If you’ve ever wondered why healing can feel so hard—why it sometimes feels like one step forward and two steps back—you’re not alone.

For a long time, I thought I could heal by reading enough books, journaling more, or simply “being strong.” I believed that if I just worked hard enough on myself, I could finally move on from the past.

But the truth is… you cannot heal alone. None of us can.

Healing is not a straight line—it’s a journey that unfolds in six essential phases.

Each one asks something different of us: courage, surrender, curiosity, community, embodiment, and eventually, reinvention.

And when we begin to see where we are in that journey, everything starts to make sense.

In this week’s episode of Heal Your Relationships, I’m walking you through:

• What each of these six phases looks like
• Why we get “stuck” in certain stages (and how to move through them)
• Why true healing requires community and belonging
• How to make your healing journey a priority—without suffering through it

These six phases changed the way I see my own past, my relationships, and even my purpose—and I hope they’ll do the same for you.

Timestamps:

• 0:00 Why healing feels so hard — and why you can’t do it alone
• 04:44 Phase 1: The emotionally reactive stage (and the moment that sparks change)
• 07:28 Phase 2: Gathering information — why learning is only the beginning
• 09:46 Phase 3: Finding community and belonging — the real key to lasting change
• 14:04 Phase 4: Embodied healing — when your nervous system finally feels safe
• 15:32 Phase 5: Practicing your true self in real life
• 17:19 Phase 6: Reinvention — living as your healed, whole self
• 19:22 Reflection prompts to help you see where you are in your own healing journey

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