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In this bonus episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily breaks down the top 10 red flags in bed that go beyond bad technique—these are the behaviors that can seriously impact your safety, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. From partners who never ask what you like to those who skip foreplay entirely, we explore the warning signs that indicate deeper issues around sexual awareness, communication, and respect.

We dive into why these red flags matter, including partners who don't take feedback, make orgasm the only goal, ignore consent, lead with ego, and vanish emotionally after sex. Dr. Emily also addresses those who shame your fantasies, avoid sexual health conversations, and expect mind-reading instead of open communication.

This isn't about shaming anyone—it's about recognizing patterns early so you can advocate for your needs and build healthier, more connected sexual experiences. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or just want to know what to watch out for, this episode gives you the tools to identify red flags and prioritize partners who truly care about mutual pleasure and respect.

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In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert, to tackle one of the most common relationship challenges: when sex starts feeling like just another item on your to-do list. From exploring why intimacy can lose its spark to practical strategies for reigniting desire, this conversation gets to the heart of what happens when pleasure becomes obligation.

We dive deep into the psychology behind sexual disconnection, examining how stress, routine, and unspoken resentments can transform what should be joyful into something that feels burdensome. Dr. Scott shares insights on nervous system regulation and how our bodies respond when we're overwhelmed, while Dr. Emily offers practical advice on communication, scheduling intimacy, and the importance of prioritizing pleasure throughout the week—not just in the bedroom.

This episode addresses the reality that many couples face: mismatched libidos, the pressure to perform, and the challenge of maintaining sexual connection amid life's demands. We explore how to shift from duty-based sex to desire-driven intimacy, the role of variety and spontaneity in long-term relationships, and why "priming for pleasure" throughout the week is essential for a fulfilling sex life.

Show Notes: 00:00:00 - When Sex Becomes a Chore

03:00:00 - The Psychology of Sexual Obligation
06:41:00 - Mismatched Libidos and Relationship Dynamics

08:26:00 - Breaking the Routine: Adding Variety and Play

11:07:00 - Communication vs. Avoidance in Sexual Relationships

15:38:00 - Priming for Pleasure Throughout the Week

18:06:00 - Scheduling Sex: Intentional vs. Spontaneous Intimacy

23:10:00 - From Duty to Desire: Practical Strategies

28:14:00 - Building Anticipation and Connection

30:04:00 - Redefining Sexual Success and Satisfaction

Whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner or just want to prevent sex from becoming routine, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable strategies for reclaiming the joy and connection that intimate relationships can provide.

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In this captivating episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily welcomes back adult film legend and author Joanna Angel to discuss her brilliant new choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel "Club 42." From her transformative days as a stripper to building a porn empire, Joanna shares how embracing her sexuality became the foundation of her confidence and success

We dive into Joanna's fascinating journey of sexual self-discovery, exploring how stripping taught her to embrace her femininity, develop unshakeable confidence, and connect authentically with others. Her new book takes readers on multiple erotic adventures through a strip club setting, allowing you to choose your own path through various sexual scenarios—from hooking up with fellow dancers to exploring BDSM and everything in between.

This episode is packed with practical advice on dirty talk, sexting, and vocal expression during intimacy. Joanna breaks down why authentic communication is crucial for great sex, how to move beyond performative sounds influenced by porn, and why being genuinely expressive enhances pleasure for everyone involved. We also explore her weakness for "band guys" and how sexual attraction doesn't always align with our feminist ideals.

Key Topics Covered:

Joanna's refreshing honesty about sexuality, combined with her literary talents, offers listeners both inspiration and practical tools for expanding their own sexual adventures. Whether you're looking to spice up your relationship or explore new fantasies, this episode celebrates the power of choice, authenticity, and unapologetic pleasure.

Show Notes: 

00:00:00 - Joanna's journey from stripper to porn entrepreneur

08:00:00 - How stripping built unshakeable sexual confidence
15:00:00 - "Club 42": Choose-your-own-adventure erotica

23:00:00 - The art of authentic dirty talk and sexting

31:00:00 - Moving beyond performative sexuality

38:00:00 - Listener questions and practical advice

This episode reminds us that great sex starts with knowing yourself, embracing your desires, and having the confidence to ask for what you want—whether in the bedroom or on the page.

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In this essential bonus episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily tackles one of the most common and complicated questions in modern relationships: Does watching porn count as cheating? If you've ever felt that stomach-dropping moment when you discovered your partner's browser history, or wondered if your own porn consumption crosses a line, this episode is for you.

Dr. Emily cuts straight through the confusion to reveal that there's no universal answer to this question—but if it's coming up in your relationship, there's something deeper worth exploring. The real issue isn't necessarily the porn itself, but whether this behavior is breaking trust and violating the agreements you've made with your partner.

We explore why so many couples never discuss porn until someone gets hurt, how childhood conditioning around secrecy affects our adult relationships, and why the shame and silence surrounding porn often cause more damage than the porn itself. Dr. Emily also addresses when porn consumption can become genuinely problematic and offers practical guidance for having these crucial conversations.

Key Topics Covered:

This episode emphasizes that porn doesn't ruin relationships—it's the lack of communication, transparency, and mutual understanding that creates problems. Whether you're completely comfortable with porn or feel threatened by it, this episode provides the framework for having honest, productive conversations about digital intimacy boundaries.

Remember: Communication is always sexier than making assumptions and making your partner wrong.

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In this essential episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Dr. Ina Park, associate professor at UCSF School of Medicine and author of "Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs." From her early days as a peer educator dressed as a giant condom at UC Berkeley to becoming a leading expert in sexual health, Dr. Park brings both humor and expertise to one of the most stigmatized topics in sexual wellness.

We dive deep into the myths and realities surrounding STIs, exploring why HPV is truly "the common cold of the genitals" that nearly everyone will encounter, how herpes stigma far outweighs its actual health impact, and why people who know their status are actually safer partners than those who don't. Dr. Park shares fascinating insights about everything from The Bachelor's problematic STI testing to the connection between pubic hair grooming and infection risk.

This conversation tackles the shame and fear that keep us from having honest discussions about sexual health, while providing practical advice on testing, disclosure, and maintaining healthy relationships regardless of STI status. We also explore the vaginal microbiome, why some people are more susceptible to infections, and promising new treatments on the horizon.

Key Topics Covered:

Dr. Park's refreshing approach reminds us that STIs are simply part of being sexually active humans, and that knowledge, communication, and compassion are our best tools for sexual wellness.

Show Notes:

 00:00:00 - Dr. Park's journey from condom costume to STI expert

07:00:00 - HPV: The common cold of the genitals

14:00:00 - Herpes myths, realities, and disclosure strategies

22:00:00 - Oral sex and STI transmission risks

26:00:00 - Pubic hair grooming and infection risk

31:00:00 - Vaginal microbiome and bacterial balance

36:00:00 - Listener Q&A: Real STI concerns answered

42:00:00 - Breaking stigma and having better conversations

This episode emphasizes that sexual health is part of overall wellness, and that honest, shame-free conversations about STIs can transform how we approach intimate relationships.

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In this throwback episode, Gwyneth Paltrow joins Dr. Emily to discuss her groundbreaking series "Sex, Love & Goop" and why she's passionate about normalizing conversations around sexual wellness. From her journey as a Gen X woman navigating shame around female pleasure to creating beautifully designed vibrators that challenge stigma, Gwyneth opens up about the evolution of her own sexuality and the importance of sexual wellness as a pillar of overall health.

We explore how sexual intimacy serves as a microcosm for all our relationships, why accountability and communication are essential for fulfilling partnerships, and how Gwyneth's current marriage has allowed her to experience a new level of sexual freedom in her late forties. The conversation delves into the performative nature of sexuality many women experience, the challenge of asking for what we want, and how non-judgmental partners can create space for authentic sexual expression.

Gwyneth also shares insights about perimenopause and menopause, advocating for rebranding this life stage as an exciting gateway rather than an ending. She discusses her wellness journey, including how gut health has impacted her hormone balance, and reveals her hopes that her show will inspire couples to have vulnerable conversations that deepen their intimate connections.

Key Topics Covered:

This episode emphasizes that sexual wellness deserves the same attention as other aspects of health, and that honest conversations about pleasure and intimacy can transform relationships at any age.

Show Notes:

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In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily debunks five pervasive sex myths that may be holding you back from experiencing your best intimate life. From the "body count" obsession to orgasm pressure, we explore why these common beliefs are not only wrong but potentially harmful to your sexual confidence and relationships.

We dive deep into why the number of sexual partners doesn't determine your skill as a lover, the truth about natural lubrication and arousal, and how focusing solely on orgasms can actually prevent you from having them. Dr. Emily also addresses vibrator myths, explaining why sex toys enhance rather than replace intimacy, and breaks down outdated beliefs about anal play that keep people from exploring new dimensions of pleasure.

Featuring listener questions from Francesca, Josh, Taylor, Melissa, and Nicole, this episode provides practical advice for navigating sexual insecurities, communication with partners, and expanding your intimate repertoire. Whether you're dealing with dryness, struggling to reach climax, or curious about introducing new elements to your sex life, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance.

Show Notes:

This episode emphasizes that great sex is about communication, presence, and understanding your own body—not conforming to arbitrary standards or myths that create unnecessary pressure and shame.

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In this intimate episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and body-based trauma expert, to explore how vocalizing pleasure can transform your intimate experiences. From a candid discussion about their couples massage experience in Vegas to practical advice on overcoming sexual silence, this episode reveals why making authentic sounds during sex creates deeper connection and more intense pleasure.

We dive into the psychology behind sexual silence, examining how childhood conditioning, shame, and societal expectations keep us quiet when we should be expressing ourselves. Dr. Scott explains the nervous system science behind vocalization, including how making sounds stimulates the vagus nerve and helps regulate our bodies during intimate moments. We also tackle the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and performative moaning influenced by porn culture.

This episode addresses common concerns like being too loud with roommates or kids in the house, offers practical exercises for gradually increasing your vocal expression, and explores how sound creates crucial feedback loops between partners. Whether you're naturally quiet or overly performative, you'll learn how to find your authentic voice of pleasure.

Show Notes:

Join Dr. Emily and Dr. Scott as they share personal insights and professional expertise on breaking through sexual silence to unlock deeper pleasure and connection. This episode includes a live demonstration and practical homework to help you discover your authentic voice of pleasure.

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In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections.

Show Notes:

00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia

00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety

04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma

07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics

10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory

13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment

15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics

17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility

20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners

22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought

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This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships.

Timestamps:

00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions

00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication

06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks

09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs

15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive

18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues

21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life

24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues

29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex

44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy

55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues

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