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Do you tend to procrastinate, doubt yourself and excessively ruminate on what went wrong? Do you not attempt certain things you’d really like to do out of a fear of failure or fear of judgement from others? Do you struggle with low self-esteem and low self-worth? 

These may all be signs you struggle with perfectionism. But you likely know that. This episode is all about how you can break out of that perfectionistic paralysis, heal your wounds and live a happier & healthier life, while still being a high achiever. 

You’ll learn how perfectionism is a defense mechanism that you use to avoid feeling shame, pain or fear and how shadow work can help with that, why resting guilt-free and practicing self-compassion are crucial as well as common misconceptions about perfectionism and other ways to overcome it. 

Please leave a rating/review if you enjoy the show & share with another recovering perfectionist! 

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What if surrendering was not giving up or being lazy but actually granting us access to an intelligence far greater than our own? Could letting go of control, pain and thoughts lead us to our highest self and our best life? What if the answers we are searching for are not external to us, but internal, and already present? 

These are some of the questions considered in this week’s episode with John Purkiss, author of “The Power of Letting Go: How to drop everything that’s holding you back”. 

In the first part of the show we hear John’s own starting over story: how he achieved “success” both academically, as a graduate of Cambridge University and INSEAD,  and professionally, in his career in banking and management consulting. But at age 26 he was diagnosed with clinical depression which nearly proved fatal. And yet it is something he now describes as a ‘gift’ because of the new path it set him upon.  

In the second part of the show, we consider the themes in his book “The Power of Letting Go”, including surrendering, letting go, pain patterns, feeling stuck and a technique called completion - which involves re-living experiences which cause pain, agitation or disturbance within us in order to release them. 

YouTube links mentioned in episode:

• Unclutching technique - 6 minute video 
• Completion process - for health, wealth, relationships and enlightenment 

You can connect with John and I on the links below: 

- Shannon's instagram

- Shannon's website

- Shannon’s tiktok

- John’s website 

- John’s book “The Power of Letting Go: How to drop everything that’s holding you back” 

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“Thinking is the root cause of your suffering”. You will hear this many times in this episode, and by the end you will know WHY as well as HOW you can make a simple & effective change in your daily life to reduce your suffering and experience more joy & peace. 

The guest is spiritual thought leader and best-selling author of “Don’t Believe Everything You Think”, Joseph Nguyen. In the first part of the show we hear about Joseph’s own starting over story, his experience as a ‘good Catholic boy’ who “always tried to be a good person, be of service to others and obey his parents”, but was regularly feeling lost, empty and never enough. But this led him onto a path of spiritual awakening and self-development: where he stopped looking for answers externally and looked internally instead (something he now encourages us all to do).

In the second part of the episode, we discuss how thinking causes us suffering, the difference between thinking and thoughts, and how we can stop thinking and be guided by our intuition. 

You can connect with myself and Joseph on the links below: 

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Shannon's website

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Joseph’s book “Don’t Believe Everything You Think: WhyYour Thinking is the Beginning and End of Suffering” 

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Do you regularly feel unsure about yourself, your choices and your abilities? Do you lack confidence in the outcome of your efforts? Do you often need reassurance and approval from others? Do you often struggle with indecisiveness? 

If you answered yes to these questions, it could indicate that you are being limited by self-doubt (and should probably listen to this episode!)

On this podcast, I discuss what self-doubt is, some common things that self-doubters struggle with, the common root causes & 5 different strategies you can use to overcome this and live an abundant, expansive and fulfilling life.

Come connect with me on instagram or tiktok!

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How can we deal with feelings of loneliness after separation? How can we learn to trust again after being betrayed? Is it realistic to remain friends with the person we separated from? How can we learn to love ourselves when we’ve been put down in a relationship?

These are some of the questions I explore with American life and relationship coach Stephanie Lyn. In the first part of the episode we discuss Stephanie’s own self-development & spirituality journey after being asked for divorce by her husband when their baby was 1 month old (and later finding out he had been having an affair through her pregnancy).  In the second part of the episode we focus on starting over after heartbreak, separation and divorce, answering the questions above and much more! 

Stephanie is a no-fluff communicator - she serves us up a platter of simple truths and practical tips to help us heal, survive and thrive. PS: She mentions women a lot in her descriptions but this is just as applicable for men too! 

You can connect with myself and Stephanie on the links below: 

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Stephanie’s website

Stephanie’s youtube

Stephanie’s instagram

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Laura Davis came to fame and acclaim in the late 1980s after the publication of her book: “The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse” in which she shared her own experience of sexual abuse by her grandfather. An ordeal which left her feeling broken, damaged and incapable of loving & freely receiving love as well. But she dared to heal her pain and to ‘return to her body’, from which she had long dissociated as a result of the trauma she lived through. 

In our conversation we discuss her healing journey, what adversity taught her and what type of forgiveness is essential in cases of abuse. We also discuss her relationship with her mother, who long refused to believe Laura’s truth and with whom the decision to go public with her grandfather’s incest with the publication of “The Courage to Heal”  further deepened their estrangement. This is the subject of Laura’s beautiful and captivating memoir “The Burning Light of Two Stars: A Mother-Daughter Story” and I think in this podcast and far beyond, Laura has many words of wisdom to share about reconciling relationships, how to overcome adversity and how to live a joyful and happy life. 

You can connect with myself and Laura on the links below: 

Shannon's instagram

Shannon's website

Shannon’s tiktok

Laura’s website 

Laura’s facebook 

Laura’s instagram 

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“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate” - Carl Jung 

Reality is that our subconscious controls so much of our lives and we do not even know it. We often think that life is happening TO us, when in reality we are creating and attracting people, events & circumstances  based on our own often subconscious beliefs and parts of our personality. And this continues to be the case until we become conscious of what is unconscious in us: and this is the purpose of shadow work. 

On this episode, I draw on my recent experience at a week-long spiritual and self-development retreat in Southern France (that felt like a rebirth of sorts as it impacted me so significantly) and I explore: 

• What shadow work is
• A common misconception about shadow work (clue: it ain’t necessarily sinister) &
• Why on Earth you would want to face your pain, shame and fear when it is hard!

This episode is intended to inspire, motivate and encourage you to start or continue this journey of doing the inner work, but it is not a substitute for psychological treatment. Shadow work can be challenging, especially for people with a history of trauma, therefore I would encourage you to seek out professional help where you can for this. 

You can connect with me on socials using the links below 

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Emmy is a shining example of someone who has transformed her pain into purpose; her first experience of romantic love from age 15 was abusive and she was left with many symptoms of trauma, including flashbacks, nightmares, anxiety and suicidal ideation. But she is now in a happy & healthy long-term relationship and she is a certified trauma-informed life coach who specialises in helping her clients create thriving lives and relationships after trauma. 

We discuss Emmy’s own experience with trauma, her healing journey and learning to love again after being hurt. We also share some differing perspectives on what ‘unconditional love’ means.

Here are a few quotes from the episode:  

• “One of the biggest things that I've ever unlearned is that my worth as a human being is inextricably tied to what I can do for others or how many people like me.”
• “Surviving and healing from trauma is so often a thankless process. It's so difficult and no one actually knows what it's like to live in your body and have been through everything you've been through. So your survival, your resilience, your agency, your healing deserves to be amplified and celebrated and seen for the powerful and brave act that it is.”
• “Understand why shame is present and create a voice of self-acceptance, neutrality and then of self-compassion and self-love” 

You can connect with myself and Emmy on the links below: 

Shannon's instagram

Shannon's website

Shannon’s tiktok

Emmy’s instagram

Emmy’s website 

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Four years ago, I ended an abusive relationship with the person I share a child with. But that did not signal the ‘end’ of the separation: in ways, it was only the beginning. There were two years of difficult legal proceedings, full of pure lies, manipulation, false allegations & frivolous additional legal suits on the part of my ex. But after some time, justice was served. I slam dunk won the legal case and was given permission to relocate to Switzerland from Australia and have sole parental responsibility (custody) of our son. 

Sadly this isn’t the most common outcome in cases in which one parent has a ‘high conflict’ personality disorder (e.g. narcissism, sociopathy), so on this episode I share some of the strategies that contributed to my success -  both in the legal procedure itself and also in managing my emotions and finding the inner resources to fight a fight I often very much wished wasn’t happening

This episode was originally featured on “It’s All Your Fault!”, the podcast from the “High Conflict Institute” hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter MBA, which explores the “five types of people who can ruin your life” (the name of one of their books) and how to spot and deal with these characters - whether in romantic relationships, at work or beyond. 

If you are enjoying the podcast, please share with a friend and leave me a quick rating on your platform of choice! 

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What is self-sabotage? What are common ways in which we self-sabotage? Why on Earth do we do it when it often seems so irrational and illogical? And how can we bloody stop?! I know this is something I have personally struggled with, and I know that I am not alone. You’ll find some science-backed answers, practical tips and lots of  illustrative examples peppered throughout this episode.

If you are enjoying the podcast, please share with a friend and leave me a quick rating on your platform of choice! 

And come and connect with me over on socials if you don't already!

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