Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective

March 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Threesome tempations
• Aversion to receiving manual and oral sex
• Penis size
• Falling asleep during sexy time

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Melt - Couples Massage Course (course)
• Intimacy Ignited (book)
• Spice Jar game (printable)
• Our Sexploration List (printable)
• Your definition of gross changes when you're aroused (post)
• How does breast or penis size affect sex? (post)

Lately our Art of Edging ebook has been very popular as it's new. If you want to learn how to extend your sex sessions, along with connection and pleasure, check it out.

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Do women control men, beauty vs lusting, playlist for sex, and are men polygamous by nature?. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

Today we're tackling another group of questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.

We have another Couple's Night on June 8th. It's usually the first Thursday of the month, but we had a conflict this month. You get free access if you are a $5/month supporter. They're not recorded, so you have to show up or miss out. Last month we had a lot of fun with about a dozen couples attending.

And lastly, we just released our guide to edging. One of the wives in our Becoming More Sexually Engaged course asked for ideas to help slow down orgasms because she was having them too quickly and then was too sensitive to continue. I offered to write a how-to on extending the sessions and pushing off orgasm. This request resulted in our new ebook - The Art of Edging: Enhancing Connection and Pleasure in your Marriage Bed. If you're interested in extending your sexual play times, then it might be worth checking out.

And now, on to the questions.

Hi, You must be aware of the recent articles discussing how many people are trapped in sexless (dry) marriages nowadays. Often after the honeymoon period, the woman starts regulating and reducing the frequency of sex. Sometimes after children, this occurs. Often it leads to such low or no frequency. This is withholding of affection that involuntarily turns the other spouse into a celibate roommate. This used to be a long-time legal reason for divorce. No normal heterosexual man gets married to not have sex. Many women, however, do get married with the idea of eventually not having sex with their husbands. Or use sex as prostitution, quid pro quo, to get something from the husband. It's a sad state of affairs, really. For those men trapped in a sexless marriage, they didn't expect or want, who also may want to stay married because of their promise to God, where does masturbation fit in for these men? It's very easy for women to lose interest in sex, the one major thing that makes a husband-wife relationship different from two people simply being roommates. Men have 25-50 times the testosterone of women; there is no comparison between a woman's low level of self-control needed versus a man's.

January 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Phone sex
• Oral sex to completion
• Forgiveness and trust after betrayal
• Are pictures and videos a problem?
• Increasing female libido naturally
• What is our duty?
• Toxic wife
• Abusive employer

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Our Sexploration List (printable)
• Oral sex survey results (post)
• Do Christians make sex tapes - survey results (post)
• Why masturbation is a problem, whether you're married or single (post)
• Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course)
• Where did my sex drive go? (ebook)

Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5.

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If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Thank you to all our faithful champions!

If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

December 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Does my wife know what I'm doing to her?
• I want to share orgasms with my husband
• What are your thoughts on BDSM?
• Is bondage a problem for me?
• Wife doesn't like direct clitoral stimulation
• How do I hold my wife accountable?

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Your definition of gross changes when you're aroused (post)
• Episode 95 - Question 1 - Coming clean about faking orgasms (post/podcast)
• Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course)
• Making it easier to orgasm - guide for Christian wives (ebook)
• Introduction to Talking Dirty (ebook)
• Our Sexploration List (printable)
• My wife wants me to tie her up!? (post)
• Honour bondage (post)
• Beginner bondage questions (post)
• Bondage resources - Question 6 (post/podcast)
• Are dominance/submission games okay in the bedroom? (post)
• Why does my spouse always push for more during sex? (post/podcast)
• She Comes First - Book

Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5.

Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Thank you to all our faithful champions!

If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

SWM 101 - Why does my spouse always push for more during sex? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

Today I'm answer this question I received in my inbox: Jay, I enjoyed the book (Introduction to Talking Dirty) that my hubby put on my iPad. The thing is, no matter what I do in my comfort zone, it isn't enough. I do many, I mean many, of the examples you use, even the F WORD. How do I get him to be grateful for what I do instead of needing more? I always feel inadequate.

Anyways thanks for helping many couples enjoy their intimacy more!

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If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Thank you to all our faithful supporters!

If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

My daughter's speech - The crisis of my generation - transgenderism. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

This is episode 100, and I wanted to do something a little different for our one-hundredth episode, and I was struggling to figure out what that should be. Then an opportunity presented itself. You see, my children are in 4H, and if you don’t know what 4H is, many people describe it as “scouts for farm kids.”

That’s not quite accurate, as we have some kids from the city in our club as well, but a lot of the projects tend to involve farm animals of some sort, and so farm kids naturally gravitate towards those. But we also do things like archery. In general, you can choose what you want to be involved in. However, there is one project that all 4H members must complete each year - writing and delivering a speech.

You have to deliver your speech in front of your club - about 40 kids and their parents, and often grandparents. If you place 1st or second in your age category, you go on to deliver your speech at the district level and do it again in front of twice as many people. If you win there, you go on again to the next level.

It’s a fun day, and the members, that is, the children, teens and young adults, often spend weeks or months preparing for it, writing, editing, practicing, and sometimes memorizing their speeches. Some are secretive about it, not wanting to give any hints to anyone about what they feel is a winning speech. Others will often recite it to anyone who happens to be within earshot at any given time. Our club is competitive regarding speeches but in a friendly way. There is lots of laughing and joking and encouragement and praise from the other kids when it’s done.

Today I want to share with your my eldest daughter’s speech. Because this is our first year in 4H, this is the first speech she’s ever written at 16 years old, and she delivered it at our local club against many others who had been doing speeches annually for years.

The external judges our club brought to officiate decided to kill her chances of winning because of the topic. They placed her 4th out of 4, and everyone in the club was shocked and confused, including the 2nd and 3rd place winners who stepped down so that my daughter could go on to districts in their place.

November 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Spouse falls asleep during romantic getaway
• Husband wants her to wear revealing clothes
• Public sex
• Are we responsible for our dreams?
• How to encourage your spouse to be healthier

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course)
• 37 Questions for spouses to ask each other about sex

Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5.

Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Thank you to all our faithful champions!

If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

October 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Where does the energy come from?
• Mutual masturbation
• Sharing fantasies and machines
• Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming
• Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz
• Why do married men masturbate?
• How do you meet other people?
• Can I use sex to encourage my husband to lose weight?

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course)
• Upcoming webinar (Jan 21, 2023) about our BMSE Course
• Mutual masturbation (post)
• Mutual masturbation (survey results)
• SWM 093 - Question 3 - Should you share fantasies with your spouse?
• Spontaneous / responsive desire quiz (beta)
• Why do married men masturbate?
• Can Christians have threesomes?
• Can Christian couples swing?
• Sexy coupons (printable)
• Our Sexploration List (printable)

Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5.

Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Thank you to all our faithful champions!

If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

September 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Where are you?
• How to hide bruises
• What role do I have in God changing my heart?
• Mother of 3 young kids isn't as interested in sex as husband
• How to recover from faking orgasms?
• Husband wants to be pursued
• Where do you get your garbage theology?

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course)
• Upcoming webinar (Jan 21, 2023) about our BMSE Course
• CovenantEyes - Porn and more blocker (software)
• Where did my sex drive go? (ebook)
• Marriage coaching
• SWM 030 - Question #1 about credentials

Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5.

Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Thank you to all our faithful champions!

If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

Why men being submissive is problematic. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

A reader posed the following question:

Hi. I wanted to know if there is any reason that the man can't be the submissive part sometimes during sex. Because I feel like I want to be submissive from time to time, but I don't want to ask my wife because it's an awkward topic.

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Anonymous have a question page
• What does our physiology say about who should lead?
• According to the Bible, which gender should lead?
• TheLionWithin.us - Leadership for Christian men
• Intimacy Advent Calendar

Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Thank you to all our faithful supporters!

If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.