Feeling disconnected from your desire? You’re not alone.

In this deeply empowering episode, we sit down with award-winning sexologist Chantelle Otten to talk about real sex, real bodies, and real solutions for women navigating low libido, vaginal dryness, and intimacy issues during perimenopause and beyond.

We explore:

• Why sex can feel like a chore (and how to shift that)
• Practical steps to rebuild desire and confidence
• Navigating body image changes with compassion
• How to talk to your partner about sex—without shame
• The truth about responsive desire (hint: it’s more common than you think)
• Beginner tips for exploring toys and solo pleasure
• Why sensuality starts long before the bedroom

Whether you're in a long-term relationship or starting over, this conversation is packed with supportive, practical advice to help you reconnect with your body and bring joy back to your intimate life.

💬 If you’ve ever thought, “I want to want sex again, but I don’t know where to start” — this episode is for you.

Book your appointment with Dr Shauna Watts online here.

For more resources from Chantelle Otten:

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https://chantelleotten.com/

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Disclaimer: This podcast and any information, advice, opinions or statements within it do not constitute medical, health care or other professional advice. Information is provided for educational and entertainment purposes only.

00:00:00 – Intro - It starts with you

00:01:10 – Meet Chantelle Otten: Sexologist & Shame-Breaker

00:02:11 – What Even Is a Sexologist?

00:03:05 – A Look Inside a Sex Therapist’s Real-Life Routine

00:04:04 – Why Sex Changes in Menopause

00:08:07 – Body Image After 40

00:09:39 – Sexual Self-Esteem: Loving Your Naked Body

00:14:57 – What to Do When You Don’t Want Sex

00:15:20 – Responsive Desire: You’re Not Broken

00:19:32 – The “Menopause Appointment” You Need

00:21:04 – Sex Toys 101: Where to Start

00:25:00 – Best Sex Toys, Games & Books

00:27:03 – Why Scheduling Sex Works

00:29:16 – How Long It Really Takes to Get Turned On

00:30:26 – Redefining Foreplay

00:32:08 – Orgasm Confessions

00:32:40 – The Orgasm Gap

00:36:12 – Raising Kids With Better Sex Ed

00:40:40 – When Your Teen Finds Porn

00:43:56 – Vaginal Dryness: You’re Not Alone

00:45:45 – The Lube, Moisturizer & Hormone Combo

00:47:25 – Erectile Dysfunction & Aging Partners

00:50:20 – Intimacy After Infidelity

00:52:07 – Scared to Date Again After 40?

00:52:50 – The Lost Art of Seduction

00:54:37 – What No One Tells You About Sex Therapy

00:55:55 – Advice to My Younger Self

00:56:43 – Final Thoughts: You Deserve This

Sex after 40

Perimenopause and libido

Menopause and intimacy

Reignite desire in midlife

Sex therapist advice

Low libido in women

Women’s sexual wellness

Confidence in the bedroom

Responsive desire explained

How to talk about sex

Sex toys over 40

Midlife relationships