Rearview Mirror Podcast

In this episode, Jeff and Steve respond to a listener’s question about how to support a family member who frequently finds themselves caught in the middle of two others in conflict. They explore the concept of triangulation—the unhealthy dynamic where a third party becomes the go-between—and offer practical guidance on boundary setting to avoid being pulled into drama that’s not theirs to resolve. Jeff and Steve also discuss the value of understanding our conflict styles, and how recognizing whether we tend to avoid, accommodate, compete, or collaborate can shape the way we engage (or disengage) from relational tension. It’s a helpful conversation for anyone navigating family conflict with empathy and wisdom.

In Episode 19 of The Rearview Mirror podcast, Jeff and Steve dive into the topic of work—how it shapes us, stretches us, and sometimes stirs up deeper questions of calling and identity. They respond to honest listener questions about generational shifts in how we approach careers, how ambition fits with faith, and how to discern when it's time to move on from a role. One listener wonders if the guilt of taking personal time as a working parent ever fades, and Jeff and Steve reflect with empathy and experience, acknowledging the tension many feel between responsibility and renewal. Throughout the episode, they offer encouragement and grounded wisdom, especially on how God's design for work is not just about production but also about purpose, stewardship, and peace—reminding us that our identity is not in what we do, but in who we are becoming.

In episode 18 (or season 2, episode 2!) of The Rearview Mirror Podcast, Jeff and Steve dive into the fine line between contentment and complacency—a conversation sparked by a probing question from one of Jeff’s sons. With honesty and humor, they unpack what it means to live with peace and gratitude without losing drive or purpose. Are you truly content—or just stuck? Tune in for a grounded and relatable take on ambition, aging, and learning to rest without giving up.

In this episode of The Rearview Mirror, Jeff and Steve take on the topic of blind spots—the unseen patterns and behaviors that quietly shape our lives. They discuss how these blind spots often come to light not through introspection, but through relationships. It’s the people closest to us—a spouse, a close friend, a mentor—who often see what we can’t and have the clarity to call it out.

This conversation is both a mirror and a challenge—encouraging listeners to identify who in their life has permission to speak truth and urging them to listen when they do. With their usual honesty and humor, Jeff and Steve offer a practical, grace-filled conversation about self-awareness, accountability, and the freedom that comes from facing what we’d rather avoid.

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In this episode of the Rearview Mirror podcast, Jeff and Steve respond to a listener’s question about the difference between loneliness and being alone and how easy it is to use those words interchangably. They reflect on how loneliness can be an emotional signal—often tied to deeper feelings like sadness or fear—while being alone can be a conscious, healthy choice that leads to self-awareness and clarity. Understanding the difference is important. The discussion encourages listeners to sit with their loneliness, explore what’s underneath it, and recognize it as a call for connection, not just company. At its core, the episode is about understanding our emotional lives and learning how to build deeper, more intentional relationships—with others and with ourselves.

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In Episode 15, Steve and Jeff settle into a relaxed, free-flowing conversation that meanders through a variety of topics without a set agenda—true to the spirit of looking back in the rearview mirror. They reflect on the journey of the podcast itself, wondering aloud whether they've covered all the ground they can, and whether it's time for a break or just a shift in pace. The upcoming Mother’s Day gets a mention, prompting some appreciation and reflection.

The conversation drifts to the joy—and occasional disbelief—of watching their adult children find success and independence. They also explore the hypothetical of relocating: would they move? To a new house or even a new town? The idea of decluttering weaves into that, both literally and metaphorically.

It’s a loose, meandering episode, full of casual check-ins, open questions, and the kind of wandering talk that feels like a Sunday afternoon drive—nowhere in particular to be, just enjoying the ride.

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In this episode of The Rearview Mirror, Jeff and Steve reflect on pivotal, “game changing” moments that have shaped their lives. Through honest and engaging conversation, they explore how certain events, comments, and decisions—both big and small—have had lasting impact across different seasons of life.

Whether it’s a mentor’s encouragement, a moment of crisis, or a personal realization, Jeff and Steve show how looking back reveals the ways these moments were more than chance—they were turning points that continue to echo forward. The conversation is rich with personal stories, spiritual reflection, and an invitation for listeners to consider the game changing moments in their own lives.

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Episode 13 of the Rearview Mirror Podcast features a thoughtful conversation between Jeff and Steve as they explore the evolving dynamics of relating to adult children, rather than continuing to "parent" them in the traditional sense. They reflect on their own relationships with their grown kids, recognizing that the parenting role has shifted into something more consultant-like—offering wisdom when invited, but primarily being a source of trust, encouragement, and support. This episode offers a heartfelt and relatable take on what it means to parent with open hands and a full heart as roles evolve over time.

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Books mentioned on this podcast episode:

Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out by Jim Burns

How Children Raise Parents by Dan Allender

In this deeply personal Good Friday episode, Jeff and Steve reflect on the reality of change and the importance of healthy transition--especially in light of the recent miscarriage of one of Jeff's grandchildren. Drawing on William Bridges' wisdom that "change is external, transition is internal," they explore the three stage of transition: an ending, the messy middle and a new beginning.

They discuss how we navigate that difficult middle space, where grief, uncertainty and growth often collide. From the changing of seasons to the story of Easter, and from personal loss to life's many shifts--aging, sports, job changes and even death--this episode is filled with raw emotion, hope and practical insight for anyone walking through a season of transition.

In this episode, Jeff and Steve dive into the power of reframing—shifting our perspective to navigate life’s challenges more effectively. From mishits on the golf course to missteps in relationships, they explore how setbacks don’t have to define us. Instead of getting stuck in the moment, they encourage listeners to see failure as part of a bigger story—one that’s still being written.

The episode emphasizes that failures aren’t final and that we always have the chance to ask, “Maybe?” or “And…?” to discover new possibilities. By choosing to “just do the next right thing,” we move forward. Life is a video, not a snapshot, and our worst moments never have to be the last word.

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