Reclaiming Food, Freedom & The Last 10

Spring is in full bloom. Summer is around the corner.

The weather is warming up, which means, less clothes and more skin!

The shorts start to come out, tank tops, and of course bathing suits.

It's essential that as you are losing weight, and you continue to have personal breakthroughs with your specific weight loss goals (whether you're on route to losing 75lbs or 7) that you know that feeling unapologetically confident, secure and comfortable in your own skin and body - comes from your mind- NO MATTER WHAT YOU ARE WEARING.

(Contrary to popular belief, unapologetic body confidence does NOT come from the number on the scale or the size tag on a particular skirt)

Being able to feel Unapologetic Confidence in ANYTHING that you chose to wear (no matter how short the shorts, or how skimpy the bathing suit!!) comes from HOW YOU'RE THINKING ABOUT YOUR BODY.

This episode- we're revisiting a conversation with master style coach and expert focused on swimsuit mindset. We talk about ALL things swimsuits as we're gearing up for the warmer months of the year, and preparing for upcoming summer vacations.

We take a deep dive into: shopping for swimsuits, wearing swimsuits, developing your own unique style, and how to actually feel confident and comfortable in your swimsuits.

As you listen to this episode, apply ALL of the topics and concepts discussed to other summer garments and items including: - shorts, skirts, tank tops and all the sleeveless things.

You'll be able to apply all of the teachings to ANY of the clothing items that you don't feel confident enough to wear, or even if you do work up the 'nerve' to actually wear it, you spend most of the time feeling uncomfortable, insecure (at best) -OR- constantly internally critical and deeply inadequate (at worst).

THIS TOPIC IS IMPORTANT. YOU DESERVE TO ENJOY WEARING THE THINGS YOU WANT TO WEAR THIS SPRING & SUMMER.

And this doesn't mean you can't have a goal to lose weight. You get to gave whatever next-level weight loss goal you want, my sister!

But let's make sure you're approaching your weight loss in a way, where you ALSO develop the most DELICIOUS, unshakeable, LIFE-LASTING UNAPOLOGETIC BODY CONFIDENCE.

So that you are able to truly ENJOY wearing whatever the heck you want to wear FOR A LIFE TIME. (This summer, and ALL future summers to come!)

One of the TOP things that will keep you from arriving to your weight goal is: quitting on yourself because you feel impatient.

In this episode, we take a deep dive into HOW TO STOP QUITTING ON YOURSELF when getting to your goal is taking longer then you think it should (or longer then you wanted!)

And why it matters so much to BE PATIENT vs impatient.

You'll hear real-life examples from my amazing client Erica.

After struggling with weight and food for DECADES, she arrived at exactly her goal weight.

And she didn't just lose her last 27 pounds that had felt impossible. She also developed a trust with herself and a love for herself, that she believes was worth this process taking however long that it needed to take.

THE REQUIREMENT TO ARRIVE AT YOUR GOAL: BEING PATIENT with yourself and your body.

Not quitting on yourself because 'it's taking too long' or 'it's not happening as fast as I want it too'.

The most ineffective thing you can do if you want to arrive at your goal is to quit on yourself because you're feeling impatient, or deciding that your goal 'isn't possible' just because creating the changes you wanted was taking longer then you thought it would.

This one is a MUST listen.

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As we celebrate over 5+ years of 'THE LAST 10' podcast… This LAST 10 special series is our BEST OF, my greatest hits. I believe EVERY single episode of the podcast until now, has had its own unique value but in this GREATEST HITS SERIES I'm bringing you the highlights of ONLY the very best.--

In these special episodes you'll meet Michelle, a listener of the podcast, and also a member of my podcast production team. Michelle has lost 70 POUNDS and has completely transformed this area of her life listening to the podcast and applying what I teach. (You'll get goosebumps listening to her story and I'm pretty certain you won't help but smile yourself, as you listen to her share the joy and confidence she's been able to create!)

If you're a new listener of the podcast, THIS is gonna be such the most amazing way to go on a powerfully-curated, guided tour as you listen to ONLY our most popular episodes- from the very beginning.

And if you've been a listener for years, perhaps you're even one of my clients - I INVITE YOU TO JOIN US. You'll be able to hear the life-changing teachings, the game-changing analogies and all the classic 'LAST 10' concepts in a whole new way, at a whole new level from where you are, in your journey today.

Volume Ten- LISTEN NOW

To lose your 'last 10' using my proven method JOIN THE LAST 10™ Program- GET ALL THE DETAILS HERE: www.brendalomeli.com/thelast10

If you missed any of the past greatest hits, find them here:

- http://brendalomeli.com/greatest-hits-volume-1/ - http://brendalomeli.com/ep-240-greatest-hits-volume-2/ - http://brendalomeli.com/greatest-hits-volume-3/ - https://brendalomeli.com/greatest-hits-volume-4/ - https://brendalomeli.com/253-greatest-hits-volume-6/ - https://brendalomeli.com/255-greatest-hits-holiday-edition-part-2/ - https://brendalomeli.com/greatest-hits-volume-5/ - https://brendalomeli.com/260-greatest-hits-volume-6/ - https://brendalomeli.com/264-greatest-hits-volume-7/ - https://brendalomeli.com/268-greatest-hits-volume-8/ - https://brendalomeli.com/272-greatest-hits-volume-9/

If you've been a listener of the podcast for a year or more.

This one is for you.

(but even if not, MAKE SURE TO LISTEN)

As women we've been socialized to (1) care about every single aspect of our physical appearance, to be constantly critical of it AND ALSO (2) that caring about how we look is vain, superficial, and shallow.

BOTH.

Whaaat?! It makes no sense.

It's no surprise then that for MOST women (3 out of 4, in fact) there's so much emotional suffering , stuck-ness and confusion that happens in this area of our lives.

Well, we're going to change that dammit. (!!!)

Your relationship with your body impacts ALL areas of your life → thus, it is NOT shallow, or superficial, or lame, or 'selfish' or vain to spend time and energy improving it-

BECAUSE DOING SO, IMPROVES YOUR WHOLE LIFE.

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ps. The Last 10 Program is the best place I know to LET this goal matter in the very best way. To come in and be expertly supported in creating exactly what you want.

The deadline to get yourself enrolled is approaching quick on Thursday, March 31st. CLICK HERE TO LOCK IN YOUR SPOT

Do you know how to SUSTAIN and ENJOY your weight loss results with ease once you've created them?

Do you know how to KEEP and HAVE your results - for as long as you want - once you've achieved them?

Most women don't know how to do this.

(I was the same btw! I would lose and gain the same 30-50 pounds over and over. exhausting!)

What I breakdown in this weeks podcast episode is the answer to one of the TOP QUESTIONS I GET: 'Brenda I know how to LOSE weight, but I can't freakin figure out how to keep it off- help me!'

If any of that resonates with YOU-

Then listen, sister. I created this episode just for you.

There's ONE SKILL you're gonna have to grow.

There's just no way around it.

Growing this ONE SKILL put an end to me re-gaining weight (and I had been regaining weight FOR DECADES like it was my damn job!)

This skill will help YOU keep, ENJOY and sustain the weight loss results you've worked so diligently to create-

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Do you struggle with feeling deprived?

Do you end up 'eating stuff' that's keeping you at your current weight (aka NO weight loss) BECAUSE YOU FEEL DEPRIVED?

I've got the solution for you.

It's NOT TRUE that you have to give up your goal, in order to stop feeling deprived.

It's ABSOLUTELY POSSIBLE for you to lose exactly the weight you want to lose AND ALSO STOP FEELING DEPRIVED.

Listen to this podcast episode to learn the antidote for ANY feelings of deprivation.

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As we celebrate over 5+ years of 'THE LAST 10' podcast… This LAST 10 special series is our BEST OF, my greatest hits. I believe EVERY single episode of the podcast until now, has had its own unique value but in this GREATEST HITS SERIES I'm bringing you the highlights of ONLY the very best.--

In these special episodes you'll meet Michelle, a listener of the podcast, and also a member of my podcast production team. Michelle has lost 70 POUNDS and has completely transformed this area of her life listening to the podcast and applying what I teach. (You'll get goosebumps listening to her story and I'm pretty certain you won't help but smile yourself, as you listen to her share the joy and confidence she's been able to create!)

If you're a new listener of the podcast, THIS is gonna be such the most amazing way to go on a powerfully-curated, guided tour as you listen to ONLY our most popular episodes- from the very beginning.

And if you've been a listener for years, perhaps you're even one of my clients - I INVITE YOU TO JOIN US. You'll be able to hear the life-changing teachings, the game-changing analogies and all the classic 'LAST 10' concepts in a whole new way, at a whole new level from where you are, in your journey today.

Volume Ten- LISTEN NOW

To lose your 'last 10' using my proven method JOIN THE LAST 10™ Program- GET ALL THE DETAILS HERE: www.brendalomeli.com/thelast10

If you missed any of the past greatest hits, find them here:

- http://brendalomeli.com/greatest-hits-volume-1/ - http://brendalomeli.com/ep-240-greatest-hits-volume-2/ - http://brendalomeli.com/greatest-hits-volume-3/ - https://brendalomeli.com/greatest-hits-volume-4/ - https://brendalomeli.com/253-greatest-hits-volume-6/ - https://brendalomeli.com/255-greatest-hits-holiday-edition-part-2/ - https://brendalomeli.com/greatest-hits-volume-5/ - https://brendalomeli.com/260-greatest-hits-volume-6/ - https://brendalomeli.com/264-greatest-hits-volume-7/ - https://brendalomeli.com/268-greatest-hits-volume-8/ - https://brendalomeli.com/272-greatest-hits-volume-9/

Society teaches us to think of our goals and 'achievement' in a very limited binary way, either SUCCEEDED -OR- FAILED.

And this socialization goes deep, we've most definitely been programmed to think this way. Not only that, but our brain also defaults to whatever the most 'efficient' way of thinking about things, so it LOVED putting things into 'easy', quick categories.

Here's what ALL of this means for YOU and YOUR WEIGHT LOSS GOAL:

It can be SO EASY to feel like a failure. It can be SO EASY to feel like you've failed and to feel shame and deeply flawed.

→ Then when you're feeling like you just can't seem to lose the weight you want to lose and/or it's taking too damn long- ALL OF THESE THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS ARE WHAT LEAD TO QUITTING AND SABOTAGE.

The quitting and the sabotage, then lead to stuckness and struggle

THIS IS WHY IT IS SO INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT to be onto yourself for any binary assessment, evaluation or judgment of your results.

I see this all. the. time. (and I experienced it myself for 2 decades!)

Someone will have a goal of losing 35 pounds- and then proceed to lose 28 of those 35 pounds in 6 months (that's more than a pound per week!) BUT THEN feel like a FAILURE for 'not getting to my goal'.

The craziest part is THIS: Because that person is feeling like a failure… they will start to tell themselves that 'it's not working' (although it is!) and then STOP doing what IS working. Start going back to the habits that create weight gain.

ALL BECAUSE THEY ARE JUDGING THEIR MEASURABLE RESULTS IN A BINARY WAY.

THE SOLUTION? NON-BINARY SUCCESS EVALUATION.

You have to CHOOSE TO SEE what IS working, what you ARE doing.

You have to CHOOSE TO SEE (and celebrate!) the results and changes you HAVE created.

You have to teach your brain to STOP making your success BINARY.

Meaning: STOP thinking about yourself and your goals in a way that if you don't hit your exact goal in the exact timeline that you had in mind ---> then you think of yourself as a failure, and you think of yourself as 'having failed'.

The reason that I am able to CONTINUE every year creating breakthrough after breakthrough is because I REFUSE TO EVALUATE MY RESULTS IN A LIMITED BINARY WAY.

THIS mindset is exactly what allowed me to put an END to my weight struggle, and have breakthroughs ALL the way to the results I was wanting- NO MATTER HOW LONG I HAD STRUGGLED- and no matter how much learning and de-conditioning of habits and behaviors had to happen along the way.

The reason I'm always able to EXPAND MY ABILITIES, MY CAPACITY and MY RESULTS (with any goal, but including my weight goal) is this:

- I don't set expiration dates on my goals.

I absolutely set dates, and I have timelines for my goals… BUT *IF I don't 'hit it' by the time I thought that I would, I don't make it mean it's not possible or that I'm not capable - instead I CHOOSE TO FEEL PROUD for ALL THE NON-BINARY SUCCESS up to this point thus far.

I REFUSE TO EVALUATE MY MEASURABLE RESULTS in a LIMITED BINARY WAY

→ I LOOK AT ALL I'VE DONE. All I've learned. All the NEW AWARENESS I have. and so much more.

AND* (VERY IMPORTANT) I ALSO - without judgment - look at the areas where there is continued opportunity for growth, learning, further development of specific skills, and further growth in my belief.

I am willing to be curious about ANY limiting beliefs or ways of thinking I may still hold, that are potentially getting in the way. (so I can weed those suckers out!)

The most ironic thing of all- ESPECIALLY with weight loss goals… Is that when you think about or evaluate your results in a BINARY way, that only keeps you feeling like sh*t.

Especially if you've had patterns of emotional eating, the more we feel like shit about ourselves- the more we feel like a 'failure' → the more we emotionally eat and sabotage.

NON-BINARY SUCCESS is where it's at.

THIS approach will keep you moving IN the direction of your exact goal AND experiencing ongoing new breakthroughs in your results in a way that FEELING LIKE A FAILURE- NEVER HAS AND NEVER WILL.

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Today I'm sharing with you my EASY & JOYFUL maintenance philosophy (even if you're not 'at your goal' yet, this episode is a must listen!)

I'm tackling the topic of MAINTENANCE and 'maintaining results' from a refreshingly new lens.

One of the most frequent questions that I get is this: 'Brenda I know how to LOSE weight, but what I struggle with is maintenance and maintaining those results, help!'

I'm telling you now… you might have to listen 2x to this one. And you're really gonna have to listen with an open mind.

Because THIS WAY OF THINKING ABOUT MAINTENANCE is SO different, then the ideas that we've been previously fed by diet-culture on the topic of 'maintenance'.

I mean, seriously.

It's gonna be a breath of fresh air.

And may I remind you that I have maintained an 80 pounds weight loss for YEARS NOW….

→ through wedding planning, adapting to the changes of marriage, honeymoon, many vacations, travel, becoming a new mom and navigating the newness of motherhood -- leaving my job to start my own business (which was f-ing scary and emotional btw!) -- growing and scaling that said business to 7-figures, navigating a global pandemic --- and more.

I'M ABLE TO ONGOING MAINTAIN THIS 80 POUND WEIGHT LOSS WITH EASE, AND JOY, AND LOVE as I am LIVING a full, amazing (sometimes-challenging!) life.

I've also coached 100's of women who had once struggled with their weight for DECADES, and who now ALSO maintain their results with ease and joy and love.

Clients like Risa, and Monica, and Caroline… (just to name a few) going on 4+ years of having gone through the program and TO THIS DAY are maintaining and enjoying AND LOVING their results.

Keep ALL of this in mind as you listen.

You might even find my ideas on this a bit unexpected.

But guess what?

I wanna offer to you, that you WANT unexpected.

YOU NEED UNEXPECTED.→ Because ALL the 'usual' ideas that you're so used to up to now have NOT been working.

It's time to mix it up. Let's mix it up REAL GOOD.

After all, it's NEW WAYS OF THINKING that will create for you A BRAND NEW EXPERIENCE AND UNIMAGINABLE RESULTS.

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{REQUIRED LISTENING} if you've ever thought or said to yourself: 'I already know what to do and what to eat, but I'm just not doing it'. My recommendation: proactively listen, and actively engage with the content in this episode. There's a 3-step written process, that will show you exactly what's keeping you from doing what you ALREADY know.

If you want results, make sure to COMPLETE THE WRITTEN PROCESS that I teach you in this episode.

If you don't want results, then you can just passively listen. ; )

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