OFF STAGE with Lisa O'Neill

We're all born with three things: a mind, a body, and a lifetime. How you use the first two determines the third. This week I'm talking about your head diet, why worrying is a waste of your time (be a nonstick fry pan), and why my biggest fear of being frail has turned me into someone who refuses help lifting her own bag. Nourish it, rest it, strengthen it.

You are not the voice in your head. You're just the one who hears it. This week, I'm talking Michael Singer, why your thoughts are just goldfish swimming around a bowl, and the question I ask myself every hour of every day: what would make my energy better?

Being sick tipped me straight into the victim corner which isn't where I usually live. This week I'm talking about Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle: victim, persecutor, and rescuer. None of them are the answer, we all have a default, and once you can see these energies in your relationships, you genuinely can't un-see them.

The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

This week, I'm talking about why sleep isn't optional when people rely on your energy, and the thing we're all so bad at: doing nothing. My challenge to you? Get one full day to yourself out of the next seven.

This week, I'm laughing my way through a birthday audit. I use my birthday like an end-of-financial-year review: what's working, what needs fixing, what does version 5.6 of me need? I'm talking food, fitness, why I don't drink, and the line I keep coming back to: if you fuck up your body, you've got nowhere to live.

Action breeds confidence and I'm deep in an action phase this birthday week. I'm talking about why worrying is just worshiping your problems, the beautiful tension between "I am ashes and dust" and "the world was made for me," and my genuine advice for your next birthday: lie about your age, but go up. Because old age is a privilege.

I spent $90 getting my aura cleansed, and it got me thinking about why we'll spend that on an oil change without blinking but not on ourselves. This week, I'm talking about bodywork, energy cords, closing open loops, and having an actual meeting with your body to ask it what it needs.

The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

When you're running here, there and everywhere, your energy takes a hit. So this week I'm getting my aura cleansed between Sydney and Wellington. I'm talking about magnetic healing, why disease can show up in your energy field months before your body, and the simple truth underneath all of it: no one else is going to look after your energy. That's your job.

Every feeling you have has a vibration and once you know the ladder, you can't unsee it. This week, I'm sharing the chart I've been showing at conferences (print it, stick it on your fridge), the small things that lift my vibe, and why sometimes the healthiest thing is to sit in your shit for a bit before climbing out.

The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

We're at the midpoint of the year so what happened to all those January promises? This week, I'm talking about the three things I'm passionate about, the three F's everyone should sort by 40 (fitness, friends, finances), and my favourite thing in the whole world: taking responsibility for wherever you are, even when it's not your fault. You've got six months. Don't waste them.