In celebration of Valentine’s Day this week’s episode is the first of a special three-part series called ‘Do ‘this’ to Fall in Love.  Jane and Wendy will each be answering a series of questions that are touted as a fast track to falling in love. Despite the fact that they feel they make terrible test subjects - since they already adore each other - they thought it would be fun and informative all the same. 

Wendy’s Takeaway

• Hearing Jane’s life story that only part of was known
• Connection and emotional intimacy take time and effort. It can be uncomfortable but the results far outweigh anything that is less desirable.

Jane’s Takeaway

• This has cemented that relationship between how mutual vulnerability fosters closeness and connectedness, and to get there it needs to be ‘sustained, escalating, reciprocal and full of personal self-disclosure.’
• The murky stuff.  She’s decided that wading through the muddy waters is so rewarding. 

Here are this week’s questions:

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? 
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12.  If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

And the link to the full article:

The 36 Questions That Lead to Love

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What is a love letter?  

It is a letter, a text, a poem, a direct message, a drawing, a voice message, a watercolor, a recipe, a cup of tea, a smile, a home-baked meal delivered.  It's anything that connects us and makes us feel all those messy emotions, that without life would be pretty beige.

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This week on Love Letters, Life, and Conversations Podcast Jane and Wendy took their podcast recording to Instagram Live to share the recording process with their listeners.  The springboard for their conversation this week is a quote by meditator, writer and speaker, Yung Pueblo. 

Jane and Wendy discuss the quote and ask themselves and listeners to reflect on this passage not only from the perspective of a love relationship but also in terms of friendship and connection with everyone in your life. They discuss the importance of checking in with each other and making our connections a priority. 

They also talk about:

• How sharing a connection with others opens yourself up to moments of real vulnerability. 
• That hurt can sometimes play into how we connect with others. 
• How you show up for yourself 

Wendy’s Takeaways:

• How applicable this principle of connection is to all of our relationships including the one we have with ourselves.
• Loves that self-awareness is the most important component of connection. 

Jane’s Takeaways:

• How history impacts our relationships and our connections.
• Be vulnerable, let your significant people know things that are scary or vulnerable about you and let them show up for you knowing that history

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Diego Perez is the writer behind the pen name Yung Pueblo. Visit his website: https://yungpueblo.com/ or Connect with him on Instagram: @yung_pueblo 

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You are invited to share your love letters with them for consideration for a future conversation.  Email your love letter to [email protected]

What is a love letter?  

It is a letter, a text, a poem, a direct message, a drawing, a voice message, a watercolor, a recipe, a cup of tea, a smile, a home-baked meal delivered.  It's anything that connects us and makes us feel all those messy emotions, that without life would be pretty beige.

 Visit the Podcast Page:  https://bit.ly/3d8sCDo 

 Stay connected with Jane and Wendy on Instagram

 Jane Webster
@janewebsterthefrenchtable

 Wendy Harrop
@phineaswrighthouse

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Say YES to joining Wendy for her:

Say YES Sisterhood
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated France Trips
Instagram: @phineaswrighthouse
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House

Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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This week on the Love Letters, Life, and Other Conversations Podcast Jane and Wendy discuss the to be published book "An Invitation to the Great Game" by Adam Robinson

Wendy shares a chance encounter with author Adam Robinson and the generosity he showed with his time, words, and connection through conversation. Jane and Wendy discuss taking the time to be present, whether that is by turning off your phone or subscribing to the idea of a two-drink minimum, meaning take the time to sit and be present in the time it takes to have two drinks of tea, or champagne or your beverage of choice. 

Wendy’s Takeaways

• Live your life as an invitation.
• A desire to really live ‘in’ life so that she is not missing it. She wants to see what’s happening around her and celebrate and appreciate it. 

Jane’s Takeaways

• The idea of connection
• Three quotes from Adam Robinson
  • ‘If you want to do anything in this world, it's all about creating a vision for 
    others to join.’
  • ‘The great game of life is a win-win game.’
  • ‘If you want to find gold it's where things don’t make sense. It's an algorithm for finding the greatest opportunities.’ 

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Learn more about Adam Robinson: https://iamadamrobinson.com/


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What is a love letter?  

It is a letter, a text, a poem, a direct message, a drawing, a voice message, a watercolor, a recipe, a cup of tea, a smile, a home-baked meal delivered.  It's anything that connects us and makes us feel all those messy emotions, that without life would be pretty beige.

Visit the Podcast Page:  https://bit.ly/3d8sCDo 

Stay connected with Jane and Wendy on Instagram

Jane Webster

@janewebsterthefrenchtable

Wendy Harrop

@phineaswrighthouse

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Say YES to joining Wendy for her:

Say YES Sisterhood
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated France Trips
Instagram: @phineaswrighthouse
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House

Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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This week, on the Love Letters, Life, and Other Conversations podcast, Jane and Wendy talk about possibility and perspective. 

Inspired by Rosamund & Benjamin Zander’s book,“The Art of Possibility,” they discuss:

- How the stories we tell ourselves about what’s going on in our lives can affect our mindset and experiences. They explore the idea of changing the narrative and empowering a new story that infuses meaning and quality into your life.

- Turning challenges into opportunities by questioning our circumstances and viewing the situation through an alternative lens instead of simply following the status quo. 

- The freedom of seeing the world as a place full of possibility and abundance, instead of a place of scarcity.

Wendy’s Takeaways:

• Being able to articulate that although we haven't arrived at a place where everything is "perfect," we can still acknowledge the good that's a part of our day-to-day life.
  
  
• The joy of the idea that anything is possible while recognizing that possibility is an art, which means it requires practice.
  
  
• The little girl in the book’s default outlook was “perfect.” It is what you make it.

Jane’s Takeaways:

• The concept that whatever the problem, whatever the story, whatever the framework, it's all been invented already. And we as individuals have everything we need at our disposal to reinvent it.
  
  
• Taking an alternative approach to problem-solving and reframing with a picket fence rather than a circle.
  
  
• Conversation cements both new ideas and new habits. 
  
  

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Seth Godin's altMBA

The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life - Rosamund Stone Zander & Benjamin Zander

The Audacity to Be Queen: The Unapologetic Art of Dreaming Big and Manifesting Your Most Fabulous Life  - Gina DeVee

To find out more about Jane's "I Want More the Next Thirty Years"  group that she mentions in the episode,  get in touch via email at: [email protected], or drop Jane a direct message via Instagram at @janewebsterthefrenchtable.
 

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This week on the Love Letters, Life, and Other Conversations Podcast Jane and Wendy discuss how choosing a word to guide your year is like a love letter to the months ahead.

Wendy and Jane share the words that they have chosen for 2022. They talk about how setting a word for the year gives an intention to attach to decisions and actions as you move through the year. They also talk about how these words can have a lasting impact even after the year has passed. 

Wendy’s Takeaway

• The how is not our responsibility. It is our responsibility to be open to what the universe is putting on our hearts. 
• Give yourself permission to be the best version of yourself. Everyone wins when you are the best version of yourself. 

Jane’s Takeaway

• Grace and kindness from my lips is a phrase I’m going to strive for.

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You are invited to share your love letters with them for consideration for a future conversation.  Email your love letter to [email protected] 

What is a love letter?  

It is a letter, a text, a poem, a direct message, a drawing, a voice message, a watercolor, a recipe, a cup of tea, a smile, a home-baked meal delivered.  It's anything that connects us and makes us feel all those messy emotions, that without life would be pretty beige.

Visit the Podcast Page:  https://bit.ly/3d8sCDo 

Stay connected with Jane and Wendy on Instagram

Jane Webster

@janewebsterthefrenchtable

Wendy Harrop

@phineaswrighthouse

________________________________________________________________________________________

Say YES to joining Wendy for her:

Say YES Sisterhood
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated France Trips
Instagram: @phineaswrighthouse
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House

Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!

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This week on the Love Letters, Life, and Other Conversations Podcast Jane and Wendy discuss the poem A Brief for the Defense by American Poet Jack Gilbert as a love letter. 

Wendy and Jane talk about the act of allowing for delight and richness in life, and that our joy does not take the joy away from someone else.

 They talk about;

• How one person's experience of joy may not at all be the same as another.
• That if we focus on injustice and are allowed only to be happy when no one is suffering, we will have a world of only suffering. 
• That injustice is not to be disregarded, but that gratitude and joy are to be given their place as well, and how in turn this actually gives us the opportunity to do something about the injustices we see. 
• Not to let other people steal your joy

Wendy’s Takeaway

• ‘We must risk delight.'

Jane’s Takeaway

• ‘We can do without pleasure.’ but, there must be a choice because some of us can’t. She will take away to really look into the difference between pleasure and delight. 

Full Text for Jack Gilbert Poem: A Brief for the Defense

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You are invited to share your love letters with them for consideration for a future conversation.  Email your love letter to [email protected]

What is a love letter?  

It is a letter, a text, a poem, a direct message, a drawing, a voice message, a watercolor, a recipe, a cup of tea, a smile, a home-baked meal delivered.  It's anything that connects us and makes us feel all those messy emotions, that without life would be pretty beige.

Visit the Podcast Page:  https://bit.ly/3d8sCDo 

Stay connected with Jane and Wendy on Instagram

Jane Webster
@janewebsterthefrenchtable

Wendy Harrop
@phineaswrighthouse

________________________________________________________________________________________

Say YES to joining Wendy for her:

Say YES Sisterhood
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated France Trips
Instagram: @phineaswrighthouse
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House

Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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This week on the Love Letters, Life, and Other Conversations Podcast Jane and Wendy share how we can give a Love Letters to Ourselves.

Wendy and Jane are no longer waiting for someone to give them permission to live their lives as they want them to be.  They have each written a love letter to themselves in the form of a motto to live by.  Jane’s love letter to herself is “I’m never going back to the beige, I’m only available for extraordinary” and Wendy’s love letter to herself is “I’m only available for what delights me!’

They talk about;

• How what we are seeking lies in giving ourselves permission and how that act shows others it is possible for them also.
• What extraordinary experiences are and how to recognize them.
• That being happy is not selfish, it is a gift to yourself and others.

Wendy’s Takeaways

• Jane's commitment to the extraordinary and how she does not keep it to herself but includes her circle of friends in that commitment.
• Being open to another perspective
• How using your intuition and trusting yourself is all that you need

Jane’s Takeaways

• Bravery - be brave and tell someone exactly what you are thinking because that bravery leads to extraordinary conversations.
• Raw vulnerability lets us connect in a way that something extraordinary good can happen.
• That the extraordinary can be the most ordinary thing…like digging in the garden. 

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You are invited to share your love letters with them for consideration for a future conversation.  Email your love letter to [email protected]

What is a love letter?  

It is a letter, a text, a poem, a direct message, a drawing, a voice message, a watercolor, a recipe, a cup of tea, a smile, a home-baked meal delivered.  It's anything that connects us and makes us feel all those messy emotions, that without life would be pretty beige.

Visit the Podcast Page:  https://bit.ly/3d8sCDo 

Stay connected with Jane and Wendy on Instagram

Jane Webster
@janewebsterthefrenchtable

Wendy Harrop
@phineaswrighthouse

________________________________________________________________________________________

Say YES to joining Wendy for her:

Say YES Sisterhood
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated France Trips
Instagram: @phineaswrighthouse
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House

Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a 5-star review—it helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.

This week on the Love Letters, Life, and Other Conversations Podcast Jane and Wendy share and talk about A Song as a Love Letter to Chateau Bosgouet.

Jane shares a story of how Charlotte of Viv et Margot, a now dear friend, persistently encouraged her to join in the practice of doing Instagram Lives and a resulting contest that arose from that experience. The contest was to submit a love letter to win a Chateau Life Residency at Chateau Bosgouet. Contestants could submit anything that they considered a love letter, be it a poem, a letter, a watercolor, or a song.  The winning love letter was a beautiful song written by Pearley Jones.

They talk about;

• How Charlotte’s persistence opened Jane up to something she would not have dreamed of doing, and that it led to so many people being able to connect with her, and she with them.
• The beauty of being able to dream big without having experienced the thing of your dreams
• The importance of not letting your ‘dreams become a maybe’

Wendy’s Takeaways

• How when you do something that scares you great things follow; there are great things on the other side of scary.
• Even though the deadline was looming and so many others had already submitted their entries, Pearley Jones took her chance and sent in her submission. 

Jane’s Takeaways

• Nuance; understanding what lies between the lines.
• Intuition; following your own and when someone just ‘gets’ it.
• Vulnerability; that being open to the scary leads to a braver you. 

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You are invited to share your love letters with them for consideration for a future conversation.  Email your love letter to [email protected]

 

What is a love letter?  

It is a letter, a text, a poem, a direct message, a drawing, a voice message, a watercolor, a recipe, a cup of tea, a smile, a home-baked meal delivered.  It's anything that connects us and makes us feel all those messy emotions, that without life would be pretty beige.

Visit the Podcast Page:  https://bit.ly/3d8sCDo 

 Stay connected with Jane and Wendy on Instagram

 Jane Webster

@janewebsterthefrenchtable

 

Wendy Harrop

@phineaswrighthouse

________________________________________________________________________________________

Say YES to joining Wendy for her:

Say YES Sisterhood
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated France Trips
Instagram: @phineaswrighthouse
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House

Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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This week on Love Letters, Life, and Other Conversations Podcast Jane and Wendy share and talk about a Birthday love letter to Wendy’s dear friend Jeff.

While an incredible cook, Wendy’s dear friend Jeff had proclaimed he was not able to make cookies.  This led to Wendy making cookies for him each year on his birthday.  This particular Birthday love letter came the year that Jeff retired and moved to France - too far to send his birthday cookies. Wendy’s solution to the distance between them was to send the dry ingredients to France for Jeff to bake his favorite cookies himself. Enclosed in the package was a handwritten recipe from her as a love letter,  plus a little bonus love letter from her daughter Amelia; Jeff’s god-daughter. 

They talk about;

• How recipes are a love letter evoking memories of moments and traditions shared. 
• The treasure that a gift is when there is genuine thought and care for the recipient’s experience of it.  
• How the food surrounding birthdays is such an integral part of the celebration, often because the birthday celebrant chooses a favorite dish or menu and that is part of the gift of their day.

Wendy’s Takeaways

• A birthday or any gift does not need to be expensive but it needs to be thoughtful
• Gifts are not finite. They are not just a gift to the recipient, but one for the giver and then when the gift is treasured, it's a gift that gives again and again. 

Jane’s Takeaways

• The recipe shows pure friendship and love.
• How the love of a child can change someone’s heart.
• Thoughtfulness creates a moment that lasts 

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You are invited to share your love letters with them for consideration for a future conversation.  Email your love letter to [email protected]

 

What is a love letter?  

It is a letter, a text, a poem, a direct message, a drawing, a voice message, a watercolor, a recipe, a cup of tea, a smile, a home-baked meal delivered.  It's anything that connects us and makes us feel all those messy emotions, that without life would be pretty beige.

Visit the Podcast Page:  https://bit.ly/3d8sCDo 

Stay connected with Jane and Wendy on Instagram

 Jane Webster

@janewebsterthefrenchtable

 
Wendy Harrop

@phineaswrighthouse

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Say YES to joining Wendy for her:

Say YES Sisterhood
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated France Trips
Instagram: @phineaswrighthouse
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House

Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!

If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a 5-star review—it helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.

Join Jane and Wendy as they have an authentic unedited conversation about a Love Letter from Anna to her teacher Susie.

Anna’s love letter to Susie illustrates the power a teacher has to make a lasting impact. ‘She was more than a teacher to all of us’

For forty years Susie encouraged her students to embrace their life experiences, planting the seeds in their hearts to reach for their dreams. 

Later in life, Anna had the opportunity to share with Susie that  ‘This life I’m living was inspired by you’, and then Anna was able to return the favor to her teacher and help Susie live out one of her own dreams. 

They talk about;

• How the duality of an invitation offered and accepted is a gift to both parties.
• How shared stories make for an incredible connection. 
• The way that a deep connection can happen when one person holds up a mirror for another reflecting their own spirit.

Wendy’s Takeaways

• The concept of the student becoming the teacher as she followed her intuition.
• Trusting yourself to have a courageous conversation and see where it goes. 

Jane’s Takeaways

• The idea that a person can ‘be a love letter’, constantly being rewritten.
• How Anna expressed that being asked to share a love letter gave Anna permission to explore.
• That a conversation about a love letter can allow someone to heal from something that they haven’t quite acknowledged. 

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You are invited to share your love letters with them for consideration for a future conversation.  Email your love letter to [email protected]

 
What is a love letter?  

It is a letter, a text, a poem, a direct message, a drawing, a voice message, a watercolor, a recipe, a cup of tea, a smile, a home-baked meal delivered.  It's anything that connects us and makes us feel all those messy emotions, that without life would be pretty beige.

Visit the Podcast Page:  https://bit.ly/3d8sCDo 

 Stay connected with Jane and Wendy on Instagram

 Jane Webster

@janewebsterthefrenchtable

 Wendy Harrop

@phineaswrighthouse

________________________________________________________________________________________

Say YES to joining Wendy for her:

Say YES Sisterhood
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated France Trips
Instagram: @phineaswrighthouse
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House

Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!

If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a 5-star review—it helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.