Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson

We can get so distracted by unwanted behaviors in our lives that we never get around to asking ourselves why that behavior is in our lives. 

Why do we self-sabotage? Why do we choose unhealthy relationships? Why do we drink? Why do we binge eat? Why do we treat ourselves with such self-hatred and self-loathing? 

In this episode, we walk through a series of questions that can help us get to the root of why we have those behaviors and start to heal the source of those behaviors. 

What's in this episode:

• Understanding the Difference Between Symptoms and Core Issues
• A Self-Discovery Exercise
• Identifying the Problem We Are Trying To Address
• Understanding The Need We Trying To Meet?
• How Do Feelings And Thoughts Impact Our Behaviors? 
• How Our Core Beliefs Come From Our Experiences.
• Understanding Self-Compassion And Trauma.

I hope this episode can help as you seek to address painful behaviors in your life and finally get to the root of why those behaviors are there.

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Jerry

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The healing journey is about the traveler on the path. As we begin to address the root issues of our pain, it is important to understand what the traveler needs for the journey. 

The healing journey is a complex dance between strength and gentleness. We often push ourselves too hard, ignoring our need for rest, kindness, and compassion.

In this episode, we examine the following topics:

• Things I wish someone would have told me about the healing journey.
• That there is no final destination
• How we care for the traveler on the path
• Some ground rules for the journey
• Being gentle with the traveler
• Being Patient with the traveler
• Allowing the traveler to rest
• Focusing on the next step
• Asking for help when we need it
• An exercise of self-compassion for the traveler

As we get into some of the root issues driving so much of the pain in our lives, we will begin to see how beautiful the traveler is and that the journey ultimately leads us to our authentic selves. 

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Jerry

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What happens when we know we need to heal, but we can't seem to find the strength to take the first step? 

Taking action is a vital part of the healing journey. The challenge is when we feel so exhausted from the pain we have experienced that taking action seems almost impossible. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• My story of waking up and deciding to take action
• The importance of taking action
• Understanding why we don't take action
• Practicing self-compassion when we don't take action
• Understanding what we need to take action
• Discovering one action, we can take
• Loving ourselves enough to take action

I know it can feel overwhelming to feel like you can't take the step that you need to. I hope this episode has helped you understand how to get started. I believe in you; you can do it.

You are worthy of your own love,

Jerry

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The first step in healing is to awaken to the fact that we need to heal. We often go through life ignoring our pain, medicating it, and coping with it. 

When we awaken to the fact that we have deep pain and wounds that need to heal and see that we are worthy of healing, everything begins to change. 

In this first episode of The Healing Journey series, we look at the first stage of the healing journey, which is awakening to our need to heal, that we are worthy of healing, and that we have the power to heal. 

In this episode, we take a look at the following:

• That there are no "rules" on how we heal
• The importance of self-compassion
• The 5 A's of the healing journey
• Awakening our desire to heal
• See that we are worthy of healing
• Why do we sometimes get stuck on the journey
• Things that help awaken us to our need to heal

I hope that this episode serves you in your awakening process to see how worthy you are of a beautiful life. 

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Jerry

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Do you feel like you are missing out on your life because the present moment doesn't feel safe? Are you constantly distracting yourself from the present moment as a coping mechanism?  

Life is happening now, but to be present and enjoy our lives we have to feel safe in the present moment. 

For decades I felt like I missed out on my life. The present moment didn't feel safe, so I learned to detach and disassociate from the present moment as a coping mechanism.  

Part of my healing journey has been learning how to make the present moment feel like a safe place to be. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• How life and traumatic events trained us to feel like the present moment isn't safe.
• How can we learn to feel safe by starting to heal the sources of trauma in our lives.
• How the practice of self-compassion can help us to become our own safe space.
• How the practice of meditation can assist us in feeling safe in the moment. 
• How the practice of mindfulness can help train us to feel like the present moment is safe.

You are worthy of doing the work to learn to be present and stop missing out on the beautiful moments of your life. 

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Jerry

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•  The difference between healthy and unhealthy people-pleasing, 
• The impact on our lives of unhealthy people-pleasing behaviors.
• Some of the reasons why we fall into people-pleasing behaviors.
• How we can learn to create a sense of safety in saying no. 

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Self-Love isn't selfish. We have heard that phrase for a long time. It has almost become a mantra in the self-help and self-love community. However, for many of us, we still feel guilty and/or selfish when we practice self-love.

So how do we address what is behind the feelings of guilt and selfishness in living out a life where we fully love and accept ourselves? 

In this episode, we take a look at the following:

1. The origins of why we feel guilty about self-love 
2. The reasons why self-love isn't selfish
3. How to let go of the feelings of guilt and selfishness around self-love.

Love isn't a finite resource, and it actually multiplies in the presence of love. As we love ourselves, we also have more love to give to others. So let's do ourselves and others a favor and learn to love ourselves without guilt. 

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Jerry

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Ever felt like a complete fraud, just waiting to be found out, regardless of evidence to suggest you shouldn't feel that way? It's a feeling far more common than you might think, and it's called imposter syndrome. In this episode, we're dissecting every corner of imposter syndrome - its roots, how trauma influences it, and even the interesting ways it tries to keep us safe. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• What is Imposter Syndrome?
• Where Does It Come from?
• My Challenges With It
• How Can We Overcome it?

But there's hope. By embracing our authentic selves, we can begin to dismantle these feelings of inadequacy. As we give ourselves the acceptance we are ultimately looking for, we can start to heal the parts of us that are experiencing the imposter syndrome. 

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Jerry

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If you are a trauma survivor who has struggled with telling the truth, you might be surprised to learn that this can be a  common struggle for trauma survivors. 

For many of us who experienced trauma, lying became a part of our daily lives. We used lying as a way to stay safe, protect others, and avoid shame. Just because we have gotten older doesn't mean those survival mechanisms automatically go away. As long as we see telling the truth as dangerous, we will continue to fall back into patterns of lying. 

In this episode, we explore the following:

• How did trauma train us to lie?. 
• How do we let go of the shame of "survival lying?"
• How do we develop a healthy relationship with telling the truth?
  • Telling the truth to ourselves.
  • Identifying what triggers us to lie.
  • Building a safe relationship with telling the truth.
  • Holding ourselves accountable when we lie.

We can heal our relationship with telling the truth and live a life that is alignmed with who we truly are. 

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Jerry

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If you have experienced trauma and have difficulty with positive thinking, you are not alone. 

In this episode, we discuss:

1. What Positive Thinking Is Not
2. What Positive Thinking Means to Me 
3. How Does Trauma Impact Our Ability To Think Positively 
4. How Can We Teach Ourselves to Think Positively 

I have also included a practice that we can try to help us see the positive things that are already in our lives. 

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Jerry

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