OFF STAGE with Lisa O'Neill

This week when I opened my planner to page 146, I found Byron Katie's quote staring back at me: I am a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, because it hurts when I argue with reality.

I've been using her four questions for about 20 years and I'm still not done with them. They're that good.

The four questions are simple. Is it true? Can you absolutely know it's true? How do you react when you believe it's true? And who would you be without the thought? I walk you through all of them this week.

I'm great at buying supplements. Taking them? That's where it falls apart. This week I'm talking about why I think every woman needs them, how to figure out what you actually need, and the simple tricks that help me remember to take the damn things. Your body has been asking for this. Time to listen.

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When life throws rocks in your path, you can't always move them - but you can be the water that flows around them. This week Lisa shares the visualisation keeping her grounded through a genuinely ridiculous week, plus discovery calls, a seafood boil, and why you should watch the Jacinda documentary even if you hate politics.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is about asking for help. We're shit at it because we're really capable. When you ask for help, you're giving people an opportunity to be generous, so do it as a game. Be specific, and don't feel guilty.

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Elizabeth Lisa wrote the most stunning book called Broken Open and there's a quote that says, "the difficult times we fear might ruin us can break us open and help us blossom." My cup has overflowed with hard stuff but it's making me better not bitter. Hard is good because it stretches us. I'm in that stretchy bit where you can feel your muscles tweaking.

The Marianne Williamson quote in my planner says "everyone is on a spiritual path, most people just don't know it." What does your soul need? Not just courage, but permission or a shove to be braver. Our triggers are our teachers, crisis is a curriculum, the cave you fear holds the treasure you seek, and when was the last time you had your head held?

I'm recording this from Shanghai and I am absolutely living my best life. Eight incredible women, markets where the answer is always yes, and a city that runs entirely on possibility and contrast. This week I'm staying in the moment, because that's where the magic is.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is all about spiritual energy and beliefs. Some people were told what to believe, but I was raised by an atheist father and Presbyterian mother, so I got stuck in the middle and got to choose, which is actually a gift.

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Iris Apfel says, "You don't find out who you are unless you work at it." The greatest project we ever work on is ourselves, and you're not a $5 note so don't find yourself. Try different things and reinvent yourself every two years instead of becoming forgetfully the same.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is all about mental energy, the stuff that either makes you mental or stops you from being mental and how much clarity you have when your brain feels fuzzy, scattered, muddy, or crunchy.

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