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In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life.

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In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily and Shroter, we’re joined by Dolly, a renowned sexological bodyworker featured in Cosmopolitan and Hustler, for a deep dive into somatic sex therapy and the true path to embodied pleasure.

Dolly opens up about her healing journey after a sexless marriage—how breathwork, mirror work, and intentional self-touch led her to reclaim her body and reawaken her desire. Together, we unpack what it means to stop performing and start feeling, breaking down the difference between orgasm and climax, and how to explore your body with curiosity, not pressure.

Timestamps:

00:01:08 - Healing Journey: Sex & Pleasure

00:07:17 - Post-Divorce Healing & Femininity

10:57 - Embodied Sexuality & Vulva Mapping

14:10 - Vulva Mapping & Frustration

20:06 - Embodiment, Self-Touch & Vulva Hug

23:50 - Vulva Hug Meditation Practice

32:03 - Vulva Anatomy & Trauma Release

43:41 - Reclaiming Your Vulva: Love & Healing

46:16 - Expanding Orgasmic Potential

01:00:51 - Q&A & Vulva Hug Meditation

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This week on Sex With Emily, we're tackling one of the most harmful and outdated questions in modern dating: "What's your body count?" In conversation with holistic psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Scott Lyons, we explore the troubling origins of this term, once used to count military casualties, and how it’s been repurposed to judge sexual history, often unfairly targeting women. We unpack the double standards rooted in purity culture, the insecurities this question provokes, and the shame it can breed in both high and low numbers. More importantly, we discuss why the number of sexual partners has nothing to do with sexual skill, emotional readiness, or compatibility.

#intimacy #love #relationships

Timestamps:

00:00:00 - Body Count: A Sex-Positive Discussion

00:03:00 - Judging Past Relationships

05:51 - Body Count & Insecurities

08:24 - Why Judging is Wrong

10:46:38 - Historical Shame Roots

13:22 - Societal Shame & Body Count

15:47 - Regrets & Sexual Experiences

18:13 - Reframing the Conversation

22:44:04 - Ditching the Question

25:38 - Addressing Relationship Insecurities

37:53 - Pleasure, Goodbyes & Outro

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This episode of "Sex with Emily" dives deep into the psychology and practice of foreplay, redefining it as encompassing all forms of connection, not just physical acts preceding intercourse. We discuss the importance of arousal, highlighting physiological differences between men and women and emphasizing the brain's role as the largest sex organ.

This episode features practical tips for enhancing intimacy using all five senses, incorporating various sensual aids, and exploring different forms of touch and communication.

#foreplay #intimacy #sex

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00:02:50 - Foreplay: Psychology & Importance

03:49 - Foreplay & Gender Differences

10:04:20 - Secrets to Great Sex

13:29 - Setting the Mood: Five Senses

16:22 - Enhancing Foreplay & Sensory Play

19:43 - Enhancing Intimacy & Communication

22:26 - Intimacy Beyond Penetration

25:27 - Improving Sex Life & Teasing

28:14 - Reciprocated Foreplay & Issues

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In this episode of Sex With Emily, Dr. Emily takes a deep dive into the evolving landscape of infidelity in 2025. She unpacks how cheating today goes far beyond physical acts—covering emotional connections, digital interactions like DMs, social media behaviors, and even fantasies. Dr. Emily challenges listeners to rethink old assumptions and instead foster open conversations about boundaries, values, and intimacy, drawing insights from how polyamorous relationships navigate these topics.

With real-life stories, listener questions, and expert advice from holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, this episode explores the impact of porn, the gray areas of "micro-cheating," and how communication can prevent betrayal. Dr. Emily also shares strategies for healing after trust is broken, including key statistics, self-reflection practices, and tips to understand your attachment style.

#relationship #dating #cheating

Show Notes:

00:03:15 - Defining Infidelity in Relationships

08:12 - Relationship Boundaries & Communication

13:41 - Marriage Insecurities & Betrayal

19:19 - Confessions of a Reformed Cheater

22:31 - Open Relationships & Cheating

25:00 - Regret, Empathy & Modern Love

35:38 - Overcoming Relationship Hurdles

38:28 - Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

45:44 - Monogamy, Polyamory & Attachment

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In this episode of the podcast, host Emily Morse is joined by guest Pamela Madsen to explore the transformative power of "back-to-the-body" retreats for women and couples, focusing on reclaiming pleasure and improving communication. Pamela, a retreat leader with over a decade of experience, details a 7-day program emphasizing self-pleasure through clothed genital work, addressing issues such as vaginal pain and low libido.

Positive outcomes from the retreats include increased self-esteem, improved communication, and better consent negotiation. The retreats also involve sexological bodywork, including genital mapping, fantasy exploration, and elements of BDSM and tantra. Men’s participation is discussed, highlighting the positive impact these retreats have on couples.

The conversation also covers practical techniques like the "lotus lift" meditation and sensate focus exercises for embodied self-expression—even for those unable to attend in person. Emily and Pamela address common challenges such as body image issues, societal pressures, and communication barriers in long-term relationships.

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00:00:12 - Women's Retreats & Couples' Impact

03:19 - Sexological Bodywork: A Woman's Journey

06:43 - Female Anatomy & Desire

12:14 - Embodied Movement & Wellness

15:04 - Embodied Arousal & Lotus Lift

18:07 - Body Connection & Sensations

20:22 - Couples Rediscovering Sexuality

25:46 - Couple's Intimacy Coaching

32:17 - Pleasure, Aging, & Body Image

47:50 - Overcoming Anorgasmia

54:26 - Guest Contact & Retreats

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Is the spark gone? Dr. Scott Lyons, as I explore how to get the spark back in relationships and

sex. We're talking about why the spark is not what you think and what you're actually looking for.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons and I discuss:

● Why the initial 'spark' might be misleading.

● The importance of evolving and growing in relationships.

● How trauma responses affect attraction and intimacy.

● The difference between intensity and intimacy.

● Practical ways to cultivate a sustainable and fulfilling connection.

I share personal experiences and insights on dating, attraction, and the journey toward deeper

self-understanding. Dr. Scott Lyons brings his expertise as a trauma therapist and somatic

healer to help us understand the complexities of relationships and sexuality.

Show Notes:

00:00:00 - Rekindling the Spark: What You Need to Know

00:02:45 - The Reality of Growth: Attraction Can Evolve

00:07:57 - Freedom vs. Attachment: Different Relationship Patterns

00:11:10 - Evolving Attraction: Hemisexuals, Saposexuals, and Demisexuals

00:15:03 - The Attraction ICK: Is There an Attraction Spark?

00:19:29 - Peeling Away the Layers: The Beauty of Intimacy

00:22:49 - The Honeymoon Period Is Drunk: Sobering Up and Finding Organic Excitement

00:27:40 - Variety and Newness: Keeping the Spark Alive

00:31:17 - Passion or Safety: Cultivating Eroticism in Safety

00:35:56 - Arousal Runway: Pottery Classes and Cooking Meals

00:40:19 - Developing New Habits: Making Time for Connection

00:42:51 - Chasing the Familiar: Red Flags as a Spark

00:46:16 - The Importance of Feeling Safe

00:49:54 - Childhood Was Perfect: Somatic Therapy and Nervous System Regulation

00:53:10 - Grounding in Our Senses: Getting Back to Sensuality and Connection

00:56:26 - Healing Patterns: Not Taking the Bait

00:58:20 - Sustainable, Healthy, Loving Relationships: Going the Distance

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What feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated.

On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode.

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You’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier.

So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication.

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We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide

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