In today’s episode Alex and Mimi chat about a concept that has proven itself time and time again, throughout both their business and personal lives. May you might want to sing along like in the Disney movie Frozen, as we are going to be discussing - Letting Go. 

Whether it’s waiting for a friend to reply to your important message, asking someone out on a date, to sending a business proposal to client or applying to go to University / College. We’ve all felt the fear of losing out on the one thing we’ve been dreaming about. Often a thought that we’ve put so much energy behind can have us attached greatly to the outcome and even more often this leads to disappointment. We see it in depressed people or people who hold low value of themselves, disappointment seems to be everywhere these days. Too much of this is wrapped up in misread expectations and clinging on too hard to your desires. Maybe you lost your partner or your job and you just can’t seem to; 

 

‘LET IT ALL GO’  

 

“You might fail at this at first and that is Ok, you have to keep getting up and doing it because eventually it will work out” - Alex [9:00]

 

Alex and Mimi share how they’ve had to overcome this time and time again, from negotiating the sale of Luxy hair to walking away from relationships that were not good for them. Mimi shares her Vipassana story and how she learnt the importance of equanimity:

 

Equanimity - noun

1. calmness and composure, especially in a difficult situation.

"she accepted both the good and the bad with equanimity"

 

1. composure, calmness, calm, level-headedness, self-possession, self-control, even-temperedness, coolness, cool-headedness, presence of mind.

 

“I understand you really want this and it’s your desire, but because you want this so badly, it’s probably not going to work” - Alex [8:00]

 

Whether it’s someone bullying you or you’re simply not happy with your job or relationship, or looking to find the perfect place to live, there’s so much you can take away from this episode. 

 

Here’s what we get into:

• Attachment is most obvious during challenging times
• The truth can hurt sometimes but it’s that pain is your bodies way of  showing you to change
• The importance of meditation and a still mind during times of conflict
• Conflict can be with yourself not just with others
• How desperation seeps into your interactions, how to communicate your intentions
• Sometimes you have to face losing it all to get your dream life
• Outcome dependency reduces your negotiating powers
• Letting go isn’t an instant strategy, it’s a mindset that takes time to become effective
• Only you can set your real value

 

Letting Go - The Pathway of Surrender by Dr. Hawkins

Linchpin - Are You Indispensable?

 

Full show notes: https://www.ikonns.com/podcast/episode41