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Empathy is often treated as something we should always have, but it has limits. Meaning, if a friend keeps repeating the same mistake, it becomes harder to have compassion or to see that they may be going through difficult times. A lot of the time, I believe it's just who they are, and we failed to see it at the beginning of the friendship. 

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 We are dating in a time where everything is quick and fast. Relationships can become hot and heavy almost overnight, and before you know it, it’s over. That’s why it’s crucial to pause and ask important questions before entering a relationship. Yes, he takes you out every weekend and calls you regularly, which are good signs. However, it's important to slow down and discuss whether he is willing to commit to certain boundaries if you decide to pursue a relationship together.

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Yes, I did self-abandon myself. The grief was unbearable. Losing my mommy and my furbaby back-to-back was painful, and for a while, I didn’t want to move forward. But in March, something in me began to change, something shifted. I believe it was my angels—my mom, my sister, and Lulu—guiding me. I made the decision to start living again, even with the pain still present. I understand that life will look different now, and it always will. But I am giving it my very best, taking it one step at a time.

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So, let’s talk about something that many of us don’t even realize we’re experiencing… self-abandonment. I don’t think we truly understand what self-abandonment really means. A lot of times, we believe that because we have a job, a place to live, and a car, that we’re doing just fine… that everything must be okay. But I say “okay” carefully… because sometimes that feeling of being just okay can actually be a warning sign — a quiet signal that we may be abandoning ourselves without even realizing it in the moment.

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There is never just one side to a story. Every situation has layers and emotions behind it. I often say there are three stories — one person’s side, the other person’s side, and the truth somewhere in between. Yet even then, there is still another layer, another story waiting to be told. The more we listen and try to understand, the more we see that stories are complicated, and the truth isn’t always just one thing. 

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It's all about our childhood experiences and what we see. We see our parents, friends, and teachers, and we see this fairytale in our minds, not the trials and tribulations. These early impressions shape our expectations and beliefs, sometimes setting us up for disappointment when reality doesn’t match the storybook in our minds. 

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We are all working through something, but the key is to keep striving for your goals. I say goals, but most of us are doing what we are passionate about in our lives, and that's the fun part! 

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Sadly, it took my own grieving process to give me a clearer picture of who I should cut out of my friendship circle. I have to laugh at this because I had to distant myself from all of them. I think before my grieving process, I didn’t care as much, if you call every day, speaking only of yourself. I would just say she needs so much attention, and put it on the lack of affection you weren't receiving from your significant other, or some childhood trauma. 

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In this podcast, I talk about how some people stay in a marriage until they can't handle it anymore. I explore the idea that we all have multiple soul mates in this life. I even talk about having multiple husbands if it comes to that, and more. 

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Watch out for the nontalker when you are beginning to put yourself out there to meet and date. It says a lot, and I’m not talking about his communication style.