Peter Levine said, “Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.” Bearing witness and being witnessed is what we talk about today.  

We’ll explore why it matters who acknowledged our suffering and/or who we told - and why the answer is usually, “No one.” We also dive into the importance of having (and being) an empathetic witness when healing from trauma - and healing our communities. 

// Early registration is open for the next cohort of the Adventure Mastermind at AdventureMastermind.com ! Enter into the adventure of your life in a container where you’ll feel safe enough to explore your true self with entheogens and adventures during this one precious life we have. The early bird bonuses end in less than a week, so apply now!

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics.

// Want to dive into this work on a deeper level on your own time? To study it and practice it together with a group of people with the same goals of freedom, adventure and purpose? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out.

In this week’s episode, we talk about what a keystone habit is and how we all can benefit from one. Keystone habits can lead to improving other habits in completely different areas of our life, which also leads to big changes in our self-concept and identity as we become the person we want to be, fully and authentically. We go over 4 steps to creating healthy keystone habits and why finding peer support can help us manifest the best version of themselves (as long as they don’t stick us in the same old box!). 

// The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

// Simon Sinek Ted Talk, Discover Your Why

// Episode 15: How to Drink Less

// Early registration is open for the next cohort of the Adventure Mastermind at AdventureMastermind.com . Enter into the adventure of your life in a container where you’ll feel safe enough to explore your true self with entheogens and adventures during this one precious life we have

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics.

// Want to dive into this work on a deeper level on your own time? To study it and practice it together with a group of people with the same goals of freedom, adventure and purpose? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out.

We often focus too much on our imperfections instead of the progress we are making. This happens for a lot of reasons that I go into on the pod, but also has to do with the fact that we often ignore the more subtle - yet important-  parts of our progress. Listen to learn over 10 ways we can see our own growth in our physical, emotional, and spiritual lives. Plus find out why discernment is such a key part in continuing our path and learn how our progress can help us face future suffering and leave what no longer serves us behind.

// Check out Episode 100 : This discussed how we can watch for the frequency, intentity and duration or our reactive mind

// Listen to Episode 106: Empathy vs Compassion

// Early registration is open for the next cohort of the Adventure Mastermind at AdventureMastermind.com . Enter into the adventure of your life in a container where you’ll feel safe enough to explore your true self with entheogens and adventures during this one precious life we have.

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics.

// Want to dive into this work on a deeper level on your own time? To study it and practice it together with a group of people with the same goals of freedom, adventure and purpose? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out.

This week we talk about the importance of showing up authentically in relationships… even when we are afraid the other person won’t accept us for who we are. I’ll share my own story about how my husband and I could have ended it… and how my choice to speak and act wisely changed the course of our relationship and our parenting forever (and for good)!  

P.S. Be sure to grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics. 

// Early registration is open for the next cohort of the Adventure Mastermind  at AdventureMastermind.com . Enter into the adventure of your life in a container where you’ll feel safe enough to explore your true self during this one precious life we have.

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics. 

// Want to dive into this work on a deeper level on your own time? To study it and practice it together with a group of people with the same goals of freedom, adventure and purpose? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out.

This week, we explore the question of “Who Am I?” and how that relates to being a medicine of sorts for the epidemic of loneliness we are experiencing in society. I’ll talk about how the exploration of awareness can help us define our own identity and how to find a balance between ourselves and the bigger picture of existence… plus I give you some practices you can take to help you step back when we get hooked by a story that our “small sense of self” creates..  

P.S. Be sure to grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and can tune in weekly when I go live on new topics. 

// Check out dharmaseed.org for more meditations and practices like the Big Sky meditation

// Early registration is open for the next cohort of the Adventure Mastermind  at AdventureMastermind.com . Enter into the adventure of your life in a container where you’ll feel safe enough to explore your true self during this one precious life we have.

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics.

// Want to dive into this work on a deeper level on your own time? To study it and practice it together with a group of people with the same goals of freedom, adventure and purpose? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out.

This week, I share some thoughts on creating emotional safety, which is essential for our growth and healing. Tune in to learn why truth is important for our healing and why an internal environment of safety is just as crucial as an external one. Plus, I’ll give you the two main ingredients for optimal healing, and discuss what happens when either or both is not properly aligned.

P.S. Be sure to grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics.

// Episode 18: How to Coach Yourself

// Episode 51: Self-Compassion

// Episode 73: How to Be Your Own Guru

// Self-compassion.org by Kristen Neff  

// Early registration is open for the next cohort of the Adventure Mastermind  at AdventureMastermind.com . Enter into the adventure of your life in a container where you’ll feel safe enough to explore during this one precious life we have.

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics.

// Want to dive into this work on a deeper level on your own time? To study it and practice it together with a group of people with the same goals of freedom, adventure and purpose? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out.

The reason I called this podcast Rebel Buddhist is because it’s meant to encourage one’s own inquiry into the teachings and to not just accept things on blind faith or without deep inquiry into the teachings; to encourage questioning and for people to have different experiences of that exploration and that it is OK.

// WTF it means to “live the question”

// Why “seeing for ourselves” is key to prevent, and protecting against, oppression (and gaslighting)

// How to balance investigative inquiry and healthy doubt with faith

// When doubt isn’t useful and unproductive - and essential

// How we can use “seeing for ourselves” to not judge others

In this episode, I talk about the idea that clarity is some passive “aha” moment that just falls into our lap, when in reality, clarity is an active decision that we must all make. Listen to find out why we all need clarity, and what you can do when you think you’ve found clarity, but suddenly, good ol’ doubt starts to creep back in.

P.S. Be sure to grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics.

I was thinking how maybe like 5 years ago, I would have done the damn episode, thinking I had more of an obligation to crank one out that spend time with my kid, or to try and sleep, because it was “work” and I was the primary breadwinner, so no excuses in order to provide.

I’m really grateful that now I have so much more clarity about how to prioritize my life, but whew…being raised by an immigrant Filipinx mama who sacrificed so much for me makes choosing self care and small precious moments hard to choose over work sometimes

// How to stop avoiding thinking about death – and how to instead acknowledge what facing it can teach you about living now

// A few ways to shift your mindset about impermanence + use it to mentally reframe your own narrative 

// About one of my biggest regrets in life and some life-altering decisions I made along the way – how they pushed me to create the life I wanted and live in integrity

// Why your fear of death is actually your deeper fear that you have not lived your truest life (Steve Chandler)

// How to stop putting off the things that make us happy for ‘another time’ and start living fully now

// Why we must recognize the preciousness of human life in order to take real action toward making the most of the time we have

// Join the waitlist for the Adventure Mastermind at AdventureMastermind.com and save the dates for the first retreat of the next round, sometime the week of March 25th in Baja, Mexico. Get clear about your unique Soul purpose and how to create a life that supports it during this one precious life we have.

// If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You’ll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist FB group, and tune in weekly when I go live on new topics.

// Want to dive into this work on a deeper level on your own time? To study it and practice it together with a group of people with the same goals of freedom, adventure and purpose?

Check out Freedom School

 – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out

Today we talk about how to write your personal manifesto and why it’s worth doing.

// Why you should bother writing a manifesto

// How to use a manifesto when you’re not motivated to do what you need to do

// Three questions that make writing one easy

// Something you can do today, right now, to get started

// Grab a copy fof the Rebel Buddhist Manifesto here

// Ep. 7: Know Your Values - The Rebel Buddhist Manifesto

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