Liz and Michelle are joined by international dating expert, Sami Wunder in this episode to invite women to shift their mindset around dating and start putting themselves first. Sami talks about the importance of authenticity and self-esteem in dating, including how to create superior outcomes for yourself and delivers some unexpected concepts and truths about dating in the modern world. Sami also gives top tips for dating in midlife including how to tackle online dating and how to identify red flags!

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Create personal clarity, ask yourself why you want to date again and what you expect to get from it. It doesn’t always shave to be serious.
• In mid-life, you come to the wisdom that this is your life, and you need to live it on your own terms.
• Hiring a coach, therapist or expert is very helpful if you want to start putting yourself first and working your way through any difficult past relationship issues.
• We have to let go of the limiting belief that men are only interested in our bodies, it’s not true.
• Dating confidently is about how you feel about yourself, not getting validation from others.
• We must learn to date as our authentic selves, be honest about who we are and what we want, be the best version of ourselves, and trust that the right people will come.
• When creating an online profile, put yourself in your potential partners' shoes, how can you make yourself stand out? Be specific and unique about yourself. Give a sense of who you are as a person.
• Both men and women have masculine and feminine energy. When dating, women need to harness and exude their feminine energy.
• Rotational dating is putting the power back in the woman’s hand, giving them choices and options and ultimately, power. 
• Take your time filtering and evaluating in early dating, you don’t have to say yes to exclusivity to anyone.
• Honour yourself, your time and what you want in dating. Go at the pace that feels tight for you and you will attract far superior outcomes.
• If a partner isn’t initiating or making an effort, then you will be doing this with them for the rest of your life.
• Shop around, be authentic, find your USP and use that and don’t undervalue the role of research in yourself and dating.

BEST MOMENTS 

“We are more than our bodies”

“Offer yourself compassion”

“It's not about how your body looks, it's about how you feel about yourself”

“We’re better able to not be judged in middle life than when we were younger”

“Dating is all about showing up as your authentic self”

“Be your best self and let them come to you”

“You attract the opposite energy” 

“It’s a very man-serving concept, exclusivity”

“Go back to old fashioned values…hold out like our mothers did”

“You don’t owe anybody sex”

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EPISODE RESOURCES 

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ABOUT THE HOST

Liz Copping is a networking pro & event consultant, leaping out of her comfort zone to co-host this podcast.

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Michelle Ford is a professional voice actor and empty nester pressing reset, enjoying a new career in podcasting!

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