Rebel Buddhist

In this Episode of the Rebel Buddhist podcast, we talk about what it means to be a true grown-ass adult…in a soul centric way. Many theories of human development focus on stages that are reached in certain age ranges. But you and I both know that turning 18 doesn’t mean you’re a grown-ass adult, and it certainly doesn’t guarantee that we are psychospiritually mature. Listen to find out what true adolescence and adulthood mean, and why reaching true adulthood is so important for ourselves and the world around us.

// The difference between Eco-Soulcentric and Ego-centric Development

// Why so many people can live their entire lives without ever discovering true adulthood

// What true adolescence and adulthood are

// The 9 transitions or passages between the 8 stages of Bill Plotkins’ Eco-Soulcentric Wheel

// The importance of reaching true adulthood - for ourselves, our community, and the world

// Wild Mind Series:

• North
• South
• East
• West

// Episode 105: Soul vs Spirit

// Episode 139: Nature & Reconnecting

// Episode 187: Leaving Home

// Episode 129: How to reparent ourselves

// Episode 116: Rites of Passage

// If you're up for a journey that involves soul-searching, mind-expanding wisdom at a level most people don’t even explore, and taking on the honorable role of a true adult in your community, and eventually even as a respected elder which we really need more of (because remember - we have to complete these other stages first!), check out the Adventure Mastermind - we start with a virtual retreat later this month, and our first retreat is on the Big Island of Hawaii in February. Head over and apply at AdventureMastermind.com. We’ve only got 3 spots left!

// Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support and getting coached by yours truly? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Plus, we have entire months devoted to wisdom and compassion. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there!

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.

In these times it can be easy to feel powerless to have any significant impact on the future, especially as we cross the threshold of being able to reverse things already set in motion, like climate change. We need to move beyond the concept of “changing the world” - which is often overwhelming and leads to apathy. Indeed, in many ways, we can’t change the world. AND this does not mean we do nothing. 

When I was an activist against nuclear weapons in my teens and also advocating for environmental changes, this was the mentality - to change the world. And back then, in some ways, it was easier to do that. 

But with some of the crises we are facing today, there are many things that are irreversible, and we can easily fall into despair. 

An Island of Sanctuary is a place of refuge and community. As Margaret Wheatley says, “We can’t keep swimming alone in these toxic seas.” 

In this week’s Episode, we’ll talk about how we can do our part to build islands of sanctuary in a more manageable way - within our own families and communities.

// Why “saving the world” might not be as noble as it sounds

// The dangers of not having discernment about what we can and cannot change

// The importance of helping those within our reach

// What Islands of Sanctuary are and why they’re so necessary for effective changemakers

// Why we can’t skip the chaos and collapse, no matter how much we want to - and how we can prepare for it

// Qualities of an Island of Sanctuary for yourself AND your community

// Episode 188: Connected in Our Grief and Wonder

// Episode 179: Medicine for These Times

// OK my friends, as we arrive in a brand new year, If you’re looking for your own Island of Sanctuary to do this deeper work, to open to truth and most importantly to the truth of your own soul, come join me in the Adventure Mastermind.

It’s a small group of self-identified women (you’ll probably never see a group this small in the coaching world and certainly not in altered states work these days), and we have an absolutely magical curated experience for you to go deep. Head on over to AdventureMastermind.com and apply now – we’ve got some great bonuses too!

// Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support and getting coached by yours truly? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Plus, we have entire months devoted to wisdom and compassion. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there!

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.

This week’s special Greatest Hits episode is all about forgiveness - some of the biggest misconceptions we often have about it, and why forgiveness has absolutely nothing to do with the other person feeling remorse. Plus, we’ll jam on how our “enemies” can actually be our greatest teachers.

// Why forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person being sorry or feeling any remorse  

// Some of the biggest misconceptions people have about forgiveness  

// How to decide when you should forgive someone 

// How our “enemies” can be our greatest teachers 

// Episode 16: How to Improve Any Relationship

// Episode 53 How to Forgive Yourself

// Download the gorgeous REVIEW, REFLECT + ALIGN workbook by clicking here

// OK my friends, we are coming to a close in 2023. If you want a safe and supportive place to do this deeper work, to open to truth and most importantly to the truth of your own soul, come join me in the Adventure Mastermind.

It’s a small group of self-identified women (you’ll probably never see a group this small in the coaching world and certainly not in altered states work these days), and we have an absolutely magical curated experience for you to go deep. Head on over to AdventureMastermind.com and apply now – we’ve got some great bonuses too!

// Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support and getting coached by yours truly? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Plus, we have entire months devoted to wisdom and compassion. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there!   

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.

In this week’s episode, we dive into the suffering we witness in the world around us and the importance of allowing ourselves to feel our grief for all of it, as well as holding beauty and wonder for this precious life at the same time. I’ll open up about some of the suffering I’ve witnessed and discuss the key to bearing witness to the world’s pain without feeling overwhelmed - not doing it alone! Plus I give a few suggestions of ways we can reconnect with others through our shared grief and allow easier access to those difficult emotions.

// Why we must open ourselves up to grief for the world around us

// How to find beauty in what causes us to grieve

// The importance of interconnectedness and realizing we are not alone

// Ways we can reconnect with others in a deeper way + cultivate resilience

// The Work That Reconnects by Joanna Macy

// Episode 174: Decolonize Your Mind

// OK my friends, we are coming to a close in 2023. If you want a safe and supportive place to do this deeper work, to open to truth and most importantly to the truth of your own soul, come join me in the Adventure Mastermind.

It’s a small group of self-identified women, you’ll probably never see a group this small in the coaching world and certainly not in altered states work these days - and we have an absolutely magical curated experience for you to go deep. Head on over to AdventureMastermind.com and apply now – we’ve got some great bonuses too!

// Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support and getting coached by yours truly? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Plus, we have entire months devoted to wisdom and compassion. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there!   

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.

In this episode, we talk about the importance of leaving home - physically AND psycho-spiritually. I’ll dive into how to know when it’s time to wander, and why we must do so in the first place. We talk about intersectional barriers to access leaving home - and how modern industrialized society holds us back (and why). 

// How to know it’s time to wander

// How our wandering impacts the world around us

// What leaving our physical and psychspiritual home looks like

// Why modern industrialized society makes it so hard to leave the village

// How to overcome the forces holding us back

// Two things to try as you begin wandering on your own.

// Episode 178: The Gift of Wandering - Exploring Our Purpose

// The Journey of Soul Initiation, by Bill Plotkin

// Nature and the Human Soul, by Bill Plotkin

// If you’re ready to leave the village and begin your own soulcentric journey, come apply to the Adventure Mastermind, because this is THE thing we do. The first retreat is in mid-February around Valentine’s Day. What better way to gift yourself som love, right? ;)

So come experience what it’s all about. Head on over to AdventureMastermind.com and apply now – you’ve got nothing to lose by applying, ok?

// Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support and getting coached by yours truly? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Plus, we have entire months devoted to wisdom and compassion. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there!   

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.

This episode is all about a highly requested topic: breakups and heartache. We’ll talk about the difference between “clean pain” vs “dirty pain,” as well as the importance of fully metabolizing the pain and sadness that comes from the end of any relationship (and what happens when we don’t). We also dive into the role history and societal expectations play in how we validate or judge relationships, and why using the length of a relationship to legitimize it isn’t helpful - at all. We explore relationships being there for a reason, season, or lifetime, and how resisting reality (the relationship has run its course; the other person feeling it’s done, even if we don’t agree; facing that we really aren’t satisfied in the relationship) really screws us in the end. And of course, we talk about how we can cause ourselves way less unnecessary suffering, and instead move towards transformation and growth.

// What clean and dirty pain are, and how to tell the difference

// How to go from dirty to clean pain and help ourselves heal

// How to steer clear of shame and blame

// The role societal expectations play in how we validate or judge relationships

// The benefits of “conscious uncoupling”

// Episode 2: How to Not Care What Other People Think About You

// Episode 16: How to Improve Any Relationship

// Episode 18: How to Coach Yourself

// Episode 24: How to Be With Any Emotion

// Episode 36: How to Let People Be Wrong About You

// Registration is officially open for the Adventure Mastermind and we’re already halfway full! We start at the end of January with our first retreat in Hawai’i in February (sunshine, blue water and starry nights, anyone?)

Listen - this is going to be even more mystical than EVER. Someone who did the program just over a year ago is coming back because yes, I have to say, it IS that good. So come experience what it’s all about. Head on over to AdventureMastermind.com and apply now - you’ve got nothing to lose by applying, ok? ;)

// Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support and getting coached by yours truly? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Plus, we have entire months devoted to wisdom and compassion. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there! 

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.

This week’s episode is all about equanimity and emotional stability. Many people have this idea that to be emotionally stable means we have to go through the world with this detached point of view about everything - good or bad. But that couldn’t be further from the truth! True equanimity is a balanced engagement with ALL aspects of life - the good AND the bad. Listen to learn more about how we can cultivate this in our own lives through a deeper understanding of the 4 Noble Truths.

// Episode 60: How to Avoid Unnecessary Suffering

// Episode 63: Being Human is Hard - The First Noble Truth

// If you want to start integrating all of you into this one precious life we have, apply for the Adventure Mastermind. It’s Soul Work. Deep work. Important, necessary, and essential to what the world needs right now. Be a part of it.

If you’re remotely curious, apply. It will help you get clear, and then we can chat to see if it’s actually a good fit. Trust me – it’s an intense 6 months so I am just as invested as you are in making sure it’s an amazing match. Head over to AdventureMastermind.com and apply for the Summer cohort. We have 2 altered states retreats, weekly coaching, virtual retreats, and more. I’ve got you!

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics.

// Want to dive into this work on a deeper level on your own time? To study it and practice it together with a group of people with the same goals of freedom, adventure and purpose? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out.

It’s also where you can get individual help applying the concepts to your own life. It’s where you can learn new coaching tools not shared on the podcast that will blow your mind even more, and it’s where you can connect over all things freedom with other freedom junkies just like you and me. It’s my favorite place on earth and it will change your life, I guarantee it. Come join us at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there.

This week dive into the importance of bringing ritual and ceremony into our daily lives in the midst of modern industrialized life. We’ll emphasize why self-directed ritual and ceremony can be particularly potent. I’ll also share a bit about my own rituals and why each is so important to me, and then we’ll lay out some tips and ideas to help you get started in creating (or bringing back) your own practices for more magic, connection, and wonder in your daily life.

// Episode 9: Impermanence, Death and Other Sexy Things

// Episode 81: The Importance of a Daily Routine

// Episode 110: The Miracle of Being Alive

// Episode 116: The Importance of Rites of Passage

// If incorporating a sense of magic and wonder into your life everyday is something that you really dig the idea of, this is a part of the Adventure Mastermind! Learning how to create ritual and ceremony for your unique needs, dreams, goals, healing, and sense of belonging, connection, and meaning in life. We also engage in our own plant medicine ceremonies and practices and create our own regular practice to stay connected to, and aligned with, what matters most.

Registration is officially open and the November bonuses expire soon, so head on over to AdventureMastermind.com and apply now. We start at the end of January with our first retreat in Hawai’i in February (sunshine, blue water and starry nights, anyone?)

// Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support and getting coached by yours truly? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Plus, we have entire months devoted to wisdom and compassion. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there!  

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.

This week’s episode explores the common thread that we can all see throughout our lives; that piece of authenticity of our unique gift that is carried throughout everything we do. I’ll talk about the moments in my life where I followed that thread, and how I felt when I didn’t follow it. Plus we’ll explore some ways we can better connect with our unique way of loving the world - or discover it for the very first time.

// Episode 71: How to Find Your Purpose

// Episode 99: Rebel Purpose

// If you want to explore soul purpose - and the deep personal inquiry that’s required to do so - come join us in the next cohort of the Adventure Mastermind. We start at the end of January with our first retreat in Hawaii in February.

Registration is officially open. So head on over to AdventureMastermind.com and grab your spot now!  

// Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support and getting coached by yours truly? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Plus, we have entire months devoted to wisdom and compassion. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there!  

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.

This week’s episode is about taking trauma out of context - how and why we do it, and how it can affect not just ourselves, but our families and our entire culture for generations. Plus we’ll dive into what we can all do to help contextualize these traumas and begin the healing process - discovering the potential for profound personal and cultural transformation.

// My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies, by Resmaa Menakem

// Episode 59: The Mother/Father/Parent Wound

// If you’re looking for ways to find deep, genuine connection with other like-minded humans, join me in the Adventure Mastermind – a small group of inclusive, self-identified womyn who get way behind the bullshit and embark on a 6-month adventure together, inward, and outward.  

Registration is officially open. So head on over to AdventureMastermind.com and grab your spot now!  

// Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support and getting coached by yours truly? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Plus, we have entire months devoted to wisdom and compassion. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can’t wait to see you there!  

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.