut check. If I recorded your self-talk today, would you want to replay it for someone you love?

Or think of the last hard moment with your partner, child, or colleague. Which words did you reach for first?

Because you can optimize routines all day, but if your language stays the same, your results snap back.

The fastest lever to move your life is the words you use.

Just a small shift in the words you use can change how you feel, how you relate, and how you see your life...

In this week’s episode, Power of Language, I'll share a simple exercise to help you notice the hidden patterns in your self-talk and everyday conversations.

You’ll see why language is one of the most accessible levers for healing, growth, and better relationships.

Try this now (it takes 3 minutes):

1. Free-write a few paragraphs without editing.
2. Step away, then come back and scan for three patterns:

• Pronouns about me (I, me, mine) vs. words of connection (we, us).
• Black-and-white statements vs. nuanced, gray language.
• Phrases of no choice (“I have to…”, “I can’t…”) vs. personal power (“I choose…”, “I will…”).

  3. Notice your overall lean, then pick one area to gently shift this week.

Inside the episode:

01:22 A quick check-in to ground your nervous system

04:13 The first lens for examining your language

06:58 The second lens that reveals hidden patterns

08:32 The third lens that shows where your power leaks

12:57 Why rumination fuels anxiety and depression

16:27 Why language is the easiest access point to change

If you try the exercise, I’d love to hear what you notice. Hit reply and share one phrase you’re shifting this week.

Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it... 

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