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Transformation VS Improvement. 

Improvement focuses on better whereas transformation focuses on different. 

Usually, improvement is focused on the perceived problems, and simply improving how we respond to the problem. 

Transformation on the other hand is focused on the vision of what could be and becoming the vision. 

There is a time a place for both transformation and improvement. 

To Transform or to Improve, That is The Question

Like I said, there is a time and a place for both transformation and improvement. 

You get to decide where you are and what you need. 

You can achieve both through coaching, but it's up to you to know and understand what YOU want to be working on. 

How to Achieve Parenting Transformation

Step #1 Start with Awareness 

This is my favorite place to start. Take some time to develop some awareness about where you are in your own personal growth. Become aware of what is going on around you and within you. Understand not only the what, but the why and the impact it is having on you. 

I see lots of people skipping this step. They want a transformation. They know they are not happy as they are, but they don't really take the time to deeply understand why.  

Become aware of what you CAN and CAN'T control, what you want to control and what you don't want to control, and what you're willing to control and what you're not willing to control. This awareness will help prepare you for step #2.

For more on awareness checkout Episode 39, Awareness Before Intention

Step #2 Be Willing to Let Go of Things 

This step is huge! In fact, currently the biggest struggle that I see with the parents that I work with is their unwillingness to let go of things. And 99% of the time, the things parents have the hardest time letting go of are the things that aren't actually within their control. 

Be willing to let go of the things that you cannot control. 

Be willing to let go of things that are not your priority. We live in a world that has normalized trying to do E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. We end up doing so many things that we can't do any of them well. 

If it's not a priority, stop doing it. 

This step is key to getting a transformation! When you commit to doing less, you'll actually get way more done!

Step #3 Be intentional

Being intentional is vital to creating a parenting transformation. Being unintentional is likely what has created your current circumstance. Most of what we do is unintentional. By shifting into intention, you will change who you are BEing. 

To do this, really explore . . . 
WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE? 
WHAT ARE MY VALUES?
WHAT ARE MY PRIORITIES?
WHAT ARE THE RESULTS I WANT TO ACCOMPLISH AS A PARENT?

This doesn't mean that you will magically be perfectly intentional. Learn from the times that you are living out of intention. Recommit to BEing the change that you want to see. 

Summer Is Perfect For Transformation

I believe that summer time is actually a better time to achieve a transformation, especially for parents like you!

Summer is only 2-3 months. You're not committing to a whole year like you did in January. It's doable. 

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