Summary

In this episode, Andy speaks with Dr. Judy Ho, a clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, about her new book, The New Rules of Attachment: How to Heal Your Relationships, Reparent Your Inner Child, and Secure Your Life Vision .

Seriously? Attachment theory? Reparenting your inner child? What does this have to do with leading teams and projects? You'll find out in this episode!

Andy and Judy delve into the importance of attachment in leadership and how understanding attachment styles can impact leadership and team dynamics. Dr. Ho discusses the different attachment styles: avoidant, anxious, and disorganized, and their influence on self-concept and behavior in professional settings. The conversation highlights key strategies for leaders to recognize and adjust to the attachment styles of their team members.

Before you're done, you'll have a new appreciation for attachment theory and its practical applications for personal and team development.

Sound Bites

• "It's really about learning these practical strategies to clear up your mind so that you feel the most effective when you come up to a stressful situation."
• "This idea of psychological safety--it basically has the same effect on our bodies and our minds as physical safety."
• "It's really all about clearing cognitive space, especially when you're stressed."
• "The ability to be able to even name how they're feeling. Often when people have insecure attachment, they have this phenomenon that we psychologists call alexithymia."
• "We are social beings, and we need to stay connected to others to be able to achieve everything that we need to achieve."
• "It's amazing how these things still continue to impact us years after, even when those situations and circumstances have changed."

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction
• 02:29 Start Of Interview
• 02:50 What is Attachment?
• 04:42 What is Judy's Attachment Style?
• 09:33 How Attachment Theory and Emotional Intelligence Relate
• 12:30 Common Leadership Blindspots
• 18:19 Influence on Self-Concept
• 21:02 Clues to Attachment Styles
• 25:14 Dealing With An Anxious Style On Your Team
• 26:41 Life at a Glance Exercise
• 29:21 Practical Next Steps for Leaders
• 31:25 Wrap Up
• 31:50 Andy Comments After The Interview
• 35:26 Outtakes

Learn More

You can learn more about Dr. Judy Ho at DrJudyHo.com.

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