Pleasure in the Pause: Midlife Conversations About Menopause, Sex & Pleasure

Have you ever wondered if there is more to orgasm than what you have experienced so far?

Maybe yours feel muted, harder to reach, or further away than they used to. Maybe you have never been quite sure if what you experience counts. Maybe you have been told — by culture, by silence, by your own body — that this chapter is over.

It is not.

In this episode Gabriella sits down with Mangala Holland, somatic sex educator, international orgasm expert, and author of Orgasms Made Easy, for one of the most expansive and practically rich conversations this show has ever had about female pleasure. Mangala has spent 13 years helping women all over the world discover — or rediscover — what is actually possible in their bodies. And her message is clear: orgasm is a learned skill, it has no expiration date, and nobody is broken.

Walk away with a completely new map of what your body is capable of, and where to begin.

Are you ready to awaken your sensuality and feel more empowered in your body? Access the FREE Pleasure Upgrade Bundle at https://www.pleasureinthepause.com/gift.

Mangala is a Somatic Sex Educator, Trainer and Facilitator with over 13 years’ experience. She has worked with thousands of women worldwide, is the author of the Amazon #1 best-seller, Orgasms Made Easy, and maintains an international client base. Her work has been featured on UK daytime TV and in Vogue, Grazia UK, Marie Claire, The Daily Telegraph, Metro, Daily Mail and Mail Online. She specialises in midlife sexuality, orgasmic confidence, and trauma-informed embodiment. She believes that “We have built a world that trains women to override their bodies - then wonder why they burn out, leave leadership and lose their sense of aliveness. Pleasure isn’t a reward; it’s the operating system for sustainable success.”

Highlights from our discussion include:

• How Mangala found her way from corporate burnout and disconnection to becoming a world-renowned orgasm expert
• What an orgasm actually is — and why thinking about it as an orgasmic state rather than an endpoint changes everything
• The biggest myth Mangala wants to bust about pleasure and menopause
• What gets in the way of orgasm in midlife and how to start dismantling it
• The difference between clitoral, G-spot, cervical, and energetic orgasms — and where to begin exploring
• What to do when you feel numb internally, or when you get close and lose it right at the edge
• How to build a self-pleasure practice from scratch without shame or pressure
• How to bring what you discover into partnership with confidence and without blame 

Mangala ends with something I want every woman listening to carry with her.

Prioritizing pleasure has given her the confidence to say no to everything that does not align with who she is. It has made her decisions clearer, her boundaries stronger, and her life more fully hers.

Pleasure is not just a nice feeling. It is a resource. A wellspring of nourishment. Liberation work.

And it is available to you.

If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

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Feel like your vagina has betrayed you? Dryness, leaking, painful sex, and orgasms that feel far away. Here's what's really happening to your vagina in menopause, and my six pillars of vulva vitality to help you feel comfortable, confident, and connected to pleasure again.

I'm kicking off World Menopause Month with a little lighthearted humor. Last week, I took the stage at a comedy club in my hometown of Houston for Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith's The Gathering: Midlife After Dark, and talked about the things we usually keep hidden in shame and silence. In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of that evening, share why laughter is such powerful medicine for these conversations, and invite you to think of your vulva as a garden: something to know, nourish, and tend with care.

I also share my tried-and-tested intimate wellness products, so your vulva garden can flourish. Find the links and exclusive listener discounts below.

 Show your vulva some love and establish a shame free way of connecting to this beautiful part of your anatomy by downloading my FREE Vulva Love Meditation: https://www.pleasureinthepause.com/vulva  

Highlights from our discussion include:

• Why humor and laughter are some of the most powerful tools for breaking shame around intimate health
• The anatomy lesson most of us never got — including what the clitoris actually is
• What genitourinary syndrome of menopause is and why so many women suffer in silence
• The six pillars of vulva vitality: know your garden, hormonal support, pelvic floor health, hydration, circulation, and red light therapy
• Gabriella's personally recommended intimate wellness products with exclusive listener discounts 

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EPISODES MENTIONED

Episode 15 with Dr. Maria Uloko
Episode 42 with Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith
Episode 69 with Dr. Anna Cabeca
Episode 90 with Amy St. Germain

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Why can friendship feel so different in midlife?

As we change, our friendships change too. Some deepen, some drift, and we may find ourselves craving more meaningful connection with women who understand the season of life we’re in.

In this episode of Pleasure in the Pause, Gabriella sits down with Nandita Mahadevan, founder of Sol Women, to explore how we cultivate meaningful female friendships in midlife—and what it takes to create the community we’re looking for.

They talk about friendship, belonging, women’s wellness, and how Nandita is bringing women together through Sol Women to have honest conversations about their health, changing bodies, relationships, intimacy, and more.

And if you’ve ever wondered, “Where do I find my people at this stage of my life?” this conversation might inspire you to stop waiting for the invitation—and become the woman who makes it.

Are you ready to awaken your sensuality and feel more empowered in your body? Access the FREE Pleasure Upgrade Bundle at https://www.pleasureinthepause.com/gift.

Nandita Mahadevan is the founder of Sol Women, a community based in Austin, Texas that brings together functional medicine, mindset coaching, nervous system regulation, and female sisterhood to support women navigating perimenopause, menopause, and midlife transformation. With over 20 years of experience in the functional medicine and wellness space, Nandita co-founded Sol Women alongside nurse practitioner and functional medicine expert Lauren Colletti after their own transformative journey together at a retreat in Costa Rica. 

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why our friendships and what we need from them can change in midlife
• How to cultivate deeper, more meaningful female friendships
• What to do when friendships drift, change, or come to an end
• Why community and connection matter to our well-being
• How to start building the community you’re craving—even if it begins with just a few women

Nandita ended our conversation with something that landed in my whole body.

Sisterhood is the true medicine.

Loneliness, she reminded us, is now recognized as having the same health impact as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. We are deeply connected through our screens and deeply disconnected from one another. And what women are craving — in Nandita's retreats, in the Sol Women community, and in conversations like this one — is the thing that has always been the medicine. Each other.

Gabriella is thrilled to be joining Nandita and Lauren as an invited facilitator at the upcoming Sol Women three-day retreat in Austin. If you have been craving exactly this kind of connection, the details are in the show notes.

And if you are listening and wondering how to create this in your own life, Nandita's advice is simple. Do not wait to be invited. Become the woman who invites.

If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

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Most women know the feeling. You say yes. Your body shows up. But some part of you is somewhere else entirely — running through tomorrow's to-do list, waiting for it to be over, checking a box so you will not be expected to again for a week.

It is called duty sex. And it is one of the most common and least talked-about dynamics in long-term relationships.

In this episode for Sexual Health Awareness Month, Gabriella sits down with Dr. Holly Richmond, somatic psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author of Reclaiming Pleasure, for one of the most honest and practically rich conversations this show has ever had about desire, self-abandonment, and what it actually takes to move from going through the motions to having sex worth wanting.

This is not a conversation about broken relationships or broken women. Nobody is broken here. But the system — the way we were taught to think about desire, consent, and our own pleasure — needs a serious upgrade. And this episode is a very good place to start.

Are you ready to awaken your sensuality and feel more empowered in your body? Access the FREE Pleasure Upgrade Bundle at https://www.pleasureinthepause.com/gift.

Dr. Holly Richmond is a somatic psychotherapist, certified sex therapist and sex therapy supervisor, and Associate Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. An internationally recognized therapist, high-profile couples coach, speaker, retreat facilitator, and author of Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life, she takes a sex-positive approach to helping clients build healthy relationships and improve their sex lives in ways that are authentic, embodied and long-lasting. With a significant media following, her work has been featured in The New York Times, CNN, Oprah, Forbes, Netflix, NBC, and Cosmopolitan, among others. 

Highlights from our discussion include:

• What duty sex actually is and the difference between self-abandonment and a generous act of connection
• What happens in a woman's body when she repeatedly says yes while part of her means no — numbness, resentment, and pain as the body's way of speaking
• Spontaneous versus responsive desire and why understanding the difference changes everything for midlife women
• What a sexual template is, why most women have never developed one, and how to start
• The three-part framework from Reclaiming Pleasure — control, pleasure, and connection — and how to use it to assess whether sex is happening in a sex-positive way
• The four things the healthiest couples do: active appreciations, giving the benefit of the doubt, affectionate touch without expectation, and talking about sex
• Why nobody is broken — the lower desire partner, the higher desire partner, or the relationship — and what actually needs to change 

Dr. Holly Richmond says it plainly at the end of this conversation: nobody is broken here. Not the lower desire partner. Not the higher desire partner. The system is broken. And most of it can be repaired with more communication, more transparency, and more willingness to actually talk about sex — which almost none of us were taught to do. 

If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

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Book: Reclaiming Pleasure by Dr. Holly Richmond

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

Episode 116 — How to Take the Vacation Version of You Home

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September is Sexual Health Awareness Month, and this year's World Sexual Health Day theme is Every Body — a reminder that sexual health, pleasure, and intimacy matter at every age and in every body, including our changing midlife bodies.

To kick off the month, Gabriella welcomes Dr. Peter Castillo, a double board-certified urogynecologist and founder of Swan Medical Intimate Wellness in Los Gatos, California. Dr. Castillo is one of the rare physicians who treats pelvic and sexual health not as a side conversation but as central to a woman's overall health and longevity. He is also, refreshingly, a man who has built his entire career around listening to women about the most intimate changes happening in their bodies — and doing something about it.

This conversation covers everything from the early signs of hormonal decline most women miss, to testosterone's far-reaching role beyond libido, to the truth about pelvic organ prolapse, to why partners need to be included in this conversation far earlier than they are. It is a rich, science-backed, and deeply practical episode for Sexual Health Awareness Month and beyond.

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Dr. Peter Castillo is a double board-certified urogynecologist and founder of Swan Medical Intimate Wellness in Los Gatos and Danville, California. He specializes in female pelvic medicine, reconstructive surgery, and sexual health, with a focus on helping women navigate the changes that come through childbirth, menopause, and aging. A bilingual international lecturer, he has trained physicians across the United States, Europe, and Latin America, and has led multicenter trials on genitourinary syndrome of menopause. His practice treats pelvic and sexual health as essential to a woman's overall health and longevity. 

Highlights from our discussion include:

• Why intimacy can be a biomarker of overall health and what changes in sexual health can signal about the rest of the body
• The role of testosterone beyond libido — muscle mass, mood, motivation, cognitive function, and longevity
• What genitourinary syndrome of menopause is and why it affects far more women than know it has a name and a treatment
• What pelvic organ prolapse actually is, how common it is, and why most women are never told it is treatable
• The full range of regenerative and hormonal treatments available for arousal, sensation, and orgasmic changes in midlife
• Why partners need to be part of the menopause conversation — and Dr. Castillo's No Partner Left Behind initiative
• A simple sexual longevity prescription: if intimacy matters to you, do not let it go 

Dr. Castillo's prescription for every woman listening is simple. If intimacy has always mattered to you, do not accept that it has to go. Seek a therapist, read books, find treatments, bring your partner to the appointment, do whatever it takes. We have a long life ahead of us. And protecting sexual health is part of protecting that life. 

If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

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Swan Medical: swanmed.com 

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:

American Urogynecologic Society directory: augs.org

ISSWSH directory: isswsh.org

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Gabriella is back from two weeks in Portugal and sitting at her desk, shoulders already creeping up toward her ears, pelvic floor clenching, inbox blinking. September is here. The calendar is filling. And the vacation version of herself is being tested in real time.

But instead of pushing through the tension the way she always has, she pauses. Takes a breath. Softens. And asks herself a question she wants to explore with every woman listening: do I actually need all this tension in order to do the things I am here to do?

In this solo episode, Gabriella draws on the go and flow framework from Michaela Boehm's The Wild Woman's Way to explore one of the most overlooked questions in women's productivity and wellbeing — not how do I get out of go mode, but how am I inhabiting it? She walks listeners through a guided body scan, three nervous system practices for different states, and a simple invitation to bring more ease, sensation, and pleasure into the middle of a full and purposeful life.

This is not about slowing down. It is about moving forward without the clench.

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Highlights from our discussion include:

• The go and flow framework from Michaela Boehm's The Wild Woman's Way and why the goal is not less go but more ease within it
• Why a regulated nervous system is not the same as a calm one — we need activation, we just do not need all the extra tension we pile on top of it
• A guided body scan to notice where you are holding more tension than the moment actually requires
• Three nervous system practices: conscious softening and breathing, a shaking practice to move built-up tension through the body, and floor rest when the body needs stillness
• What to do when the body needs energy rather than rest — and why movement often creates the motivation we have been waiting for
• Why pleasure does not have to be the reward for finishing your life — it can be part of how you live it 

We do not have to choose between being productive and being present. We can bring energy, focus, ambition, and purpose to the work that matters to us while also bringing a little more ease into the way we do it. Intention without the tension. Focus without the clench. A little more flow in the way we go.

This week, every once in a while while you are in go mode, pause and ask yourself: what does my body need from me right now? Do I need to soften or do I need to mobilize? And if you notice tension, before you decide you need to stop everything and add another self-care practice to your list, just notice your body. Maybe you do not need to stop. Maybe you just need to release the clench.

If this episode resonated, subscribe to Pleasure in the Pause and share it with a woman in your life who is already bracing for September. Gabriella will be back next week kicking off Sexual Health Awareness Month with a very special guest.

If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

Resources mentioned:

The Wild Woman's Way by Michaela Boehm

Episode 107:  From Survival Mode to Self-Connection 

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You know her. She shows up every time you go away.

More relaxed. More present. More alive. Laughing more easily, sleeping more deeply, feeling more connected to yourself and to the people you love. And yes, often more open to intimacy too.

She is your vacation self. And the moment you land back home and the suitcase opens, she disappears — absorbed back into the inbox, the to-do list, and the doing mode that swallows everything else.

But here is what Gabriella wants you to know. The vacation version of you is not a different woman. She is you under different conditions. Conditions where your nervous system finally gets to exhale. Where it is not scanning for the next thing, not bracing, not managing. Just settled, soft, and safe enough to feel pleasure.

Which means you do not need a plane ticket to find her again.

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In this end-of-summer solo episode, Gabriella explores what the vacation version of you can teach you about presence, pleasure, and connection — and offers a practical vacation self-audit to help you recreate the conditions, not the destination, once September arrives.

Highlights from our discussion include:

• Why the vacation version of you is not a different woman — she is you under different nervous system conditions
• The dual control model from Emily Nagoski's Come as You Are — the sexual accelerator and brake, and why removing what hits the brakes matters more than adding more
• The science of novelty and self-expansion — why shared new experiences deepen closeness and can reignite desire
• Why sensuality does not have to be sexual and how one deliberately sensory moment a day builds the capacity for pleasure
• How co-regulation and unstructured time together quietly stoke connection and desire without any pressure or destination
• The vacation self-audit — four questions to help you identify what to bring home with you before September takes over 

The vacation version of you remembered something. That rest is allowed. That pleasure does not have to be earned. That being present to what is actually happening right now, the taste of something good, the feel of warm air, the ease of being with someone you love without any agenda, is not an indulgence. It is the point.

So before September fills the calendar back in, Gabriella invites you to ask yourself one question. What did the vacation version of me remember that the everyday version of me tends to forget?

Whatever the answer is, bring a little bit of her home with you.

If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

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Two women. Both champions in the midlife women's health space. Both celebrating their 25th wedding anniversaries in the same summer. And both deeply committed to changing the conversation around intimacy, pleasure, and connection in midlife.

In this episode Gabriella sits in the interviewee seat again, joining Dr. Tina Sogocio, physician and menopause educator, for an Instagram Live conversation about what it actually takes to keep love alive through one of the most destabilizing transitions a woman can go through. This is a conversation between two midlife women comparing notes — on long marriages, on the changes menopause brings to intimacy and identity, on what couples who come out stronger actually do differently, and on why this generation of women has an opportunity their mothers never did.

Warm, honest, and full of practical wisdom from both sides of the exam room, this episode will leave you feeling seen, informed, and a little more hopeful about what is possible in love and intimacy in this season of life.

Are you ready to awaken your sensuality and feel more empowered in your body? Access the FREE Pleasure Upgrade Bundle at https://www.pleasureinthepause.com/gift.

Dr. Tina Sogocio is a physician, menopause educator, and advocate focused on helping women better understand and navigate the hormonal transitions of midlife. Through both her clinical care and public education work, she supports women during perimenopause, menopause, and the years that follow. In addition to caring for patients, Dr. Sogocio speaks and leads community conversations that bring clear, compassionate insight to women’s health and midlife well-being. 

Highlights from our discussion include:

• Why menopause pulls the Band-Aid off and makes couples vulnerable in ways they were not prepared for
• How couples who come out stronger approach change with curiosity rather than going quiet
• Why feeling seen and heard by a partner is the foundation of intimacy and the best foreplay there is
• The difference between therapy and coaching and why both play a vital role in midlife healing
• How the nervous system river metaphor explains why so many women cannot find their way back to pleasure, joy, and connection
• Why doctors have to do better at asking directly about intimate health and what women can do when they do not
• Why this generation of women is redefining what love, intimacy, and pleasure look like in the second half of life 

Dr. Tina said something near the end of our conversation that I keep coming back to. It is not a one and done. We are constantly evolving. And the post-menopausal years are not a winding down. They are an invitation to live into. Our generation of women has an opportunity our mothers never had — to redefine who we are becoming and how we want to live, love, and feel in this season of life. That is not a small thing. That is everything.

If this episode resonated, subscribe to Pleasure in the Pause and share it with a woman or a couple in your life who needs this conversation. And if you want to go deeper into this work, you will find all of Gabriela's coaching resources at pleasureinthepause.com.

If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

CONNECT WITH DR. TINA SOGOCIO:

https://www.mocimerced.com/

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Episode 114 — Intimate Wellness with Sally Mueller and Womaness

Episode 110 — How Co-Regulation Deepens Intimacy

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This one is a little different. For over 100 episodes Gabriella has been the one asking the questions. This time, Sally Mueller, co-founder and CEO of Womaness, turns the tables. And what comes out of that conversation is one of the most practical and honest discussions this show has ever had about intimate wellness, comfort, and what it actually means to take care of this part of your body.

Womaness is a brand that has been modernizing the conversation around menopause and intimate wellness through education, community, and thoughtfully designed products that support women from head to toe. Gabriella has been a proud Womaness brand partner for several years because she genuinely believes in their mission. In this episode she shares her personal story, her own five-step intimate wellness routine, and a recent experience that reminded her why consistency in this area of self-care is not negotiable.

The biggest message throughout? Intimate wellness is not about sex. It is about comfort, confidence, connection, and quality of life. And you deserve to prioritize it.

Womaness has generously offered listeners of Pleasure in the Pause an exclusive 20% discount on their intimate wellness collection. Visit womaness.com and use code PLEASURE at checkout.

Products mentioned in this episode:
- MELT For You vaginal inserts — internal hydration and tissue support
- Daily V Soothe — external comfort and ongoing moisture
- Coco Bliss — rich external moisture for intimacy and everyday comfort

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Sally Mueller, Co-Founder and CEO of Womaness, is transforming the conversation on aging and menopause. An expert in retail and brand innovation with a proven track record for trend forecasting, she has worked with major brands like Target, Who What Wear, and VERSED skincare. Inspired by her own health journey and a lack of modern menopause resources, Sally created Womaness with co-founder Michelle Jacobs. The brand offers expert- and doctor-backed solutions, fostering a movement that empowers women to celebrate life after 40. With over 20 years at Target Corporation in Apparel Merchandising and Marketing, Sally is an industry leader celebrated for her business acumen across fashion, beauty, and lifestyle.

Highlights from our discussion include:

• Why intimate wellness is about comfort, confidence, and quality of life — not just what happens in the bedroom
• The difference between hydration and lubrication, and why most women need both
• Why silence around intimate health creates shame, and why speaking up changes everything
• How to advocate for yourself with your partner and your doctor when it comes to intimate health changes
• Why being proactive about intimate wellness — before symptoms become severe — is the most important shift a woman can make
• The role of self-pleasure in supporting tissue health, body connection, and overall wellbeing 

Your comfort matters first. Not anyone else's. And the changes that come with perimenopause and menopause are common — but suffering through them in silence does not have to be. There are solutions, there is support, and there are products designed specifically to help you feel comfortable, confident, and connected to your body every single day. 

Use Code PLEASURE for 20% off all Womaness Sexual Wellness products.

CONNECT WITH SALLY MUELLER:

Womaness: https://womaness.com/collections/menopause-sexual-health-and-feminine-care

Womaness Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mywomaness/

Sally Mueller LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sally-mueller/

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For more than 20 years, Robyn Parets lived with chronic illness, anxiety, and a body that always seemed to be fighting something. She saw countless practitioners, tried everything she could find, and kept pushing through — the way high-achieving women do. What she did not understand was that underneath every diagnosis, every symptom, and every exhausting flare was a nervous system that had simply lost its way home.

It was not until she discovered nervous system regulation and somatic breathwork that everything began to shift. Her body remembered what safety felt like. And from that place of safety, real healing became possible.

In this installment of the Return to Her series, Gabriella sits down with Robyn Parets, yoga teacher, breathwork facilitator, and nervous system coach, for one of the most personal and practically rich conversations in this series. Robyn shares what 20-plus years of survival mode actually felt like in her body, the moment on the floor after a treadmill collapse that changed everything, and the two things that finally moved the needle after decades of searching. She also guides listeners through a simple breathwork practice they can begin using today.

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Robyn Parets is a yoga teacher, somatic breathwork facilitator, and nervous system coach who helps others find their way back to safety, regulation, and aliveness after years of chronic stress, illness, and dysregulation. After more than two decades navigating chronic illness including POTS, Lyme disease, SIBO, and mold toxicity, Robyn found her healing through brain retraining and somatic breathwork and now guides others through the same journey. She and Gabriella met at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York, during an intensive nervous system training. 

Highlights from our discussion include:

• What 20 years of living above the window of regulation actually felt like in Robyn's body and how she finally recognized it as survival mode
• The treadmill moment that became her turning point and why she knew on the floor that she was the only one who could heal herself
• How brain retraining works and why repetition is the key to creating new patterns in the brain and nervous system
• Why feeling safe in the body is not just an emotional experience but a physiological prerequisite for healing
• The physiological sigh, a simple two-breath practice that tones the vagus nerve and helps bring the nervous system back to safety in minutes
• What life looks and feels like on the other side — from black and white to technicolor 

When Gabriella asked Robyn what she would say to the version of herself who was still searching for answers and still pushing through, her answer was short and completely whole.

You are brave. And you can do hard things. And the power exists within you to make the changes you need.

That is the heart of this series. And it is the heart of this conversation.

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