Episode 353 – It's a Week to be Thankful

Today we have Jan. She is from Connecticut and took her last drink on February 1, 2021.

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Highlights from Paul

Paul is encouraging listeners to develop a game plan for the holidays. Last week he encouraged us to: 1) create a detailed craving plan, 2) turn FOMO into JOMO by saying no and, 3) pick a holiday theme song.

Paul shares that when we make the decision to not drink, an unbelievable amount of energy is released. This is less about staying away from alcohol and more about creating a life that doesn't require alcohol. When we're drinking there is no space mentally for this new life.

This week Paul encourages us to: 1) select a Thanksgiving AF beverage, 2) schedule one minute of intense mindfulness and, 3) sticky note – write a reminder, goal or affirmation and put it somewhere you can see it.

Remember what the holiday is all about, being grateful for all the gifts we have including the adversity that inspired us to go alcohol free. Paul's pep talks can be found here: https://www.recoveryelevator.com/meditations/

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[14:34] Jan took her last drink 2/1/2021. She is 71 years old and has a son. She is a massage therapist, health coach, dog sitter and loves hiking, audiobooks, and photography.

Jan started drinking went she went to school overseas in Italy. It was part of the culture. She drank and experimented with drugs through college. She had serious health consequences because of her drinking. She worked at several resorts and met her husband who loved to drink. Jan went to AA and stayed sober for four years. She returned to drinking for twenty years.

She struggled with mental health issues, anxiety, and panic attacks. She spent a lot of time in psychiatric hospitals and was encouraged not to drink. Jan went to 4 or 5 different treatment centers. The tipping point came when her son pushed her to quit. Jan pretended to take Antabuse in front of her son and maintaining the facade was exhausting. A friend of her son's recommended Café RE; the connection she found within Café RE was very helpful.

Jan loves "We are the Luckiest" by Laura McKowen and recalls hearing, "find a room that works and stick with it," and that resonated for her. She steers clear of situations where people are drinking alcohol. The obsession has lifted.

Odette's Summary

Odette reflects on Café Re's recent regionals event. The theme was acceptance. Odette reads a beautiful passage from Melody Beattie about acceptance. https://melodybeattie.com/acceptance-2/

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Holiday 2021 AF Strategy Guide

• Stock up on your favorite AF beverages or another type of treat.
• Begin a new healthy practice that you enjoy.
• Develop a detailed craving game plan.
• FOMO to JOMO - Pick an upcoming event and sit it out.
• Select a Holiday Theme Song.
• Pick your Thanksgiving beverage of choice and enjoy
• One minute of intense MINDFULNESS
• Sticky Note - Write a reminder, affirmation, or goal on a sticky note and place it somewhere where you'll see it each day

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