In this episode, Kimberly and Tyson discuss the magnitude of pornography including addiction, nervous system regulation, and recovery. Tyson describes his own personal journey being addicted to and then healing from porn addiction and how that informs his work with men and couples today. He discusses the prevalence of porn, how it functions with technology and AI, and how many men use it to either up-regulate or down-regulate their nervous systems. Rather than moralizing porn and porn addiction, Tyson describes how to find healing and freedom through channeling real life force as well as advice for women who may have partners or sons addicted to, or exposed to, pornography.

Bio

Tyson Adams is a trauma-informed IFS men's coach, somatic bodyworker and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it ten years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men's work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he's not working you'll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

What He Shares:

–His own addiction and healing from porn

–The normalization and prevalence of porn

–Porn and the nervous system

–Advice for women and mothers

–How to heal from porn addiction

What You'll Hear:

–Tyson's first introduction to porn at early age

–Boyhood innocence being fractured

–Secrecy, shame, and hiding with internet porn

–Joined fraternity in college

–Porn chairman in fraternity

–Normalization of porn and drinking

–90 percent of porn has some form of violence

–A third of internet searches is porn

–Expecting partners to mimic porn content

–Normalization of extreme sexual behaviors from porn

–Highjacking nervous system

–No age verification

–Comparing ourselves to AI models

–War on nervous system and spiritual warfare

–Installing browser blockers on children's devices

–Ages 8-9 typically first exposure to porn

–BARK.us Blocker and search tracker

–Importance of early conversations with children

–Importance of community in these conversations for men and boys

–Blind spot in mens' groups around sex and sexuality

–Inflation of power causing harm in mens' groups

–How and why Tyson ended porn addiction

–Psychedelic use with studying pornography

–Preys on trauma and normalizes behaviors

–Men using porn to activate energy and nervous system regulation

–Women and porn addictions

–Seminal fluid as a life force

–Healthy number of ejaculation frequency

–Not moralizing porn addiction

–Women blaming themselves for partner's porn addiction

–Seek therapy and trusted community help in partner's addiction

–Hope and healing is possible

–Open communication and repair

–Developing archetypes with sex worker

–One on one work and IFS sessions

–From thinking to feeling way to orgasm

–Nervous system resetting with clients

–Convergence of technology, porn, and psychedelics

Resources

Tyson Adams' Website

IG: @tysonadams__

Return guest Ash Robinson dives deep with Kimberly Ann Johnson into the challenges and opportunities for women in business amidst the current economic and technological climate. They discuss the role of AI on personal and professional life, the importance of financial stability, and the need for a clear vision and strategy, particularly for women. Ash emphasizes the significance of taking stock of one's current situation, identifying needs, and focusing on sustainable growth. They also touch on the role of professional resourcing, the balance between enduring and sacrificing, and the importance of community and support in achieving long-term goals. This Fall, they will be offering round 2 of the Mastermind for Women Entrepreneur, so look out for a sign-up announcement coming this August!

Bio

Ash Robinsoon is the strategist standing behind many leaders who are doing their big work. From Ash: "I'm a wife, mother of three, and deeply value my family life. As a CEO for most of my career, I spent most of my time creating and building, not consulting. I come from a family of entrepreneurs, and have personally worked in both product and service businesses across many industries, including early education, fitness, consumer products, online education, brick and mortar, franchise systems, and technology (software). My experience is a unique blend of professional management and entrepreneurship in both private and public companies. In 2014, I co-founded bon-fire for business, an experiential education and consulting firm that leverages strategic planning and human design to bridge the gap between untapped potential and business performance. bon-fire is built on the idea that human beings are driven to create value, and that creating a path for harnessing talent and creating sustainable, thriving culture is the surest way to win in our networked age. For the last 15 years, I have been a student of people and the teams and organizations they work on-- from my work in early education leading a team of hundreds to my own pursuit of optimal health and making a real difference in my work. My passion and research in neuroscience, cognition, behavior change, and culture inform both the tools and approach we use in bon·fire. I believe that your organization is actually a living system- highly adaptable, renewable, and self-organizing- which creates the possibility for a new level of both value creation and engagement with your vision and effective progress toward it. Business can be a bridge— igniting the spark of the human spirit and providing the structure in which a committed group of people make a positive impact. My passion is for bringing people around the bon·fire to achieve extraordinary personal and business performance. I believe we have to build the world we want to belong to."

What You'll Hear

• After seeing so many women's businesses thrive from their masterminding course they wanted to craft another offering.

• Our finances are a huge part of our eros and how we express ourselves in the world

• What role does AI play in online and coaching businesses?

• To build the world we want to belong to that's our work to do

• What does AI use tell us about our nervous systems

• Do one thing well

• Uncertainty creates instability

• When we are clear we can take more embodied action to what we are after.

• Existential dilemmas live in the parasympathetic nervous system

• Action comes from a healthy sympathetic drive

• How do you young people deal with a helpless parasympathetic response to the world?

• Mistaking business/system problems for personal problems

• The how do wee accomplish the vision can be messy

• Finding clarity not all about a perfect strategy it's also about being resourced and nourished

• Trying to take stock of the "As Is View"

• What do I need to get where I want to go?

• Reaching financial goals always has a weigh

Links

Website: https://bon-fire.co/

IG: @ashrobinsoncalhoun

In this episode, Kimberly Ann Johnson and filmmaker/producer Jackson Kroopf reflect on their respective experiences watching Best Picture Winner Anora. They discuss their contrasting experiences of seeing the films in theaters, what role sex and violence played in the film, and unpack some of what they were drawn to and troubled by in the film. And while they both found the hedonism in the film uncomfortable, the film's ending landed, particularly in its portrayal of power dynamics, intimate rapport, and the broken fantasies that emerge in pursuit of the American dream. Along the way, they consider to what extent the film's success hinged on a desensitized audience and what that might say about where we find ourselves culturally when it comes to the female body, our nervous systems, and sexuality. If you'd like to dive deeper into these topics, consider signing up for Kimberly's upcoming course Activate Your Inner Jaguar: Movement, Meditation & The Female Nervous System.

What You'll Hear

• Why Kimberly walked out the first time she saw it.
• A consideration of how sex and violence functioned in the film.
• What commentary is the film making about the nature of sex work?
• The erotic vs. the pornographic
• What is the moral center of the film?
• What role does comedy play in the film?
• Sadness around desensitization in our culture
• The desire for representations of sexuality that are connected, off-script, non-generic
• Representations of sexuality on a woman's own terms
• The fantasy of the American Dream falling apart
• Old world vs. new world when it comes to 1st and 2nd generation immigrants
• Is there any worth in bearing witness to extreme hedonism
• Can cinema re-sensitize us?
• Does violence in films reflect what's in the collective or determine what's in the collective?
• What happens when couples more openly discuss their sexual preferences?
• Can repair happen if a negative sexual experience takes place with a partner?
• Longing for seeing representations of moral men outside of "hero" roles

Links

Sign up for the course Activate Your Inner Jaguar: Movement, Meditation & The Female Nervous System here.

In this episode, Kimberly Ann Johnson is joined by journalist, and fellow Jaguar, Kristin Butler to discuss the case of Amanda Palmer and Neil Gaiman: a celebrity couple who are currently both facing charges around Gaiman's ongoing sexual misconduct. Kimberly and Kristin share their own personal reactions to the case, as well as the way the reporting on the story reveals common challenges for women dealing with fallout from sexual boundary rupture, particularly fawning. They explore the complexities of boundary violations, the impact of the #BelieveSurvivors movement on men, and the psychological responses for women searching for agency and empowerment post boundary rupture. The conversation touches on the broader implications of sexual abuse, the role of social media, and the importance of Activate Your Inner Jaguar work in empowering individuals to recognize and assert their boundaries. They discuss the power of embodied consent and the challenges of navigating gray areas in sexual interactions, as well as circumstances where structural power and interpersonal power fluctuate in relationships between men and women.

What They Discuss?

• Trigger warnings and disclaimers in journalism

• Fawning between young women and older men who abuse their power

• What is the journalistic responsibilities of storytelling and reporting around sexual boundaries

• An in depth consideration of Tortoise Media's podcast series Master: the allegations against Neil Gaiman

• Fawning when the threat is not front of you

• What happens when your flight response doesn't activate?

• How does our nervous system respond to a boundary rupture?

• Tendencies to blame oneself after a sexual boundary rupture

• Self-Gaslighting

• What's a trauma loop?

• What is compelling me to enter certain sexual situations?

• How does activate your inner jaguar empower women?

• What is the responsibility women have to their own nervous systems and for their behavior?

• The complexity of #BelieveSurvivors

• What is too overprotective for a parent?

• Is it safe to be a sex positive parent?

• How do highly publicized extremes impact sexual norms?

• How does virtual socialization impact our in person interactions?

• How does emotional support from AI impact our relationships

• It's become normalized to for men and women to degrade/insult men

• The quieter forms of anti-male bias

• How does structural power and relative power play out between men and women?

• How does power play out in everyday relationships?

• The power of embodied boundaries

Links

Sign up for Activate Your Inner Jaguar: Movement, Meditation, and The Female Nervous System here - Early Bird price ends May 2nd

In this deep dive into menopause and elderhood, Kimberly and Kate Codrington discuss how they see their inter-generational work with women around self-care and cultural work. Kate's book The Second Spring: The Self-Care Guide to Menopause and her more recent The Perimenopause Journal have made an indelible impact as Kimberly transitioned to the other side of the menopause hill. Two women, in their second spring, consider their responsibilities to women in various cycles of womanhood. They explore the impact of teachers, trauma, and the digital age on women, highlighting the need for resilience, play, and the ability to hold paradoxes. The discussion also touches on the importance of role models, the ever-changing dynamics of female elders, and the significance of embodied compassion in doing work in the women's wellness and healthcare fields.

Bio

Kate's mission is to change the way we regard menopause and show how we can relax into our own, inner authority through our cyclical nature, deep body intelligence and menopause process. Life around and within is always communicating with us and her passion is for the 'soft animal body', the magic of the liminal, and the potential of emergent processes. Kate refuses to take herself too seriously and tries to never take on anything that is not pleasurable and delicious. She is a menstrual and menopause mentor, speaker, workshop facilitator, writer, podcaster and have been a therapist for more than 30 years. She is also an artist currently weaving textiles, words, story and stitch. She's in her second spring, which means post-menopause, and has deep gratitude for the education that the menopause process has gifted her. The Perimenopause Journal is now available at your favourite booksellers and my first book Second Spring: the self-care guide to menopause was published by HarperCollins 2022.

What You'll Hear

• The responsibility of female elders

• Accountability, compassion and intention Setting around the journey to menopause

• How does post-perimenopause impact mother/daughter relationships

• What is the purpose of elders?

• The power of some worldly detachment

• Michael Mead's "Growing Downwards"

• Embracing different styles and adornments as we age, reflecting on the changes in the body and preferences.

• The importance of being playful and expressive in one's choices, regardless of age or societal expectations.

• The intersection of joy and pleasure with healing

• Competition between women in the wellness and healthcare field

Links

Website: https://www.katecodrington.co.uk/

IG: @kate_codrington

The Perimenopause Journal

Activate Your Inner Jaguar: Sex Edition - Get on the Waitlist here

In this episode, Kimberly and return guest Sophie Strand celebrate publishing week for Sophie's extraordinary new book The Body is a Doorway: A Memoir: A Journey Beyond Healing, Hope, and the Human. They discuss where Sophie currently finds herself in a post-diagnosis reality and what writing the book taught her about the mysteries of illness. She emphasizes the complex power of doctor relationships and medical information on the body through the nocebo effect. Kimberly and Sophie talk through what it looks like to support someone dealing with illness day to day. Sophie shares her personal and social experiences with chronic illness, as well as the contemporary cultural pressures to intertwine identity with labels. She also highlights the role of community, creativity and bad story on diagnoses and treatments. This open-hearted conversation touches on the broader implications of health, identity, and the need for a more open and relational approach to care and self-understanding.

Bio

Sophie Strand is a poet and writer with a focus on the intersection of spirituality, storytelling, and ecology. Her poems and essays have appeared in numerous projects and publications, including Spirituality & Health, Atmos, Braided Way, and Art PAPERS. She is the author of The Flowering Wand and The Madonna Secret, and the creator of the popular Substack "Make Me Good Soil." She lives in the Hudson Valley of New York.

What They Share

• The impact of a long-awaited diagnosis
• The No-Cebo Effect
• What we pay attention to we pray towards
• The Mystery of Illness
• Bad Story in Myth and Psychotherapeutic fields
• Self-Diagnosis
• How to tell a different stories about chronic illness
• Performing Sickness to have invisible illness be more visible
• How to check in with friends having a hard time/facing health challenges
• End of the addiction line
• Chronic Sickness as it relates to sobriety
• Eco-cidal culture wants to turn everything into product
• Somatic Protest
• Body can't work
• The miracle of GoFund Me alongside an unaffordable health care system
• History of oral culture
• Orality and Literature by anthropologist Walter Ong
• What is an individual?
• Monotheism of Psychology
• The impulse to classify is about control and fear
• Prayer is another energy that might have a better idea of what I need
• Vending Machine Prayer
• Finding book endings that aren't fantasies
• How to separate negative from worse
• How to operate with one spoon

Links

IG @cosmogyny

Substack https://sophiestrand.substack.com/

Sophie's New Book: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/sophie-strand/the-body-is-a-doorway-a-memoir/9780762487417/?lens=running-press

The Body is A Doorway Amazon Review page: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review/?ie=UTF8&channel=glance-detail&asin=0762487410

Money and The Nervous System Sign-Up: https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/money-the-nervous-system/

This is a special re-release of an episode featuring guest host Jackson Kroopf speaking with the incomparable Kimberly Ann Johnson and Stephen Jenkinson. We're bringing this conversation back to let you know about something special happening this weekend from Stephen Jenkinson and the Orphan Wisdom School: Sanity and Soul: Die Wise 10 Years.

Taking place on March 15th and 16th at 10am Pacific, this 6-part online event is a deep dive into the wisdom of death, grief, and the soul, 10 years after the publication of Stephen's transformative book Die Wise. You'll get to experience the depth of Stephen's work in a pretty unique way: through 4 recorded grief counsel sessions with dying people, hearing Stephen practice, in 2025, the kind of work described in Die Wise. Plus, he'll be joined by two brilliant colleagues—a neuroscientist studying human consciousness and a filmmaker exploring the afterlife—to discuss the lasting impact of Die Wise on grief counseling, death doulas, and the way these ideas continue to shape our world.

If you want to learn more and register, visit orphanwisdom.com/events. But now, enjoy this conversation from March 2023, following Reckoning at Mt. Madonna. Please do consider gifting yourself or a loved one this upcoming offering, Sanity & Soul that promises to provide some ceremony in these troubled times in ways only Stephen and the Orphan Wisdom School can.

Link: https://orphanwisdom.com/event/die-wise-sanity-and-soul-ten-years-on/

What You'll Here in this Episode:

Reflections on witness from retired birth and death workers

The value of disillusionment

The power of loneliness

The proliferation of self pathologizing

The complex politics of feelings

The religion of western psychology

Adolescents grabbing for pop psychology labels

The respect in not offering solutions

The eagerness to escape from pain while grieving

Is love dead?

Blessing not as approval but the emergence of something new

Marriage as both celebration and loss

Matrimony between cultures

An only child and single parent inviting in a new husband

Building an escape route as you enter a union

The no-go zone of contemporary western marriage

15 minute weddings, 15 minute funerals, 15 minute births

The cultural casualties of uniformity

Being healthy enough to tend to home and neighbor

Links

ig @reckoning live

Sanity & Soul Sign-Up https://orphanwisdom.com/event/die-wise-sanity-and-soul-ten-years-on/

In this episode, return guest Joelle Hann and Kimberly discuss the complexities of publishing, including traditional, self, and hybrid publishing. Joelle walks us through the importance of a book proposal, which serves as a roadmap for authors and a calling card for agents and publishers. Kimberly weighs in on her own experience in navigating the book publishing world and the incredible value she has found in working with Joelle. Joelle highlights the need for authors to understand their audience and market, and the potential pitfalls of self-publishing without an existing audience. Joelle's Book Proposal Academy is enrolling now and starts March 14th. This is the only cohort for 2025. Apply now! To be eligible to save up to $500 and get other early-bird bonuses, mention Sex, Birth, Trauma podcast in your application.

Bio

Joelle Hann is an award-winning writer with a history of developing high-level book projects for major American publishers. Subject areas have included wellness and transformation, women's health, leadership and spirituality, as well as conscious business, personal finance and memoir. She has worked with top CEOs and humanitarian activists,visionary coaches and thought-leaders, spiritual teachers, scholars, moms, midwives, entrepreneurs, and many others. She founded Brooklyn Book Doctor to help people write transformational books to help change the world.

Links

IG @brooklynbookdoctor

Learn More & Apply to Book Proposal Academy 2025: https://brooklynbookdoctor.com/bpa

Learn More about Sanity & Soul: Die Wise Ten Years On with Stephen Jenkinson here: https://orphanwisdom.com/event/die-wise-sanity-and-soul-ten-years-on/

In this episode, Kimberly dives deep into guest author Catherine Simone Gray's book Proud Flesh: A Memoir of Motherhood, Intimate Violence, and Reclaiming Pleasure. With tenderness, Kimberly and Catherine share their mutual appreciation for each other's writing and the deep impact Kimberly's work has had on the journey that led to Catherine's book. Catherine guides us through her journey of healing from a vaginal tear postpartum, which led to the discovery of proud flesh, a term for hypergranulation tissue. She describes the emotional and physical challenges she faced across two births (one hospital/C-Section, one home/natural), including silver nitrate treatments and the support of her husband; recounting the story of how the couple's relationships to one another's bodies changed when she invited him to draw her vulva daily. Catherine and Kimberly both emphasize the importance of language and writing in redefining sexuality and eroticism, and how this process can support women in reconnecting with their body. If you enjoyed this conversation be sure to sign up for their online gathering Writing as a Pathway to Pleasure on Sunday, February 23rd at https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/writing-pathway-to-pleasure/

Bio

Catherine Simone Gray is a writer and teacher. Her writings on motherhood and healing first appeared on her blog Unsilenced Woman, where her piece about teaching her son consent reached 2.5 million around the world. Featured by Roxane Gay in The Audacity's Emerging Writer Series, her work has also appeared in The Bitter Southerner and the Michigan Quarterly Review: Mixtape. Her blog writings have been shared by respected organizations for new mothers, such as La Leche League USA, International Cesarean Awareness Network, and ImprovingBirth. Gray is the recipient of a literary arts fellowship with the Mississippi Arts Commission and has delivered three addresses at the Mississippi Women's March and Womanist rallies.

With over a decade of experience as a writing teacher to people aged eight to eighty, she holds a master of arts in curriculum and instruction. She leads writing circles for women, mothers, and caregivers, exploring how writing can be an ally in our living and loving. Her debut memoir Proud Flesh: A Memoir of Motherhood, Intimate Violence, and Reclaiming Pleasure was published in 2025 by North Atlantic Books. She lives in Jackson, Mississippi, with her husband and their two sons.

What You'll Hear

• Kimberly's deep appreciation for the writing craft found in Catherine's book and is moved by the way their work has intersected

• Catherine has been a Jaguar since 2017 and shares the way many baths listening, reading and sitting with Kimberly's work influenced Proud Flesh

• Catherine recalls key moments with her doctor in making a healing plan for a natural birth injury

• Catherine describes how the scientific term Proud Flesh took on poetic meaning in her life

• Catherine discusses the difference in healing from the numbing disconnect of C-Section to the embodied pain of a natural birth.

• Catherine describes a profound confrontation with how her and her husband relate to each other's bodies, which led to a durational art project in which he drew her vulva over time.

• Catherine and Kimberly reflect on erotic writing that doesn't reify centering the male gaze

• Kimberly and Catherine talk about their own evolving relationships to their bodies and the craft of writing

Links

IG - @unsilencedwoman

Website - www.unsilencedwoman.com

Book - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/771427/proud-flesh-by-catherine-simone-gray/

Online Gathering - https://kimberlyannjohnson

In this episode, Kimberly and Pānquetzani discuss her new book Thriving Postpartum: Embracing the Indigenous Wisdom of La Cuarentena and the thirteen year process of navigating that creative act. Pānquetzani reflects on the ways her relationships with partners and her four children have impacted the journey of making a business and writing a book. Pānquetzani's writing is inextricably linked directly to the work she has done in and for her community around postpartum care, as well as the lessons she learned around mental health and partner agreements along the way. A deep meditation on personal healing and learning how to make and hold boundaries. The episode lovingly asks: how do you listen to your intuition, your womb, and your baby?

Bio

Pānquetzani comes from a matriarchal family of folk healers from the valley of Mexico (Tenochtitlan, Texcoco, and Tlaxcala), La Comarca Lagunera (Durango and Coahuila), and Zacatecas. As a traditional herbalist, healer, and birthkeeper, Pānquetzani has touched over 3,000 wombs and bellies. Through her platform, Indigemama: Ancestral Healing, she has taught over 100 live, in-person intensives and trainings on womb wellness. She lives in California.

What you'll hear:

• The 13 year journey of writing a book

• Differences in how men and women are treated in public as new parents

• Liberation of separation and divorce

• The challenge of holding boundaries with mothers-in-law

• Creating a culture of community care in a colonial context

• How to navigate who you want in your cuarentena?

• How to work with narcissism and boundaries?

• Listen to your womb, listen to your intuition, ask your baby: what do you need?

• Pain and martyrdom's role in parenting

• Respect is connected to access in a relationship

• A birth story that led to parent/child healing

• How to be in communication with your womb

Resources

Website: https://indigemama.com/

IG: @indigemama

Book: Thriving Postpartum at Sounds True