Sex With Emily

After a year of social distancing, many of us have forgotten how to flirt and date IRL. The good news: with a little practice, you’ll be stronger and sexier than ever before. In this episode, I cover the lessons we’ve learned from a year of isolation and digital dating and I also take a look at what might be in store for us in the year ahead. I walk you through how to regain confidence, uplevel your flirting skills, and important questions to ask yourself before jumping back out there.

I also answer questions about what to know when considering a “friend with benefits” arrangement, how to prepare for sex after a dry spell, getting back with an ex, and dating post-divorce.

Show Notes:

• Love Language quiz

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What if the euphoric bliss from an orgasm was captured in other moments of your daily life? Whether you’re eating a meal or spending time outside, prioritizing sensuality helps you start to experience what today’s guests like to call “orgasmic living.” I’m joined by the creators of Afrosexology, Dalychia Saah and Rafaella Fiallo who join me to discuss the power of this life-changing concept. Their mission is to empower, educate and explore Black sexuality and self-improvement through sexual liberation.

We discuss their journey into creating Afrosexology, the importance of embodiment, the power of centering pleasure and being intentional in the present moment. We also demystify different aspects of kink, polyamory, and compersion, so that you can see if any of these are things you’d want to add to your sex life. Plus, we answer your questions about prioritizing your pleasure as much as your partner’s and feeling more connected during and after sexual experiences.

For more information about Dalychia Saah & Rafaella Fiallo , visit: afrosexology.com

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I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a million times: there should be a bottle of lube (or more) on every nightstand. I mean, seriously just a few drops can transform your sex and amplify the amount of pleasure. But, it can be difficult to know what kind of lube is best suited for you and your needs.

On today’s show, I break down the best lubes for masturbation, anal, penetrative, and oral sex. I share the results of our Better Sex Survey sponsored by Pjur Lube. I cover products that are safe for a vagina’s PH and some household items that are better kept in the kitchen than inside of you. I also discuss what your wetness really means, the transformation lube can have with discomfort during sex, how sex increases intimacy between you and your partner, and how penis size can change with an erection.

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Ahh, the honeymoon phase. You know that euphoric period of time at the beginning of a relationship where your partner seems perfect and you can’t keep your hands off one another? Fast forward a few months (or sometimes years) and that initial spark begins to fade and those feel-good chemicals start to wear off. What then? Today, I share why the honeymoon phase is so intoxicating, why our feelings change over time, and how to strengthen your relationship so that it survives the initial fading of happy hormones.

I answer your questions about what to do when your partner asks you to be in a threesome but it’s not your fantasy, how to communicate to your partner that their Instagram habits make you uncomfortable, and what to do when you feel like you have become more friends than lovers with your significant other.

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Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship.

We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark’ may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you’re not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships.

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Sex can get stale but today I focus on ways to keep it fresh. In this Best Of episode, I share some sex hacks that bring back spontaneity in easy and creative ways. I share new uses for pillows, ideas for games you can play anywhere, and tricks to make doggy-style even better.

I answer your questions about how to know if you should end a long-distance relationship, why prostate orgasms feel so good, and what to do if your partner’s porn habits lead to problems in the bedroom.

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What’s your biggest fantasy? It might be watching your partner with someone else, group sex, or sex in a public place. All answers are welcome because there’s no shame in your fantasy game! In this episode, I discuss the psychology behind your fantasies, how to bring them up with a partner and why having a rich fantasy life is an important part of your overall sexual health. Then I reveal the top fantasies you shared with me on Instagram.

I also answer your questions including, what to do if you fantasize about a best friend, how to be a third in a threesome, and explore latex, panty, and foot fetishes.

Show Notes:

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How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Quarantine has caused many of us to experience a “starvation diet” of physical touch and now it’s to feast. The lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety or depression, on today’s show I’ll share how you can find more touch and intimacy in your daily life.

I also answer questions about how to get back out there and date while newly sober, how to bring the excitement back in a sexless relationship, and how to introduce new techniques (and toys) into the bedroom.

Show Notes:

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What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his new book Your Brain is Always Listening.

We answer a question from a habitual cheater on how to break the cycle and discuss how Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can get in the way of your orgasm. I also answer your Rapid Fire questions covering everything from tips for hotter shower sex to bring up your kink to a partner.

Show notes:

Find out which dragons you have here: KnowYourDragons.com

Order Dr. Amen’s latest book Your Brain Is Always Listening here: YourBrainIsAlwaysListening.com

For more information about Dr. Daniel Amen, visit: danielamenmd.com

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Your masturbation class is in session. In today’s episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure.

I answer your questions about how to try masturbation when you never have, which sex toys to use, and the magic of mutual masturbation. I get into the tricky relationship between shame and fantasy and discuss how often you should masturbate in a relationship—it’s probably more than you think!

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