Sex With Emily

Let’s talk solo anal. You may be looking around right now, wondering why anal play is so trendy, and thinking to yourself: “is this actually for me?” But before you jump into the anal deep end with a partner, I’ve got a pro tip: try anal with yourself! On today’s episode, I’m talking through all the positive reasons to explore anal with yourself, no matter what genitals you’ve got. I’m also busting common anal myths and giving you step-by-step tips for exploration based on your anatomy. I’m talking all things toys and insertion for beginners to advanced anal players. Tune in for your solo anal play primer, and keep listening to hear me answer all your booty Q’s.

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Solo sex (aka masturbation) is legitimate self-care. Better sleep, less stress, glowing skin, heightened immunity – and let’s not forget orgasms (not that I think you would). So on today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all things solo sex and how to make it work for you. Feel embarrassed or ashamed about it? Or do you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing? I help you create a solo sex routine that matches your lifestyle and get you in the right (sexy) headspace for it. I also take your solo sex questions, including: when your partner asks you to masturbate in front of them, but you feel shy – how do you pull it off? And should you?

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How do your meals affect your sex drive? Are your hormones interfering with your pleasure? And real talk…does alcohol make it harder for you to orgasm? Dr. Will Cole hosts the podcast The Art of Being Well, and on today’s show, he explains the connection between what you eat and how you feel – both in and out of the bedroom. We discuss sex-supportive nutrients and how to fill your plate for better sex, the real deal on HRT and hormone fluctuation, shame-flammation, and so much more. If you’ve ever wondered how certain foods help or hurt your sex life, this one’s for you.  

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When it comes to turn ons, we’ve all got our preferences. Maybe you love a deep, sexy voice. Maybe a wicked sense of humor. But there are five sexual arousal styles that apply to most people: you can think of them as the five love languages for sexual excitement. They are: conversation, visuals, touch, play or physical adventure. In this popular Best Of episode, I break down the five styles and how to identify your top one. I share tips for harnessing your arousal, with date ideas and behaviors to spark your sexual curiosity. I also help you understand the key difference between arousal and desire, and take your arousal questions, including: what do you do when medication is numbing your genitals? And when you’re more excited for solo sex than partnered sex – is that a problem?

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([TW // mentions SA, r*pe] If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through: 21:30-22:25, 51:30-52:05.)

Porn gets a bad rap – for very understandable reasons. Today, I’m breaking down the reasons why with Dr. Wednesday Martin, and also playing devil’s advocate and giving you a new way to approach it. Can you learn legit sex skills from porn viewing? In this episode, I’m going through all the reasons porn might be triggering for some, so you know how to incorporate it into your relationship or your solo sex in a healthy way. Next, I give tips for how to watch it with a partner, and identify your personal turn-ons. Finally, I talk through edu-porn, audio erotica and other contemporary porn platforms that get you aroused…and sexually educated.

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Have you ever used FaceTime for sex? Maybe you’re traveling and want to stay connected to your partner. Maybe you’re dating and want to test the waters with someone virtually before having sex IRL. Or maybe the idea just turns you on! No matter the case, today’s episode is all about FaceTime sex and how to pull it off. First, I’m talking prep steps: literally, how do you get in the mood for FaceTime sex and help yourself feel comfortable on-screen? Next, how do you position your camera and what do you actually say in the moment? Finally, I take your questions on FaceTime sex, including: how to spice it up and how do you end a sexting session?

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What feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated. On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention lately on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode.

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Let’s talk teasing. Do you know how to build sexual tension? Maybe you’re dating and want to be a cute flirt. Or maybe you’re in a long term relationship and want to create a sexy vibe. No matter your situation, today’s episode teaches a lost art: the art of the tease. First, I talk focus and flirting: simple little hacks to put the spotlight on the other person with flavors of sexual play. Next, I talk body language: when to touch, when not to touch, and how to deploy a sexy sort of restraint – not desperation – to your interactions. Finally, I take your questions on confidence and seduction, including: how do you show interest on a date without coming on too strong?

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I’m introducing a new series today that you literally helped me create: Sexy Stories! You share your juiciest, most personal success stories with me, and I read them aloud on the show. Because sometimes the best way to learn about sex comes from other people and their experiences. First: parents who sent their kids away and tried pegging for the very first time. Hear how it went… from the husband’s perspective. Next, a married couple of 20 years have an unexpected night on the dance floor involving a chance meeting with a hot stranger – and then, their very first threesome. Finally, she orgasms for the first time during penetration, but you’ll never guess how she got there.

If you have a Sexy Story you would like to share on the podcast, send it to [email protected] with “Sexy Story” in the subject line! Please only include information (such as names) that you are comfortable being read aloud on the podcast.

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How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex (out now at bookstores everywhere), I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play. First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent kink dynamics and ideas to make it even more exciting. Finally, we’re looking at Missionary, which I think we can all agree needs a kinky rebrand. I’ll give you ideas to make it more surprising and sexy.

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