Cue the song "Pretty Woman"! we love this song and we love our guest today, Elysha Lenkin! Elysha is a personal stylist with a illustrious 25-year career in the fashion industry. This girl knows her stuff and has been entrusted to elevate the style for iconic personalities such as Carrie Underwood, Serena Williams, and Tina Fey. And you know what we love the most about Elysha? She specifically caters to women in midlife and she helps these women to think differently about their bodies and teaches her clients to see what they think of as liabilities, as assets.

Elysha helps every woman learn to love her body again during an age and stage in life when our physical appearance is changing SO dramatically. Do you know what we're talking about? We're putting on weight in places we normally wouldn't. Our clothes just really don't fit the same and the structure of body is definitely different than it was even just a year ago and is an ever changing target.

But, Elysha meets us where we are to helps us find our own style in a world in which some stores carry only one size made for small women's bodies which make fashion feels...demeaning...is that the right word? Or...maybe downright offensive is the better way to say it. I mean, we are women in midlife ladies...we've lived a lotta damn life, birthed babies, drank plenty of wine and we're telling you we ain't going to try to squeeze our asses into some one-sized-fits-all BS piece of clothing!

And thanks to Elysha, we don't have to! She teaches us to embrace an unconventional style and to rethink the way we wear our clothes and, frankly, to rethink the way we show up in midlife! Because, let's face it, when we look good on the outside, we feel good on the inside...And when we feel good on the inside, we hold our heads high and carry ourselves like the badass bitches we are! Ladies...if you want to look good and feel even better about yourself, follow this link to Elysha's free style quiz that is exclusive for Dear Midlife listeners.

In this episode, Elysha teaches us:

1. The first step to reinvention is to clear out, let go of, and shed what is no longer serving us. Clear it or wear it is Elysha's mantra. Then you can start wearing what you have.
2. Then we make more of what we have through mixing and matching different pieces to make them feel more accessible and more comfortable. We get used to wearing things the same way. Try wearing your things differently.
3. Finally, we evaluate what is missing and then intentionally shopping for what pulls the wardrobe together. 
4. When you put on your clothes, ask yourself how it makes you feel. Does it make you feel comfortable? Does it make you happy? Does it make you feel like yourself? Stop asking yourself what's "in style" and start asking yourself is this MY style. If you're keeping a beloved piece, play around with accessories and shoes to make the piece feel contemporary and new.
5. Finding what you LOVE, sometimes requires discovering what you DON'T love. Find one piece in your closet that you don't love any more. Identify, what it is about that piece that you no longer love. Then discard that item and then eliminate those items from your wardrobe in the future

To connect with Elysha:

Visit her website at elyshalenkin.com

Baby girl...isn't it time you gave yourself a midlife makeover?! In a surprise twist at the end of the show, Elysha is offering our Dear Midlife listeners access to this exclusive style quiz. And while our guest Elysha will help you with how you appear to the outside world, our work doesn't stop there! Rethinking our fashion is just the first step to reinvention.

Are you feeling stuck and know that you are destined for more?! Then join us in the middle by visiting our website dearmidlife.com, where we have some exciting new tools and resources in the works.