OFF STAGE with Lisa O'Neill

What if the universe is quietly conspiring for your good and the greatest day of your life hasn’t even happened yet? This week, from a sticky Noosa, I’m talking about flipping overthinking on its head: instead of disaster-planning, imagine how things could go right. Because you’ve still got a heartbeat, which means you’ve no idea what delights are coming.

The world feels weird right now. Six planets in retrograde, an election, things cancelling and going sideways. This week, I’m talking about the control ball (the only thing you can truly control is you), running my own weekly audit, and my caution for the fortnight: slow down, be clear, and hold off on big decisions till the energy settles.

So many of us have lost touch with music entirely. This week, I’m talking about your “music diet,” sharing a playlist I’ve made for you, and encouraging you to get intentional again: a morning chill-out, something powerful for the days you need fire, and a reminder to actually press play.

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Decide what you will and won’t tolerate. This week, I’m talking about boundaries, why you’re always allowed to change (and change back), believing in everything and having a crack, and going gloriously retro for Christmas with handmade gifts and “everyday luxuries” for the people who quietly make your life better.

How interesting are you? This week I’m making the case against being boring and inviting you to do an “interesting inventory,” then go top it up. Make the relish, wear the lipstick, turn up to the workshop where you know no one.

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Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. That’s Maya Angelou, and it’s the whole premise of my new book, Do You. This week I’m talking about your biggest job (doing you), reframing the upside of your so-called flaws, surrounding yourself with beautiful things on purpose, and the line I want you saying all week: I’m doing it my way.

If you don’t dress like everyone else, you don’t have to think like everyone else. That’s Iris Apfel, and it’s my whole philosophy this week. I’m talking about dressing like the happiest version of yourself (not the hottest), why saving your favourite things “for best” is nonsense, and my wish for you: wear something no one else likes.

A surprise trip that went gloriously sideways taught me everything about the three parts of experience - anticipation, participation, reflection. This week I'm talking about why the planning is often the best bit, a simple idea for shifting a culture that badly needs it ("that's not okay," said out loud and with love), and the Byron Katie line holding it all together: everything happens for you, not to you.

Our bodies hold on to what our minds won't say. This week, craving space in Nelson, I'm talking about Louise Hay's work and how emotional energy gets trapped in the body - shoulders for responsibility, hips for moving forward, the calendar-fear behind one friend's hay fever. Lie down, have a meeting with your body, and listen to what it's telling you.

The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

This week, from a stormy stopover in Nelson, I'm talking about being a proper life addict, squashing catch-ups and experiences in around the work, why I built the Purpose Planner to hold all of it, and how to make your own week a little bit juicier.