Sex With Emily

Remember Loveline? The call-in show hosted by Dr. Drew to get your love and dating questions answered? Well, it holds a special place in my heart because I used to co-host it! So today, in celebration of my career leading up to my new book Smart Sex (out today!), I’m inviting my dear friend Dr. Drew Pinsky onto Sex With Emily to help me answer your sex questions Loveline-style. First, what does it mean when you feel like your long-distance partner is following you to your next city? Next, a college guy wants to know: how do you find real connection amid hookup culture? Or what about moving on from a toxic sexual relationship: how do you claim your own desires, now that you’re single? All this and more with me and Dr. Drew.

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Let’s 69! It’s one of those sex acts where you tend to be a full-on lover or hater. But no matter what camp you fall in, chances are that if you’re having sex, you’re going to come across the famous, the controversial, 69 sex position. Why not learn some pointers to make the whole thing more hot, and more comfortable? First, I share research with you that might motivate you to put 69 on regular rotation in your sex life. Next, I give you techniques for being an excellent oral giver, and strategies like mindful masturbation, to help you become a more relaxed and erotic receiver. Finally, I talk position tips like the Sideways 69 and the Power 69 for you to play with, and take all your pressing questions on 69ing and oral sex. 

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How did you discover who you were as a sexual being? Are you still figuring it out? Your desires, your sexual turn-ons, your overall attitude towards sex itself? Well, today, we’re doing something a little different: I’m answering all those questions and letting you in on my sexual journey. That’s right! I’ve got author, anthropologist, and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin on the show today as we turn the tables and let her ask me how my career as a sex educator got started, the first time I had legitimately good sex, and how my relationship with sex has evolved. I also share the backstory behind this podcast, why I was so curious to launch a career in sex education in the first place, and how it's all led up to my book, Smart Sex. Listen in… it’s a juicy one.

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Good news: every vulva owner can learn how to squirt. But it does take practice, and on today’s Best Of show, I’ve got sex educator, author, and female ejaculation expert Deborah Sundahl here to walk us through it. First, Deborah clarifies the connection between squirting and the G-spot, and just in case you have any doubts about the G-spot’s existence, Deborah tells you how to find yours in the mirror. Next, we clarify what female ejaculate is – hint, not pee – and how this fluid builds up in your body. We also talk about the difference between squirting and orgasm, and finally, we take your top questions on how to squirt with a partner. Yes: there are step-by-step tips! Because, as I always say, the wetter, the better.

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Violet Benson started her now-famous Instagram account @DaddyIssues_ while working through issues of her own. On today’s podcast, she opens up about working through deep emotional struggles so she can create the sex life and relationships that truly work for her. No matter your background or life stage, I’m positive this conversation will liberate and inspire you to take the next step in your sex life. Violet, who hosts the popular podcast Almost Adulting, tells me about her decision to temporarily swear off penetrative sex, freezing her eggs, and how she quit playing games while dating. She also takes the Sex IQ quiz inspired by my upcoming book, Smart Sex! Listen to her results, then listen to both of us answer a listener question: when the sex is hot but they’ve got huge, emotional red flags, should you pursue them anyway?

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We all have fears around sex, whether we’re aware of them or not. Maybe you’re worried someone’s not going to like your body, or that if you and your partner try something new, it’ll be awkward or weird. Maybe you’re worried you’ll never have sex with anyone ever again. I’m here to tell you this: your sexual anxieties are completely normal. Listen in as my callers and I work through theirs and develop actionable solutions to take the next step. When you’re a vulva owner, and something comes out when you orgasm, are you peeing or squirting? When preparing for a threesome, how can you get over the fear that your partner won't want sex with just you anymore? When the sex has fallen off entirely, how do you start initiating again? All this and more in today's sexual anxieties episode.

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Author Elise Loehnen has thought a lot about women and desire. In her new book On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good, she breaks down the cultural forces that teach women to be desirable rather than desiring, and the shame attached to a woman wanting something: whether it’s sex, success, or a damn slice of pizza. Whether it’s lust, and the way we encourage women to police others' sexuality, or sloth, and the way women are encouraged to be their husbands' caregivers, these invisible expectations serve none of us. Instead, Elise talks about ways we can liberate ourselves in ways that improve our sex lives and beyond: how to balance masculine and feminine energies in relationships, how to shed sexual shame, and so much more. As Elise says, “Our bodies are portals; lust is the invitation to enter.”

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It can be difficult to meet new people and cultivate relationships, especially when looking for romantic partners. But don’t let that hold you back from trying: you might just need a new strategy. On today’s show, I take your calls on modern dating and how to solve the problems you’re running into. Let’s say you want to date an older woman but don’t have confidence in your communication - how do you improve your conversation game? When you’ve been single for years and fear rejection, how do you break out of romantic stagnation? Or what about breadcrumbing: when someone gives you just enough to keep you interested without outright ghosting you. How can you directly communicate without coming off as pushy? Finally, what are the signs of love bombing? One caller asks me if that’s what’s happening to her. Spoiler: yep.

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All sexual fantasies have one thing in common: they trigger an arousal response inside our bodies, laced with erotic flavor. But how do you actualize your fantasy with a partner who’s wary of it? Even turned off by it? On today’s show, I’m taking your calls on this exact predicament. First up: when your partner wants you to drastically change your appearance for their pleasure, should you do it? Or when your partner wants to watch you with a third, how do you find that person? Next, if you’re not naturally dominant in bed, but your partner’s begging for it, how do you step into your power? I also get into urine fetishes (yep, like golden showers), how to introduce them to an otherwise vanilla sex life, and how to explore same-sex adventures in a hetero marriage.    

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You shouldn't have to be an Olympic gymnast to have sex. But let’s be honest – certain positions can be hard! So inspired by the Positions chapter in my new book Smart Sex, I’m bringing back this Best Of episode. You’ll hear quick tips to make ambitious moves easier and classic moves more exciting. First, I share the most-searched sex positions in the country: can you guess America’s favorite sex move? Next, we look at the much-hyped reverse cowgirl. I give suggestions to make it feel as good and sexy as it looks. As for oral: I talk you through the Kivin Method, which stimulates vulva owners' K-points, and how to make 69 more relaxing. Finally, don’t go to the emergency room from shower sex – just listen to my tips to keep it steamy AND stable.

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