What starts as a listener confession about prostate massage turns into the most honest, vulnerable, and surprisingly hilarious conversation Adam and Pris have ever had on mic — completely unscripted, completely real.

About This Episode

A brave listener wrote into the Beyond Monogamy confessional to share what prostate massage actually feels like — and his words were hard to ignore: "earth-shaking," a "full-body orgasm," with increased intensity, duration, and volume of ejaculate. He said he was completely incapacitated afterward.

That letter opened a door neither Adam nor Pris expected to walk through on this quickie.

Adam admits he has never had prostate play done — and he explains exactly why: a past experience where it happened without his consent left him with a lasting emotional association he has carried for years. Pris, meanwhile, reveals she has actually done it before (to her first husband, no less 👀). Together, they work through the anatomy, the stigma, toxic masculinity, vulnerability, and the very real question of whether this is something they will explore together.

Spoiler: Adam Googled "what is a prostate" in real time on mic. You're going to want to hear this one.

Topics Covered

• What the prostate is and what it actually does
• The P-spot — why it's called the "male G-spot" and how stimulation works
• Internal vs. external stimulation (the taint is a real starting point)
• Adam's past experience and why consent is the real issue
• Toxic masculinity and the "I ain't gay" barrier so many men face
• Whether prostate play should be a lifestyle boundary or an open one
• A practical beginner's guide for curious couples

Practical Guide: Starting the Conversation

Even if you're brand new to this topic, here's where Adam and Pris landed with their practical takeaways:

1. Have the conversation first — no surprises, ever. Both partners need to be on the same page before anything happens. Don't cause trauma where there doesn't need to be any.
2. Start slow and stay external. External pressure on the perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus, sometimes called the taint) is a low-commitment entry point. It gives you a sense of whether there's something worth exploring further — without diving all the way in.
3. If going internal: hygiene and preparation matter. Short nails, gloves if preferred, and lube — always lube. Always.
4. Check in throughout. Communication during is just as important as communication before. This should feel like an upgrade to intimacy, not something anyone is white-knuckling through.
5. If it's not working, you stop. Full stop. And if it's incredible? Talk about that too — then hit up the Beyond Monogamy confessional and let us know how it went.

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This episode literally started because one listener had the guts to write in. If something in this episode hit home, or if you have your own story to share, drop it in our 100% anonymous confessional at www.beyond-monogamy.com. Zero judgment. You just might end up on a future quickie of your own.

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