Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson

Have you ever wondered if you can stay in a relationship with an unhealthy person when you are trying to heal?

Do you have to leave in order to heal? Can you stay with someone you love who isn’t doing their work to get healthy, and you are?

In this episode, we examine these questions and more. Join me in this episode as we discuss the following:

• When You Heal, And You Need To Move On
• When You Heal And They Leave
• When You Heal, And They Heal
• When You Keep Falling Back Into Old Patterns
• Tips For Staying Healthy In The Relationship
• Having A Support Group
• Having Clear Boundaries
• Having A Non-Negotiable List

I hope this episode can provide you with some insights on how to navigate the challenges of a relationship where one person is healing, and the other person isn’t on the same journey. 

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

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As a trauma survivor, I had no idea how much my experiences were impacting my ability to have self-esteem. One of the messages that trauma can send us is that there is something wrong with us. 

This message can significantly impact our ability to have and build self-esteem. 

In this episode, we take a look at the following:

• Understanding what self-esteem is and is not
• How trauma impacts our ability to have self-esteem
• How self-compassion can help us in building self-esteem
• Learning to build self-respect
• How having and keeping boundaries leads to greater self-respect
• Why keeping our promises to ourselves is so important
• Speak to yourself with respect
• Pushing ourselves to try new things
• The gift of serving others in building self-respect

I hope this episode can help you see that your struggle with self-esteem isn't because there is something wrong with you but because it is a natural result of the trauma you experienced. You can build the self-esteem and self-respect you desire. 

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Jerry

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What if the power to love yourself was hiding within you all along? What if you never needed a reason to love yourself? 

In this episode, we dive deep into the following practical steps that we can take to begin loving ourselves:

• Becoming empowered to give ourselves permission to love ourselves. 
• We'll discuss how to voice your resistance to your own love.
• Set an intention for self-love.
• Silencing the false narratives that have been making you feel unworthy. 
• Seeing that you have always been worthy of your own love. 

So, get ready for a powerful journey of introspection, empowerment, and giving yourself permission to love yourself. 

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

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One of the most painful things we can experience is a broken relationship with ourselves. Our relationship with ourselves often becomes broken by trauma and other painful life experiences. When that relationship is broken, we become separated from love and, most painfully, our own love. 

Learning to love ourselves is a process. The first part of the process is understanding that we are worthy of love and then identifying the barriers that we have to loving ourselves. 

In this first episode of a two-part series on how we can find permission to love ourselves, we take a look at:

• Our relationship with ourselves
• How that relationship gets broken
• The barriers that we have to loving ourselves
• How we can begin to overcome those barriers

I hope that as a result of this episode, you can begin giving yourself permission to love yourself. 

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

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Are you trapped in the vicious cycle of self-criticism and anxiety? Do you often find yourself caught in the relentless grip of negative self-talk? Together, we'll shed light on how relentless self-criticism keeps us embroiled in a persistent state of fight, flight, freeze, or fawning and, subsequently, continuous anxiety. 

Recognize how this destructive inner dialogue can creep into your daily life, often going unnoticed, and learn to shatter this cycle, paving the way to healing and self-love.

In this episode, we take a look at:

• Becoming Aware of The Impact Negative Self Talk Is Having On Our Nervous System
• Why Beating Ourselves Up Is Causing Us Anxiety
• How to Heal
• Understanding That We Are Addicted To Negative Self-Talk
• Asking Why We Beat Ourselves Up
• How To Identify With The Part Of You That Loves You.

Embark on this journey of self-love and healing, and grant yourself the permission to love yourself. After all, the longest and most rewarding relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself.

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

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If you struggle with anxiety, it can be at the very least disruptive, if not debilitating, in your life. If you have tried various methods to get control of your anxiety and nothing seems to have helped, then you might want to try the practice of meditation to help you on your journey.

In this episode, we take a look at how meditation can help us with anxiety by allowing us to:

• Be more present and stop being fearful of the future or regretting the past
• Sit with the feeling of anxiety instead of pushing it away
• Get quiet so we can hear what anxiety it trying to tell us
• Observe and become more aware of what we are feeling and why we are feeling it

I hope this episode can help in your journey and that the insights shared bring hope to you in learning to heal the parts of you that are getting your attention through anxiety. 

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

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When we understand that anxiety is not our enemy but it is coming from a part of us that is trying to get our attention, we can start to learn from it and heal. 

In this episode, we take a practical look at why it is so important to befriend anxiety and five tips for making this happen. 

0:00 Introduction

1:08 My Story of Anxiety

4:23 Why Befriend Anxiety

5:12 Changing Our Energy Toward Anxiety

7:35 A New Name For Anxiety

9:05 How We Greet Anxiety, Resist or Accept

15:31 Having a Conversation With Anxiety

18:43 Taking Action

Remember, your system loves you enough to invite you to heal. One way it does this is by using anxiety to tell you something is off and needs your attention.

We can learn to stop resisting anxiety and begin to accept it as a messenger from ourselves to ourselves. 

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

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For many of us, the practice of self-compassion can be a real struggle. We often don't know where to begin or know what self-compassion looks or feels like.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What is self-compassion?
• What is the Self?
• What is compassion?
• Connecting with our authentic self
• Suspending judgment toward ourselves
• Suffering with the parts of us that are hurting
• How to give ourselves what we need.
• An exercise in self-compassion

I know it can feel like we don't deserve self-compassion, and we have an entire list as to why we believe that is true. The truth is that there is a part of you, the authentic self, that always wants to show compassion toward you.

I encourage you to take at least one step toward showing yourself the compassion you deserve. 

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

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Acceptance is a powerful gateway to healing and change.  And accepting ourselves is the first step towards that meaningful change.

What if acceptance wasn't about agreeing with or approving of past events, but rather embracing the reality of what is? 

In this episode we delve deep into the final 'A' of our 5-part healing journey series: Acceptance.

Acceptance isn't just about making peace with the past and present, but also embracing our own selves at every step, with all our successes and failures.

I hope this episode can  help you in learning to fully accept the past, present and the person on the journey.

Byron Katie's book "Loving What is"

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

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Am I stuck, or am I actually healing? How do we know if we are healing?

How do we avoid some of the pitfalls that cause us to judge ourselves for not healing in "the right way?"

Is there a right way to heal? What tangible things can I use to see if I am healing?

In this episode, we discuss these questions and others about assessing if we are healing.

00:00 Introduction
01:40 Assessing our healing journey
02:23 The importance of assessing our journey
03:12 Common Pitfalls
07:36 How do we assess our journey?
08:55 What are you trying to heal?
12:30 Four things that can help us assess our healing
12:44 Am I starting to feel safe?
13:35 How am I talking to myself?
14:35 How do I see myself?
16:34 Assessing our relationships
18:33 Bonus tip for assessing 

One of the most disheartening things in the healing journey is feeling like we are not progressing. 

I hope this episode gives you some practical ways to see that you are healing and growing even when you don't think you are.

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

I am grateful you are here,
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