Self-care is everywhere. From matcha lattes and five-step skincare routines to cold plunges and pastel journals, the internet is overflowing with advice on how to look after yourself. But here’s the problem…most of it doesn’t work for people like us. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox and Rich pull the curtain back on the performance of self-care and ask the big question: what does it actually look like when you're neurodivergent, overwhelmed, and barely keeping up with life?

We talk honestly about our own struggles — including Rich’s emotional pizza binges and Rox’s battle with cleaning her teeth — and unpack why so many self-care trends set us up to fail. We explore how “care” became something we perform for the internet, why aesthetics can be damaging, and how toxic productivity has snuck into even our bubble baths.

This is not an episode about doing more. It’s about doing less — with kindness. It's about brushing your teeth, sending the email, and drinking some bloody water. If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at self-care, we want you to know: you’re not alone, and there is a better way.