Pretty Much Done

Today I recap a call I had with my ex-boyfriend from 6 years ago, my trip to NY and what the differences are between NY and LA. Then I get into the meat of the episode where we discuss how I learned I can no longer be friends with my ex. Hopefully further down the line when we both have partners we can be friends, but it's not in the cards for me right now.

(16:00 mark) Reasons why you can’t be friends with your ex:

There are a multitude but here are some that I boiled it down to in this episode.

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Grace Walker is licensed marriage and family therapist who is 6 years in recovery from drugs and alcohol. Today we discuss Attachment Styles in romantic relationships (anxious, avoidant, and secure). We talk about what your attachment style says about your texting style, how to figure yours out, and where they derive from.

Link to find out your attachment style https://yourpersonality.net/attachment/

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Today mindfulness expert Case Kenny came on; he is a self-proclaimed "dude bro guy." Case is a writer, podcaster and recording artist behind The New Mindset Journal as well as the recently released book, That's Bold of You. You may have already seen his inspirational quotes on social media @case.kenny or listened to his podcast "New Mindset Who Dis." Case's podcast is an Apple Podcast top 30 podcast, Top 100 Mental Health, iHeart Radio Top 10, Deezer Editor's Choice and many more accolades. We discuss finding the WHY behind things like your standards, what you want out of a relationship, how to have the awkward conversation about asking what someone is looking for while dating, why situationships happen and how straight men below the age of 30 feel very immature at times.

IG: https://www.instagram.com/case.kenny/?hl=en

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Website: https://newmindsetwhodis.com/

Ex tinder employee Julia Mazur hosts “Pretty Much Done,” getting into the nitty gritty of our most traumatizing and enlightening breakups. Joined by experts in music, fashion, sports, mental health, television, social media, this dating expert explores the ups and downs of falling in love, betrayals, heartbreak, and healing. The worst thing in the world is sometimes for the best, and Julia brings a fun and funny take on our biggest fear- getting out of a relationship.  Whether the dumper or dumpee, everyone has a story to tell.  How do you know if this is “the one?” Or is the relationship pretty much done?  Tune in weekly to hear us cover heartbreak and healing.

Carly Compton is a licensed therapist who specializes in eating disorders and is an eating disorder survivor herself. She founded Recover with Carly comes on to discuss her eating disorder journey and how that propelled her to help other people overcome their own eating disorder struggles. We talk a lot about finding your value and worth in things outside of our bodies, and how to combat feeling rejected on dating apps because of how you feel in your own skin.

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On today's episode, I interview myself. I finally sat down to record a solo pod and am sharing that I recently broke up with my partner, what I'm focused on now, and what I've learned through my decade of dating.

3 Lessons that I hope you take from this episode:

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Lindsey Metselaar (@lindzmetz on IG) is the host of We Met At Acme (@wemetatacme). Today she comes on the pod to discuss how she started her podcast after an ex boyfriend broke up with her on her on her 27th birthday, how our parents Jewish trauma impacted our dating lives, why waiting for the right relationship is so important, and shares her important dating rules. 

Lindsey mentions her episode, "The Best Relationships Come to Those Who Wait" which you can listen to here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/75lNXwDSSqS8R4X7Agz0HO?si=9ac24682846c4f97

Lynell Weiss is a licensed marriage and family therapist as well as art therapist who also hosts Full Moon circles in her spare time. She owns Whole Human Healing https://www.wholehumanhealingla.com/. Today we pivoted from romantic relationships to talk about why friendship breakups can be so difficult and how we don’t have tools or the proper vocabulary to discuss them. She let me know that just like in romantic relationships, communication is key to improve friendships or even give you the closure you need to move on.

This week I chatted with Ilana Dunn who is the host of the Seeing Other People podcast. Like me, Ilana used to work for a dating app, Hinge. In this episode we talk about how she had to keep a situationship with a man she worked with a secret, getting through that heartbreak, and also what happened when she was let go from her job. Spoiler alert, Ilana is in a happy & healthy relationships today, and doing what she loves helping people date with her podcast.

Ilana hosts the Seeing Other People Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1WbueOKKqctpjJGcgdNfyW?si=f2598b825be146b5

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Welcome to Pretty Much Done! This week I chatted with Amanda Thomas, founder of the jewelry brand Luv AJ – which I know about because of the viral hoops Hailey Bieber has worn and I wear all the time. Amanda is hilarious, insightful, and wise. We discussed her divorce at 32 and why the year after was the best, as well as what she calls “Horny Girl Winter”