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Rebecca Zung Talks About Negotiating with Narcissists


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In this episode, I'm joined by Rebecca Zung, a negotiation expert specializing in dealing with high-conflict personalities, particularly narcissists. We explore strategies for handling legal disputes involving narcissistic personalities, focusing on understanding their psyche and using advanced negotiation skills to navigate these challenging situations. Rebecca shares insights on building leverage through documentation and setting boundaries while addressing vulnerabilities, all of which are crucial in achieving a successful outcome when dealing with narcissists.

Throughout our conversation, Rebecca emphasizes the importance of understanding the narcissist's brain chemistry and how childhood trauma often leads to underdeveloped emotional centers in their brains. She introduces her "Slay Method" for dealing with difficult people, which focuses on creating a clear vision, holding leverage, and setting specific negotiation goals. This episode is packed with practical advice and strategies for anyone facing the daunting task of negotiating with narcissists.

Key Discussion Points

  • Narcissism and Relationships: Understanding how narcissism affects relationships and the spectrum of narcissistic personality disorder.
  • Brain Chemistry and Trauma: Insights into how childhood trauma impacts narcissists' emotional development and behavior.
  • Creating Leverage: Techniques for building leverage in negotiations with narcissists by understanding their vulnerabilities and predictable behaviors.
  • The Slay Method: Rebecca's approach to dealing with difficult personalities, focusing on strategy and long-term vision.
  • Negotiation Goals: The importance of setting specific goals in negotiations, whether in dissolving partnerships or valuing assets.
  • Covert vs. Grandiose Narcissists: Identifying different types of narcissists and their manipulation tactics.
  • Asserting Power: How to assert power authentically to make narcissists back down.


    Rebecca's expertise provides a comprehensive guide to navigating negotiations with narcissists, offering listeners actionable strategies to handle these challenging situations effectively. Her insights on the importance of self-reflection, boundary-setting, and strategic planning are invaluable for anyone dealing with difficult personalities in legal disputes (or otherwise).

    Links Worth Exploring

    • Connect with Rebecca: Website | YouTube | Instagram | X/Twitter
    • Get Rebecca's Free Negotiation Prep Playbook: Click here
    • Get Rebecca's Book: SLAY the Bully: How to Negotiate with a Narcissist and Win
    • Related Conversation: Episode 358: Calm Your Chaos with Nicola Taggart
    • Related Blog Post: Why You Need to Take Productivity Personally

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