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In this episode, I sit down with Matt Wenger to explore his powerful concept, the "Wheel of Destruction." Matt breaks down the five interconnected factors that fuel sex and porn addiction: trauma, maladaptive sexual experiences, attachment wounds, nervous system dysregulation, and brain changes. He explains how these elements feed into each other, creating a destructive cycle that impacts every area of life. 

Matt also shares practical pathways to healing through therapy, community, and sobriety. Most importantly, he reminds us that recovery is absolutely possible—your brain, heart, and body are capable of healing, and you don't have to face this journey alone.

Get more info on Matt and resources to help your recovery journey at BeginAgainInstitute.com. 

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Understanding sex and porn addiction recovery
• Introduction of the "Wheel of Destruction" concept
• Interconnected factors contributing to addiction: trauma, maladaptive sexual experiences, attachment wounds, autonomic nervous system dysregulation, and brain changes
• The impact of trauma on addiction and recovery
• The role of attachment wounds in shaping addictive behaviors
• The relationship between shame and attachment wounds
• Importance of community and authentic relationships in recovery
• The effects of autonomic nervous system dysregulation on behavior and recovery
• Brain plasticity and the potential for healing in recovery
• Messages of hope and support for individuals struggling with addiction

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
• Begin Again Institute 14-Day Christian Men's Intensive
• How Sex Addiction Creates False Intimacy

Related Podcast:

• The Importance of "Whole Man" Recovery
• Reframing Recovery as Emotional Regulation
• Porn and Sex Addiction Recovery as Mental Health Issues

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In this episode, I talk with Lyschel Burket about something every betrayed spouse needs to think about: what happens if there’s a relapse? We get honest about how deeply destabilizing that can be, especially for wives who have already been through the pain of betrayal and are trying to rebuild a sense of safety.

Lyschel helps us understand why a relapse can feel like another trauma. It can knock a wife’s body and mind right back into survival mode, making it hard to think clearly, make decisions, or even know what to do next. That’s why we spend time talking about the value of a relapse safety plan, which is really a practical way to prepare before a crisis hits.

We walk through the important pieces of that plan, including how to define the difference between a slip and a relapse, why it matters to think ahead about your physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, and relational needs, and how a plan can actually reduce panic when life feels chaotic. We also talk about the unfairness many wives feel in having to create this kind of plan, and why it still can be an act of wisdom and self-care.

At the heart of it all, Lyschel reminds us that a woman’s safety is not ultimately dependent on her husband’s choices. God is the true source of her provision, protection, and hope.

To learn more about Lyschel and the resources she offers to wives, visit HopeRedefined.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Relapse and betrayal trauma.
• How relapse destabilizes a spouse.
• Slip vs. relapse.
• Why a relapse safety plan matters.
• Preparing before crisis hits.
• Fire escape plan analogy.
• Key safety plan categories.
• Hope and stability in God.

More Resources:

• Relapse Safety Plan Workshop
• Redeemed Hope intensive
• Online Wives Care Groups

Related Podcasts:

• Helping Wives Restore Hope After Betrayal Trauma in Marriage
• Identifying and Meeting Needs in a Betrayed Wife
• The Need for Boundaries After Betrayal

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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Carol Tanksley to explore intimacy and sexuality for single Christians—a topic the church often overlooks. Drawing from her own journey through 40+ years of singleness, marriage, and widowhood, Carol unpacks the difference between sex and intimacy, how Jesus modeled deep connection without sexual activity, and how singles can honor God with their desires. 

We also tackle harmful church misconceptions, the importance of healthy touch, and practical wisdom for navigating boundaries. Carol leaves us with three powerful principles: stay clean, stay connected, stay consecrated.

To learn more about Carol and her ministry, visit DrCarolMinistries.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Discussion on intimacy and sexuality for single Christians.
• Distinction between sex and intimacy.
• Emotional and physical intimacy needs beyond sexual activity.
• Challenges faced by single Christians regarding intimacy and sexuality.
• Misconceptions within church culture about singleness and sexuality.
• The role of the church in supporting single adults.
• Practical advice for singles to steward their sexuality and intimacy.
• Importance of non-sexual physical touch and healthy friendships.
• Addressing shame and regret over past sexual choices.
• Encouragement for singles to find purpose and connection beyond sexual relationships.

More Resources:

• Sexpectations online course
• Sexpectations* (book) by Dr. Carol Tanksley
• Sex & Anxiety online course

Related Podcasts:

• Being a Single, Sexual Man
• Exploring the Heart of Sexuality with Dr. Carol Tanksley
• What Are Your Sexpectations?

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In this episode of the Family Time segment,* I sit down with Norma Q-Brown, Director of our Family Care ministry to explore the sixth critical conversation in our series: "Leveraging Your Story." Norma and I discuss how parents can wisely and humbly share their personal testimonies with their children to build trust and connection around sexuality.

We cover practical tips on age-appropriate sharing, avoiding oversharing, and keeping God's redemptive power at the center of the conversation. Norma also shares eye-opening survey results revealing how fear keeps both parents and teens from opening up with each other.

To enroll in our free Critical Conversations online course, visit PureLifeAcademy.org.

For all of our Family resources, including our free Critical Conversations online course, visit Bebroken.org/family.

*Family Time episodes are short, practical conversations to help parents feel more confident and competent in raising kids according to God’s design, even in a sex-saturated culture.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Importance of discussing sexuality from a Christian perspective with children.
• Navigating a hyper-sexualized culture and its impact on children.
• Overview of the six critical conversations in family care ministry.
• Focus on the sixth conversation: "Leveraging Your Story."
• Encouragement for parents to share personal stories and testimonies with their children.
• Building trust, connection, and credibility through vulnerability.
• Importance of age-appropriate sharing and maintaining boundaries.
• Addressing the fear and isolation that can exist between parents and teens regarding discussions about sex.
• Emphasizing God's redemptive power in personal stories.
• Resources and practical tips for parents to facilitate these conversations effectively.

Resources for Next Steps:

• Critical Conversation Online Course (free)
• Father-Son Accountability* by John Fort
• Girl Talk by Ashley Jameson

For more parenting podcasts, go to Bebroken.org/tp-pods and scroll to Family Bundles.

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In this episode, I sit down with Cat Etherington, Director of Recovery at Naked Truth Project, to explore how addiction impacts parenting and family dynamics. Cat openly shares her personal journey through addiction and recovery, offering powerful insights into how addiction disrupts parent-child attachment and creates generational cycles of shame. 

Together, we discuss practical ways parents in recovery can stabilize their family environment, communicate honestly with their children, and navigate the process of rupture and repair. Cat also offers encouraging words about making amends without shame and reminds us that healing is always possible, no matter where you are in your journey. 

For more info about Cat and the resources at Naked Truth Project, visit NakedTruthProject.com. 

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Impact of addiction on family dynamics and parenting.
• Personal experiences with addiction and recovery.
• Effects of addiction on attachment between parents and children.
• Challenges parents face in recovery, including emotional immaturity and shame.
• Importance of providing age-appropriate information to children.
• The process of rupture and repair in building secure attachments.
• Strategies for parents to apologize and make amends without shame.
• The generational cycle of shame and addiction.
• The significance of open communication and emotional expression in families.
• Hope for ongoing repair and healing in family relationships.

More Resources:

• Help for Husbands/Dads
• Help for Wives/Moms
• Help for Families

Related Podcasts:

• How Early Development Trauma Shapes Addiction and Relationships
• How Parents Can Leverage their Story of Brokenness to Help Their Kids Pursue Integrity
• How to Move from Anxious Attachment to Secure Attachment

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In today’s episode, I sit down with my good friend Dr. Stephen Cervantes, also known as Doctor Marriage, to explore how wives can recognize genuine change in their husbands after betrayal. We break it down into two key indicators: new language and new behaviors. A truly changing husband takes initiative in his growth journey, developing emotional awareness, practicing patience, managing anger, and seeking accountability and genuine friendships with other men. 

Stephen and I emphasize that real transformation comes from a deep, heartfelt commitment to personal growth, not external pressure or just short-term relief from discomfort. It's a lifelong growth mission, and we're here to encourage men and couples every step of the way!

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Trust issues in marriage following past betrayals.
• Indicators of genuine change in husbands, including new language and behaviors.
• The importance of husbands taking initiative in their emotional and spiritual growth.
• The role of humility and self-awareness in fostering real change.
• Practical steps for husbands to demonstrate commitment to growth.
• The significance of emotional awareness and understanding in relationships.
• The impact of sharing new insights and learning experiences on marital trust.
• The necessity of patience and intentionality in the process of change.
• The value of accountability and support from other men in personal growth.
• The ongoing nature of growth and the importance of a lifelong commitment to improvement.

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
• 40 Days of Healing for Wives (online course)
• 1-on-1 Consultations

Related Podcasts:

• The Anatomy of Awakening from Addiction
• Men's Emotional Self-Awareness Test
• How Do You Know if You Are Changing?

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In this episode, I sit down with Dan Johnson, creator of the PATH plan, who opens up about his decades-long struggle with pornography addiction. Dan shares his personal journey, from his first encounter with porn in seventh grade to a pivotal confession to his wife in 2019. 

He introduces his practical recovery tool, the PATH Plan — a simple four-step method designed to help men navigate the moment of temptation without shame or giving in to urges. Dan also highlights the importance of community, mental rehearsal, and having strong personal reasons to pursue freedom. 

To learn more about Dan and his resources, visit HeisFree.me. 

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Discussion on unwanted sexual behaviors, particularly pornography addiction.
• Personal journey of struggling with pornography addiction and recovery.
• Introduction of the "Path Plan" as a practical tool for managing temptation.
• Explanation of the four steps of the Path Plan: Pause, Acknowledge, Timer, and High Five.
• Importance of community support in the recovery process.
• Role of mental rehearsal in preparing for moments of temptation.
• Need for strong emotional reasons to resist temptation.
• Common pitfalls faced by individuals trying to break free from addiction, especially in isolation.
• Shift in perspective from battling urges to allowing and feeling them.
• Emphasis on the goal of living a full, rich life in connection with others rather than just achieving sobriety.

More Resources:

• Get the FREE P.A.T.H. Plan
• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
• Frontline Toolkit

Related Podcasts:

• Understanding Man's Inner Sexual Conflict
• What to Do in the Moment of Temptation
• What a Porn Free Day Actually Looks Like (A Practical Walkthrough)

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In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Karla Downing to tackle one of the most challenging topics in marriage — recovering from sexual betrayal. Karla breaks down how fear and anxiety affect both partners after betrayal, explaining the push-and-pull patterns of hyper and hypo-reactivity that can make healing so difficult. 

She offers practical, compassionate steps for couples to identify and manage their fears, rebuild trust, and communicate more openly. We also explore how leaning on Christ together can serve as a steady anchor throughout the healing journey. 

To learn more about Karla and her resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com. 

Karla also provided us with a handout for today’s podcast. You can access it at Bebroken.org/anxietyhandout.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• The impact of sexual betrayal on couples' relationships.
• Common fears and anxieties experienced by both spouses after betrayal.
• The emotional dynamics of hypo-reactivity and hyper-reactivity in relationships.
• The importance of recognizing and managing fears in the healing process.
• The role of faith and trust in God during recovery from betrayal.
• The effects of fear of rejection and loss on both partners.
• Communication strategies for expressing fears and emotions.
• Practical steps for couples to handle their fears and promote healing.
• The significance of awareness in identifying and addressing fears.
• Resources available for couples seeking support and guidance in healing relationships.

More Resources:

• 10 Relationship-Changing Principles
• Self-Esteem Quiz
• Change My Relationship* by Karla Downing

Related Podcasts:

• 8 Practical Steps of Forgiveness
• Helping Men Understand a Woman's Grief Process
• How Couples Can Navigate the "Messy Middle" After Betrayal Trauma

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In this episode of the Family Time segment*, I sit down with our Family Care Director, Norma Q-Brown, to explore the fifth of six critical conversations parents should have with their kids about sexuality. After recapping the first four conversations, we dive into what to do when your child is exposed to sexual content. 

Norma shares practical tools like code words, open-ended questions, and age-appropriate communication to help parents respond calmly rather than react. She also highlights valuable resources, including courses we provide on Pure Life Academy and recommended books, to help parents confidently guide their children through these inevitable challenges.

To enroll in our free Critical Conversations online course, visit PureLifeAcademy.org.

For all of our Family resources, including our free Critical Conversations online course, visit Bebroken.org/family.

*Family Time episodes are short, practical conversations to help parents feel more confident and competent in raising kids according to God’s design, even in a sex-saturated culture.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Importance of equipping children to navigate a sexualized culture from birth to 18 years old.
• Overview of the first four critical conversations parents should have with their children regarding sexuality.
• Discussion on the significance of conversation five: addressing exposure to sexual content or situations.
• Strategies for parents to create a safe environment for discussing sexual content.
• The necessity of maintaining a calm and non-reactive demeanor during conversations about exposure.
• Age-appropriate communication techniques for discussing sexual topics with children of different ages.
• Emphasis on modeling self-control and vulnerability as a parent during discussions.
• Practical tools and strategies for facilitating ongoing conversations about sexuality and exposure.
• Resources available for parents to deepen their understanding and approach to these conversations.
• Encouragement for parents to engage in difficult conversations despite feelings of anxiety or overwhelm.

Resources for Next Steps:

• Critical Conversation Online Course (free)
• Processing Exposure: Ages 8-12
• Processing Exposure with Teens

For more parenting podcasts, go to Bebroken.org/tp-pods and scroll to Family Bundles.

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In today’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Eddie Capparucci to explore emotional regulation as the cornerstone of addiction recovery. Dr. Eddie explains the "window of tolerance," how unresolved childhood trauma drives addictive behaviors, and why true recovery goes beyond just stopping harmful actions. 

We discuss how emotional dysregulation connects to relapse, how people of faith can embrace their emotions in healthy ways, and how deeper emotional work transforms relationships, intimacy, and character. Dr. Eddie also shares practical techniques to help listeners begin their emotional healing journey today. 

To learn more about Dr. Eddie and his inner child recovery model, visit AbundantLifeCounselingGA.com or email [email protected].

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Importance of emotional regulation in addiction recovery
• Definition and explanation of the "window of tolerance"
• Connection between emotional dysregulation and addictive behaviors
• Role of unresolved childhood trauma in emotional dysregulation
• Misconceptions about emotions, particularly among people of faith
• Practical strategies for emotional regulation in real-time situations
• Impact of emotional regulation on intimacy and empathy in relationships
• Transformation of character through deeper emotional work in recovery
• Differences between behavior change and emotional work in recovery outcomes
• Techniques and resources for practicing emotional regulation skills

More Resources:

• Going Deeper* by Eddie Capparucci
• Going Deeper for Women* by Eddie Capparucci
• Other books* by Dr. Eddie Capparucci

Related Podcasts:

• Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex Addiction
• Going Deeper for Women: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction
• Why Building Confidence is Important to Recovery

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