Raising Good Humans

What do you do when the regulated response to bad behavior doesn't work? Join me in conversation with Claire Lerner, L.C.S.W., the Director of Parenting Resources at Zero to Three: National Center for Infants, Toddlers, and Families, a non-profit dedicated to promoting the healthy development and well-being of infants, toddlers, and their families.

When Time-In Doesn’t Work: https://www.lernerchilddevelopment.com/mainblog/time-out-revisited   Why Punishment Doesn’t Stop Aggressive Behavior: https://www.lernerchilddevelopment.com/mainblog/why-punishment-doesnt-stop-aggressive-behavior   Your Child Isn’t Misbehaving On Purpose: https://www.lernerchilddevelopment.com/mainblog/2020/12/17/positive-parenting-mindshift-your-child-isnt-misbehaving-on-purpose   Sponsored by Allstate: Is your family's data protected? Head to www.AIP.com/HUMANS to learn more!
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How do you talk to your kids about sex? How do you talk to them about porn? Talking to boys and girls and kids of all genders and orientations requires thought, care, and cultural understanding. Join me in conversation with Peggy Orenstein, best-selling author of Boys and Sex, Girls and Sex, and more. We recommend listening to this one in private without your children in earshot.

Peggy Orenstein's work: peggyorenstein.com
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Ph. D: https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316

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We don't always know what people are thinking or feeling - we're not mind-readers - but we can bolster our understanding. Today we're diving into the Theory of Mind, which refers to our capacity to understand others. It is important for understanding how to approach our children's developmental stage. We start with a wonderful grounding meditation.

To learn more about theory of mind, DM me on Instagram at @raisinggoodhumans 

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There's so much guilt and shame and anger that can be wrapped up in parenting - Today, we continue the conversation on how to address these parts of ourselves without judgement with the wonderful Dr. Dick Schwartz. You will come out of this conversation with a better understanding of yourself and better prepared to approach your child with compassion - especially if you have a highly sensitive child! Internal Family Systems is an evidence-based practice that will help you get in touch with how to parent in a way that supports your whole self - When you love yourself completely, you can do that with your kid.

Order Dr. Dick Schwartz' incredible book, No Bad Parts, here: https://www.amazon.com/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1683646681
IFS Institute: https://ifs-institute.com/

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Do you ever feel ashamed or quick to anger with your kids? Join me in conversation with the incredible Dr. Richard Schwartz, who developed the Internal Family Systems model. This paradigm allows us to separate our Self into parts and examine them with compassion.

Internal Family Systems Institute: https://ifs-institute.com/

Dr. Schwartz' book, No Bad Parts: https://www.amazon.com/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1683646681

Watch Pixar's Inside Out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OOO1DF1xIH0

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With one kid, you're terrified that your child is gonna flunk out of high school because they got a bad grade. The other, you're anxious that they're putting too much pressure on themselves because they're doing homework before you've had your morning coffee. Join me in conversation with Dr. Sasha Heinz, developmental psychologist and mindset coach, as we navigate the perfectionism mindset.

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So excited to be answering YOUR Instagram questions today! Join me in a quick meditation reset, then we dive into the B.A.L.A.N.C.E. system - The steps you need to solve any parenting challenge, big or small. After explaining the B.A.L.A.N.C.E. system, I answer several of your questions using it as an example so you know exactly how to implement it - you're gonna love this episode!

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Join me in conversation with my phenomenal married friends, fashion journalist Derek Blasberg (@derekblasberg) and Nick Brown (@nickbrown), managing partner at Imaginary Ventures. They share their surrogacy journey, becoming fathers to twins, an emergency in the hospital, and what annoys them about surrogacy - the answer may surprise you!

For more information on surrogacy for gay men, visit Men Having Babies at menhavingbabies.org or DM Nick @nickbrown.

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Sometimes, it's better to just listen and let your kid vent. Join me in conversation with psychotherapist Whitney Goodman, who you may know from the terrific Instagram page @sitwithwhit. She is the author of Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy. We discuss what toxic positivity is, how to listen and when to give advice, and we trade stories of some times we wish we could have acted differently.

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Are kids susceptible to identity theft even if they don't have a credit card? Does making purchases online expose them - and you - to data breaches? What IS the dark web, actually?

Join me in conversation with Madeline Nusser, Vice President of Creative, Content, and Digital Experience at Allstate Identity Protection. 

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