You already know Adam and Pris don't do small talk — so when the topic of red flags and green flags in the swinging lifestyle came up on their SDC live webinar, they knew they weren't done talking about it. So they brought it straight to Wednesday's QUICKIE. And oh boy, did it get real.

This week, Adam and Pris break down the biggest red flags they personally watch for when meeting potential play partners — and the green flags that make them say, okay, we might actually like you.

What You'll Hear in This Episode:

Pris's Red Flags for Men: Turn the conversation sexual too fast? You're out. It doesn't matter that you're both in the lifestyle — read the room. If you haven't earned the vibe yet, keep it in your pants (literally).

Pris's Red Flags for Women: If you're in a group chat with both of them and you start sliding into Adam's DMs and leaving Pris on read? She sees you. And she is not interested. Respecting both partners isn't optional — it's the price of admission.

Adam's Biggest Red Flag: Pushiness. That frantic "WE NEED TO MEET ASAP" energy from the jump? Hard pass. Adam used to be that guy (Pris was NOT about to let him forget it), but 14 years in the lifestyle later, he's all about connections over conquests — and zero patience for people trying to sprint to the finish line.

Also a red flag: Messaging a husband and asking to see naked pictures of his wife. Adam addresses this one with the kind of calm, measured, diplomatic response you'd expect from him... just kidding. He tells those people exactly where to go.

The Guilt Trip Red Flag: "You didn't message me yesterday." Oh no. Adam's phone goes to Do Not Disturb at 8:30 PM every night — and if you're sending guilt trips about response times to a happily married man with a full life, you're going to hear about it. Loudly.

Green Flags They Love: Great communication between couples. Asking permission before reaching out to a partner. Being transparent about your intentions. And self-awareness — knowing your own stuff and actively working on it? That's genuinely attractive to these two.

They also get into jealousy, entitlement, pressure dynamics between couples, what it looks like when one partner is dragging the other into the lifestyle, and the very important art of taking a "no" gracefully — something Adam admits he had to grow into.

Pris crowns herself "La Toxica" early on and fully leans into it. She's self-aware about her jealousy, territorial streak, and high standards — and honestly? It's one of the most relatable things she's ever said on this show.

As always, this one's real, funny, unfiltered, and full of the kind of straight talk that only comes from two people who've been doing this together for 14 years.

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