Fear is natural and fear can be good; it's a kind of warning system. But what happens when fear goes beyond a healthy warning system and traps your mind in a vicious cycle of shame? In this episode, we will help you identify and understand your fear(s) in a way that offers you hope and a new vision for how to overcome fear. If you would like help in navigating your fears and learning to overcome them with grace and truth, please contact us. Previous Podcasts and Media on Fear: Recovery Discovery 008: Overcoming Fear#763: Finding Rest by Speaking Out Your Deepest Fear#776: How to Learn (and Respond to) Your Fear System
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Overcoming the Fear that Lives in My Head

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DOUBLE YOUR GIFT! Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED! Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support! ---------- In today's episode, I have a heart-to-heart with Stephen Cervantes about the journey of recovery. We dive into how it's more than just getting back on your feet; it's about pausing, finding stability, and reaching out for a helping hand. But that's not the end of the road!  Recovery is this beautiful bridge to an exciting phase of self-discovery and growth. Together, we unpack the deeper mission that lies ahead—embracing the love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and getting to know ourselves better.  So, if you're curious about turning a new leaf and finding purpose post-recovery, this chat is for you. Join us as we explore these transformative steps to a fuller, love-filled life! For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.  Topics Covered in this Episode: Concept of recovery and transition to a new growth missionImportance of stopping and stabilizing in recoverySeeking outside help and community supportRecovery as a bridge to discovery and growthPurpose of new growth mission: learning about love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, understanding oneselfDifferent interpretations of recoveryRole of relationships and community in the recovery processRecovery as a journey toward growth and learningShift in focus from negative behaviors to love and personal understandingEmphasis on community, outside help, and shift in focus towards love and personal understanding
 More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsGrace-Based Transformation* bookRelated Podcasts:For Men Who Want to Finish StrongWhat Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?Understanding 4 Key Roles in Your Story
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How Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission?

DOUBLE YOUR GIFT! Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED! Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support! ---------- In today’s episode, we have Vern Tompke back with us. Vern is our Canadian pastor and coach who helps other pastors and men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors.  We talked about the three key stages of recovery, which are: Breaking the habitAddressing the deep-seated issues of the heart and mindRecalibrating sexuality to enjoy the abundant life Christ offers
 Whether you are just starting your recovery journey or years into it, Vern’s wisdom is a beacon of hope. And we mention lots of really good resources that will help you along the way, which we will include in the show notes.  To learn more about Vern and his resources, visit BandofBrothers.care. Topics Covered in This Episode: Three stages of recovery from porn addictionBreaking the habitDealing with underlying issuesRedeeming or recalibrating one's sexualityImportance of practical tools, boundaries, and grace-filled accountabilityAddressing underlying lies, pain, wounds, attachment issues, and unmet needsThe ongoing nature of the recovery journeyEmphasizing the need to move beyond objectification and consumption of beautyEncouraging men to engage in real relationships and build healthy social and coping skillsAdvocating for living in the light, engaging in community, and seeking a fuller understanding of recovery
 More Resources:Willpower Doesn't Work* by Benjamin HardyThe Thing Beneath the Thing* by Steve CarterThe Psychology of Porn* by Andrew BaumanRelated Podcasts:The Stopwatch Acting Out CycleUnderstanding Freedom, Identity, and Creativity in Addiction RecoveryA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth
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Navigating the 3 Stages of Recovery from Porn Addiction

The Selfishness Addiction – Yes, you read that right. We're diving deep into how an addiction to selfishness can shape our behaviors and strain our relationships. We’re peeling back the layers of why we sometimes confuse self-preservation with self-centeredness. Understanding Freedom – We start by exploring the true meaning of freedom. It's not just about breaking free from unwanted behaviors like porn addiction; it's about finding peace, rest, and joy. We're talking about aligning with the soul's fundamental needs, as taught by Jesus himself. From Selfish to Selfless – We've all been there, right? Putting ourselves first, fast, and completely. But here's the kicker: the more we focus on ourselves, the less satisfied we feel. It's a paradox that we unpack with humor, honesty, and a touch of humility. A New Perspective – Imagine realizing that your whole life has been a race to put yourself first, only to end up feeling empty. That's the story of a Christian brother who woke up to his selfishness addiction. It's a powerful moment of vulnerability that might just change the way you see your own life. Growth and Healing – This episode isn't just about identifying the problem; it's about finding the path to healing. We discuss the importance of taking small steps towards giving, towards others, and towards a life filled with genuine connection. So, if you've ever felt caught in the cycle of coping and surviving rather than truly living, this episode is for you. It's time to break free from the chains of selfishness and step into a life of selfless joy. Topics Covered in this Episode:Selfishness addiction and its impact on behavior and relationshipsUnderstanding the difference between healthy self-care and selfishnessSelfishness driven by fear and focus on one's own desires and needsThe concept of freedom and its relation to the deeper needs of individualsThe importance of aligning with the fundamental needs of the soulThe distinction between healthy self-awareness and selfishnessThe detrimental impact of selfishness on individuals and their relationshipsThe immature and wounded nature of selfishness addictionThe natural order of relationships and the importance of learning to be selfless while still caring for oneselfThe insight and honesty of admitting and addressing selfishness addiction
 More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenDoctorMarriage.orgFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:Self-Care vs. SelfishnessAbout Your Emotional Connecting SkillsIt's All About Me!
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Is Selfishness Addiction Holding You Back from True Freedom and Joy?

Shawna Meek, founder of Living Stones Coaching, joins us to share her incredible journey through marriage, divorce, and unexpected reconciliation. Shawna opens up about the challenges she faced in her relationship, from communication breakdowns to confronting her husband's infidelity – and learning how his previously undiagnosed neurodiversity impacted his sexual brokenness and their marriage.  Shawna then shares about setting boundaries, the importance of individual growth, and how she and her husband both worked on themselves to rebuild trust.  Her story is a testament to the complexities of love and the resilience and faith needed to navigate them. As a result of this journey, Shawna turned her personal trials into a passion for coaching and helping others through their own relationship struggles.  To learn more about Shawna and her resources, visit LivingStoneCoaching.com.  Topics Covered in this Episode: Shauna Meek's personal story and experiencesNavigating neurodiversity challenges in relationships and marriageSeeking help and setting boundariesHealing and recovery processIndividual coping strategies and personal growthBuilding trust and safety in a marriageLessons learned about oneself and each otherTransformation and growth in relationshipsOvercoming communication differencesReconciliation and remarriage
 More Resources:Determined for More* by Shawna MeekNeurodiverse Coaching and MentoringHope RestoredRelated Podcasts:The Journey to StayConflict Management for Marriages Healing from BetrayalHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
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Neurodiversity Challenges in Marriage Restoration

I'm thrilled to have the amazing Danisa Suarez back on the program. Today, we're tackling a subject that's really important to a lot of people: women's understanding of their own bodies and sexuality.  Danisa has put together an incredible e-course called "The Story of Her," (https://ccicourses.org/thestoryofher) and she's here to share why it's so essential for women to recognize and celebrate their unique design and to confidently step into their womanhood. We're not shying away from the difficult topics either—we discuss how to heal from past wounds and pursue a godly approach to sexual fulfillment. Plus, Danisa’s got some solid, actionable tips for anyone looking for support on this path.  This episode is all about empowering women and deepening their relationship with God. Make sure you don't miss out on Danisa’s valuable insights—follow her on Instagram for more inspiring talks! @danisasuarezoficial Topics Covered in this Episode: Importance of understanding women's bodies and sexualityInfluences affecting women's self-imageFighting against comparisonChallenges faced by women who have experienced brokenness, abuse, or sexual violationsLack of mentorship and education for women regarding their bodiesImpact of social media, mass media, and culture on women's self-imageWomen's sexuality and its connection to confidence, knowledge, and attitudesChallenges and roadblocks in the journey towards sexual health and wholenessImportance of seeking support and guidance in the journey towards sexual health and wholenessEmpowerment, encouragement, and finding fulfillment in the relationship with God
 More Resources:SheRecovery.comCCI CounselingThe Body Revelation*
 Related Podcasts:Understanding Female Sexuality and StrugglesWhat Men Need to Know About Female SexualityWomen and Sex
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Overcoming the Fear that Lives in My Head

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